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Old Apr 28th, 2017, 14:33 PM   1
Poppymist_BC
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Sibling and DH disappointment of gender HELP PLEASE


I am so happy and blessed to be pregnant after going through cervical cancer last year and being told conceiving would be near impossible however I have 4 gorgeous lil boys from my previous relationship and my DH has 2 boys from a previous relationship I am so happy to have a sticky bean regardless of gender but all 6 boys and DH have aired their complete excitement in wanting a girl and I now feel that they will all be super disappointed if I am carrying another boy. The pressure I feel is upsetting me as I don't want any of them to be disappointed. I just wanted to share with ladies who may have the same kind of situation just to maybe help me see this in a different light OR how to soften the blow after my gender scan in a few weeks time in case my gorgeous lil bean is a boy.



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Old Apr 29th, 2017, 03:38 AM   2
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Aw Hun I'm not in this situation and never have been so I'm not sure I can help much. Maybe try and get them excited about it being a boy by looking at baby boy clothes and getting them to help choose a possible boys name? Talk about the things they can all do together as boys, who he'd share a room with etc maybe? Don't know if that will help.
And also have an honest discussion with your OH about how you are feeling.



 
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Old Apr 29th, 2017, 04:33 AM   3
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Yea they are good suggestions I'll try with all the boys. I have spoken to my DH and he said he will love a lil boy just as much just he knows this is possibly the last chance for him to be able to have the daughter his longed for again him saying that I know his just being honest but I find myself talking to my beautiful yellow bump asking for some kind of sign so I'm ready and know before the gender reveal in a few weeks...... cause I know his gonna be disappointed and he will try and hide it but I know him to well to know he will be hiding his true feelings. I just want a happy healthy bouncing baby regardless of gender after what I've been through this baby is my lil miracle BUT it feels like I'm the only one thinking like that.



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Old Apr 29th, 2017, 10:34 AM   4
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Don't worry everyone will think that too, but at the moment you are the only one with that bond with the baby. For your OH and your kids to them it's not as real as it is for you as you are carrying that little bundle of joy. So for you it's upsetting to think that everyone else will be disappointed when you are so excited, for everyone else it's just not as real yet that's all.
I had a chat with my husband about him not seeming as extcited and he admitted that to him it's not real yet because there's no bump yet, no kicking to be felt etc. So now I know he just can't get that bond yet quite like I can but I know he will get there, and so will your OH regardless of gender.



 
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