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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 04:57 AM   1
Raven24
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husband saying no to vasectomy


Anyone elses husband or partner reluctant to have a vasectomy? Hubby has said he doesnt want anymore and i am ok with this mostly but everytime i bring up him getting a vasectomy he says no and changes the subject. I understand he may be scared but we dont use any contraception we just use pull out method (which weve allways used with no problems) but the chance of me getting pregnant is obviously there and he knows this. Its tearing me apart now because every month i feel like what if im pregnant and its becomming upsetting but he is adamant about having no more kids. Help



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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 05:10 AM   2
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Can you not take the pill to make sure you dont get pregnant?



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 05:12 AM   3
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In the end its his body so he makes the final choice. Is there an option of you taking birth control?



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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 05:19 AM   4
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Ive tried alot of pills and they do not agree with me unfortunatly. We have condoms he just never uses them. I wouldnt force him to have it done



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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 05:22 AM   5
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His body his choice unfortunately



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 05:42 AM   6
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Were not finished having kids yet but I know my hubby won't even consider the idea which is fine its his body, ill probably just think about having my tubes tied once were 100% sure were not having anymore kids



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 05:46 AM   7
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I think my worry is that im sure if he is saying no because he is scared or because he realu would like another child but is too scared to say or something.



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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 06:04 AM   8
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Ask him! To be fair to him tho, I'd be terrified to have a vasectomy if I had a winkie!



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 06:04 AM   9
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A mans pride and joy is his genitalia. He's probably thinking of all the negatives, like what of they slip and cut the wrong thing, what if he can't get an erection anymore, what if you both change your in a few years? Just because it's what you want now, doesn't mean it will be in years to come and although you may say you won't change your mind, there is no way to tell.

Why not use another form of birth control that isn't hormonal? Many women swear by the coil.

If you are adamant that one of you has to be steralised and he won't why not you? If you don't want it done, think of the reasons why, that's probably the same for your fella.



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2013, 08:49 AM   10
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Iv been having the same conversation with hubby except he wants me to get the op.

After this one he has said that he doesnt want any more children and for me to get my tubes tide, iv told him no way in hell am I having the op because im not the one who has said no more, if he doesnt want anymore fine but he can get the op as its his choice.
Why should I get a op that I dont want for a deccision that isnt mine.



 
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