breastfeeding support worker makes me feel like crap
i had my first baby a year ago and i had very traumatic forceps delivery i was weak my son was in pain and i didnt have any breastmilk (i guess it runs in my family)i wanted to breastfeed but i didnt have any!my boy was screaming his little head off for two days while we were in hospital i asked MW for formula for him and they said NO!like i have little baby who is starving screaming and causing me stress and they all see that and nothing.i discharged myself and DS from the hospital on the way bk home we stopped in store i got formula at home gave to him and he was fine!
i have had my c-section past monday and i welcomed my second baby beautiful girl Sophie!when they transfer me to the ward bf supports workers walking from bed to bed and giving advices and encourage to BF.fine this is their job but i told her my feeling on this subject and what i went through before and i know i wont be able to BF and even if it not fit to my lifestyle and im sticking to formula!my son was on formula and he is healthy happy boy and even if i BF my DD i will feel like im treating her different than my son! she really makes me feel like shit! she went somewhere and my family came to see us she stormed back in to my cubicle started asking my OH and family to leave shutting courtains in front of my OH's face!!!!!!!!because she need to go through breastfeeding councelling!!!!!!than i went mad and i said that is very rude what she is doing and how she speaking to my family that she could wait until they leave and im going to be reporting that to PALS and MAtron!and she went bonkers started screaming that what kind of mother I am that people like me shouldnt have babies ect.3 other ladies were in my room and one of them was FF too and she stood up for me.
what kind of right she has to do that!!!!!!!!!
sorry i needed to rant!!!!!!
How humiliating and embarrassing -- growl! I would definitely report her! In my case, I can't breastfeed as I take medication, but didn't want to anyway -- nobody has harrassed me and if they did, I would tell them to 'eff off -- it makes me so mad when so-called health professionals believe that their agenda is the ONLY way to do things....
hope you feel better! (and congrats on your little one!)
Wow the way she treated you was disgusting - definitely report her and hopefully the hosp will do something about it and stop her speaking to other new mums like that. She sounds like a nasty piece of work! I'm not surprised you discharged yourself, I would have done the same. I had to switch to formula for same reason as you but wasn't fussed about bfing anyway. x
As said, definitely report her! She sounds HORRID! We went home a few hours after i had my son. I was planning on breastfeeding, he took the first feed fine, at home, he wouldnt take it, he would latch on, literally suck for a couple seconds, come off and cry, the next day we went back for him to be checked by the doctor and told them about him not feeding, they topped him up with formula as had so little. I was there for 2 days trying my hardest to breast feed, the MW's were brilliant in helping, bt in the end it got me that stressed i said i wanted to switch to FF, they said it was the right decision.
I believe whichever way you choose to feed baby they should be supportive no matter what. She had no right to speak to you like that. Im mad for you!
How disgusting! You should definitely report her. The baby is yours and YOU decide what's best for your baby based on your circumstances...how dare she treat you in such a way. I will not be breastfeeding due to having to be on medication for chronic pain and I will not be putting up with any nonsense about it either...I need to be pain free to be a good mother to my daughter! I'm sorry you were treated that way.
I'd definitely complain, in my experience there are some appallingly bad BF support workers working in NHS hospitals and if they are being rude to you for FF rest assured they are probably being just as horrid to the BF mums and giving them misinformation on BF too. With my eldest I begged to speak to the lactation consultant and she said she was too busy, so I saw her milling about and tried to speak to her as I was being discharged, she was extremely rude to me and basically said she had mums far more in need of her help (I could not get my son to latch at all properly) and as I was young I should not bother anyway, consequently my son had a severe tongue tie that went unnoticed and he ended up losing 14% of his birthweight and being very poorly. I always wish I would have complained and you should too
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