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Old Feb 4th, 2012, 02:53 AM   361
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The problem is that society has moved towards this idea where "natural = good" and "artificial = bad". For example, a lot of people perceive that herbal remedies are "better" than nasty drugs made by "Big Pharma", when in fact some herbal "medicines" are inneffective, others are downright harmful.

So when people refer to formula as "artificial", there is a very strong implication that this means it is "bad".

It's all very well saying that something is "just a word" or "just a fact", but when people are telling you "This word makes me feel even worse", to try and deny the impact is just belittling them all over again.
No belittling was intended.



 
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Old Feb 4th, 2012, 10:42 AM   362
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okay, ladies, I would suggest not reading the book, "Nighttime Parenting" by Dr. Sears. I liked the book until half-way through it starts talking about night time feeding.

It was a dozen pages of basically, "Breastfeeding is best... breastfeeding is a wonderful bond... so easy to feed a breastfed baby... breastfed baby falls back to sleep easily and is more content... breastfeeding... breastfeeding... breastfeeding... keep up the good work if you're breastfeeding... oh, and by the way, those of you who are ARTIFICIALLY FEEDING your baby, watch out for tooth rot b/c the baby's not making as much saliva at night when you're giving it a bottle so it can't rinse out the sugar."

Yeah - he called FF artificial. ugh. i told my friend about it on the phone, and she was like, that makes it sound like you're feeding him through a tube or something!

i'm really tired of all the baby books droning on and on about BF with little tiny caveats about FF'ers thrown in as afterthoughts. Every book I've checked out is like that, and it doesn't matter if it is an attachment parenting style book or an anti-attachment parenting - they all assume everyone can breastfeed and is going to be able to. ugh.
fides, I have grown to despise Dr. Sears.

And you are absolutely right. You can't pick up a baby magazine without being "bombarded" boobs-a-blazing about breastfeeding. Give it a rest already and let the rest of us feed and love our babies in peace.

I also protest the use of the word "artificial". It's offensive. And since we are formula feeding moms, we will decide what's offensive or not.



 
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Old Feb 4th, 2012, 11:06 AM   363
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A very funny blog post about Dr. Sears, written tongue-in-cheek style.


http://www.mommywantsvodka.com/dr-se...ffy-white-butt



 
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Old Feb 4th, 2012, 11:24 AM   364
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I can't stand Dr. Sears either, his "mechanical parenting" rant annoys me as well. Sorry that my arms can't put my baby to sleep but the swing can.



 
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I had my daughters by section; 1 was emergency and saved our lives, the 2nd was elective for medical reasons. One cheeky bugger, on hearing this tried to 'console' me by saying "but at least you are breast feeding"
WTF??? It doesn't matter how you give birth, how you feed, what you do with your placenta or where your baby sleeps etc. The only thing that matters is that you and your baby are safe and well. Although I did BF the one thing I despised are militant mums who harp on about BF - we all get advice and make a choice. Militant mums only serve to make BF less attractive and make those mums who struggle with BF guilty.

I am very glad I didn't use BNB when I had my daughter as I think all the mixed opinions would have made my head spin :-)



 
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The internet is an odd place indeed. Everyone's an expert.



 
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I had my daughters by section; 1 was emergency and saved our lives, the 2nd was elective for medical reasons. One cheeky bugger, on hearing this tried to 'console' me by saying "but at least you are breast feeding"
WTF??? It doesn't matter how you give birth, how you feed, what you do with your placenta or where your baby sleeps etc. The only thing that matters is that you and your baby are safe and well. Although I did BF the one thing I despised are militant mums who harp on about BF - we all get advice and make a choice. Militant mums only serve to make BF less attractive and make those mums who struggle with BF guilty.

I am very glad I didn't use BNB when I had my daughter as I think all the mixed opinions would have made my head spin :-)
Annie77, I agree with every single word you have said!!! Thank you, I couldn't have put it better myself xx



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I was at Xander's water babies class today, and I was feeding him in the changing room after. I was talking to one of the other mums in the class and she was telling me how her baby hadn't grown properly being bf and she'd had to stop. She went into a big rant about how no one ever tells you about the struggles of bfing and what to do when things to wrong etc. then I realised, she was acting like she had to justify ff to me. It was the first time Ive come across bf guilt in real life and I felt like I'd ruined that woman's day just by feeding my little man. I don't really know any mums who've tried bfing in real life and it really opened my eyes.



 
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I'm sorry for both of you ladies at the water babies class. Here both of you are, doing what's best for your families and one feels guilty and one feels bad for making another feel guilty!

That's how highly charged this whole thing can be!

I have to say that I when I see a breastfeeding mom, I instantly assign a whole range of personality traits to her and I realize that is unfair. The internet distorts our perception because some of the most "militant" people are often the ones who take the time to get online.

I had to give my baby a bottle at my son's basketball practice this morning. It was a
Saturday, and I was actually the only mom there as the other kids were brought by their dads. (my husband works Saturdays). I was very relieved there were no other moms there to see me with the bottle. BUT , for all I know one of the men could have been so militant he ran straight home to "tattle on me."



 
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Dr Sears sounds like a joy. I am eternally grateful that I have never had the urge to read any of his blurb.



 
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