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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 11:38 AM   1
GreyGirl
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Enjoying being a Mum more now?


Anyone else found this once they stopped BF? I REALLY wanted to, and it's a long story as to why I'm no longer BF. Basically my baby has had TT cut twice, has LT and I have PCOS and very low supply. The first 7 weeks of her life has been marred a little for me by trying everything to get BF to work. We didn't bond as well/quickly as I wanted because of it and I'll always feel guilty for that, and because BF didn't work out.
We've been exclusively FF for around a week now and I'm enjoying being a Mum more now the pressure is off and I'm focusing on being a Mum now instead of trying to flog the dead horse that was BF for us (I NEVER managed to express over 1oz!)
I'm bonding better with Isabelle and although I don't like the time constraints of FF and the fact I can't just whip out a boob to feed or comfort her, we're working out our own methods and routines and it's working well. We're more relaxed as a family and although I'll probably always have some grief over my failed BF relationship, I know we've tried our best and moving forward we're doing the best for our baby. She is gaining weight well and is a happy little baby
Just wondering if anyone else has found the same?



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 11:51 AM   2
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I did. I broke my arm and was unable to breast feed dd so it was really important to me that I managed to feed ds, but we tried and tried and just didn't manage it. Once I made the decision to ff I felt a lot calmer and more in control. Breast feeding isn't for everyone and ff is just as good. Glad you feel better :-) enjoy your baby xxx



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 15:01 PM   3
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I got bad depression with bf'ing dd. I had a lot of guilt lingering over not spending time with my son. She was always clustering. I was readmitted to the hospital when she was four days old so there I had to leave my son yet again...

I was a different mom when I ff.



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 16:07 PM   4
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Honestly? Yes. I was exclusively pumping and it was horrible. I feel a freedom now that can't be explained. I am so glad my daughter got breastmilk for the first 6 months of her life, but I am not sure I would do that all again. Getting up to pump in the middle of the night when your baby is sleeping has to be the most lonely thing in the entire world.

I also suffered from PND and insomnia. Now that I'm not longer breastfeeding I can take some pretty serious medication and I feel so, so much better.

I'm really glad formula is an option.



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 17:44 PM   5
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I started to feel a little happier once we stopped too.For me there was tremendous guilt because there was actually not a problem with actual BF...no latch issue, or supply issue or what not. It was my LO's intolerances and allergy/reflux that made it so hard on us. All she did was nurse, scream and vomit. She never slept more than 45 minutes at a time in her first 2 months.

I was incredibly guilty for months but it's starting to lift now



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2013, 21:09 PM   6
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I'm sad bf didn't work due to my breast issues,but ff has made things easier in regards to having time for my two older kids. I can let my mom or dh hold LO and be able to feed him so I can tend to the other kids. I also don't feel as tied down and stuck in my room all day bf LO while my other two are running around the house and getting into things.



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Old Feb 7th, 2013, 13:37 PM   7
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Yeah I definitely feel happier, I bf for 7 weeks and I found it really easy from day 1, no sore nipples, no trouble what so ever latching but I was constantly worrying when we went out about having to feed in public. I used to sit there rocking the pram so there was less chance of him waking. I wouldn't be out the house for longer than 3 hours, I used to go a bf group and I would always give him a massive feed before going there so I didn't need to do it there which is wrong as I should be able to do it there. As soon as I stopped I am so much happier and can enjoy being a mum!



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2013, 17:24 PM   8
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Much happier now. While I wanted nothing more then to BF, there was no point making myself so unhappy pursuing it. I was in constant pain, frustrated with LO when he wouldn't stay on after spending ten minutes just to get him to latch properly, then up expressing at all hours and missing out on time with him. Now that we're full time FF, I can get more sleep and OH is able to help out. Plus LO got the most important part, colostrum and eleven days worth of breast milk, so I can honestly say I tried my best.



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2013, 18:14 PM   9
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Thanks ladies, so glad it's not just me that felt like this



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2013, 06:52 AM   10
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I am so happy to read this thread. At the moment I am exclusive pumping but it is slowly beginning getting me down and I am not spending as much time with my DD as I would like. After I feed her I find myself rushing to get her to take a nap so I can express. It shouldn't be like this, I should be enjoying these precious moments as they don't last long enough. I am seriously contemplating moving over to FF but worried about the guilt that I will feel.



 
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