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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 04:31 AM   41
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Im incredibly lucky .. im a stay at home mum and have been since my first was born,
My OH works very hard to fully support us financially (pay mortgage, bills, food etc)

I never wanted to return to work once my first LO was born so im lucky that ive been able to afford to do what i wanted too



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 05:19 AM   42
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I'm back at work part time, 2 days a week, 18hours p/w. I can't really complain with the hours I work, and I don't think I'd want to be a SAHM, OH can't support us on his salary alone because our outgoings are so high.
I'd miss the social aspect of work aswell, it keeps me feeling human.

If in a few years down the line, and I have a couple more kids, and we can afford it, I may consider quitting work.



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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 05:43 AM   43
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I didn't ask you to defend your choice. I also said I'd rather be a SAHM if you read my post just before yours. I was annoyed that you seem to consider a mortgage as a material thing. One can hardly give up a home in order to be with a baby. It's not as if a mortgage is necessarily more expensive than renting nor should one give up one's home to life off housing benefit, should that be an option, in order to stay at home. Your post rather implies that people could give everything up and be able to afford to stay at home but this is not the case. We don't go to work to pay for play stations or whatever, we work to put a roof over our heads and food on the table.
You made a number of assumptions about my post that simply weren't there. Many mortgages do cost considerably more -here- than renting a house, and it was to those which I was referring, and none of my post was directed at anyone else and their choices. If you had asked instead of assuming, I could have easily cleared up the matter then.

The debate about being an at-home mom versus a working mom is something which ranks right up there with politics and religion in the world of parenting, from my observation. Some people get really worked up over why other people choose what they do. Other people tiptoe around their opinion in an effort not to offend.

I have written several other posts on this matter and often followed up with some comment like ''I'm really grateful I'm able to be an at-home mom because I know some people can't do that'' or other related comments. But I don't feel that I have to qualify my opinion with those disclaimers each and every time, if at all, and I chose not to this time.



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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 06:01 AM   44
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Moving on.... regarding full-time work versus part-time work as the OP brought up, I'm taking advantage of the time my son is in school this year to get more of my artwork completed and hopefully hold another solo exhibition in a few months time (just had my first one a few months ago). It will likely be put on hold after baby is born in spring, but eventually, once this bebe has grown a bit and is in school, I plan to pursue selling my paintings online as well as in local galleries, fingers crossed!



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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 06:08 AM   45
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While I've been on maternity leave I've been volunteering. I'm like those of you who want a different sort of challenge in addition to that of parenting but it'd be great to be able to choose the direction my stimulation comes from through volunteering rather than just my own line of work. It'd be so ace to be at home for a few years and get really stuck in with causes I feel strongly about then return to work with an armful of new experiences when the kids go back to school.
That's how I feel. Hence I would give up work, and do my Army work part time. I feel like I need something else in my life, and I feel I can do that without leaving my LO wanting.



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 07:05 AM   46
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I'm going to be a SAHM. I've very excited about it (She needs to come OUTTTT!!!!!!)

The main reason is, child care is SO expensive here. By the time we would have paid for full time child care and petrol to take her each day, it would have been more than I was actually making a week! What's the point? I might as well stay at home with her.

I will miss working, I mean I've worked every day of my life since I was 15, I need it to get out the house and stuff as I get bored easily, but I'm sure lil miss is going to keep me on my toes WHEN SHE DECIDES TO ARRIVE!! (Not impatient or anything!)

Ok, please start chanting and sending me labour vibes, kthnx



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 07:19 AM   47
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I would love to work one or two days a week doing a job I enjoy and which is challenging. I have no idea how to go about this.... My maternity leave ends in February and we can't afford for me to stay at home all the time, but I can't bear the thought of going to work full time again and not being with Freya. (Plus I find it hard enough keeping the house clean and tidy and all jobs done when I am at home, how do people manage full time work, a baby and a house?! ) In my opinion well done for those that can and do.

I have had so many 'ideas' of stuff I can do to avoid going to back to my old job (carer at a res. home) and none of them seem practical, lol. I have a degree and would like to be a teacher in a few years, it's how to fill the gap...



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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 07:20 AM   48
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You made a number of assumptions about my post that simply weren't there. Many mortgages do cost considerably more -here- than renting a house, and it was to those which I was referring, and none of my post was directed at anyone else and their choices. If you had asked instead of assuming, I could have easily cleared up the matter then.

The debate about being an at-home mom versus a working mom is something which ranks right up there with politics and religion in the world of parenting, from my observation. Some people get really worked up over why other people choose what they do. Other people tiptoe around their opinion in an effort not to offend.

I have written several other posts on this matter and often followed up with some comment like ''I'm really grateful I'm able to be an at-home mom because I know some people can't do that'' or other related comments. But I don't feel that I have to qualify my opinion with those disclaimers each and every time, if at all, and I chose not to this time.
Look I never said you were directing your post at anyone. I never said you had to explain your decisions. I don't care one jot what decision you have made or why nor about anyone else's really, other than in the spirit of joining in this interesting thread and having a nice chat about it. Again, what bothered me was the implication that having a mortgage was something of a luxury that could be done away with along with other material things in order to be able to afford to stay home. If you intended to quantify your first post by saying huge fancy houses then fine but you didn't say that in your original post and that's what got my back up.



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 07:36 AM   49
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At the moment, I feel that ideally I would like to work part time, to have the best of both worlds of time with my LO and time at my job, which I really enjoy and find really rewarding for the people I see as well as me (i don't mean to sound like i'm something special or anything, but i love that i can help make a difference to other people's lives as well and i've trained hard for it, so i would hate to give it up entirely)
However as this is my first I don't know whether I will feel the same way after they arrive!
unfortunately i have to go back full time for 2 years but after that it's my intention to work part time
everyone has different feelings and circumstances about all of this, it would be awful if we didn't have the choices that we do now



 
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Old Sep 21st, 2009, 07:46 AM   50
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Idealy id be a SAHM untill they are 2 and then get a part time job once they start play group and then go back fulltime once they start full time school.



 
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