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View Poll Results: How should it ideally be divided?
Men should always pay 1 2.70%
Men should pay the majority of the time 4 10.81%
It should be equally 50/50 (whether its turn taking, or splitting bill in half) 32 86.49%
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Old Oct 6th, 2015, 11:38 AM   11
Eleanor ace
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I think your friends are reaching there. If women (or men) choose to spend money on beautification that is their choice and not something I'd take into consideration when deciding on how to split dating costs. The same as I wouldn't think that if one person drove the couple to the cinema for the date they could expect to pay less because they have paid money to maintain and insure their car.
I think dating costs should be split 50/50, its fair.



 
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Old Oct 6th, 2015, 13:19 PM   12
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Personally I like to be spoilt, I'm not going to lie!! So if a guy offered to pay I wouldn't argue. However I would never expect it, and I'd always always offer to split the bill on the first few dates!!

Saying that most men I've dated have earnt less than me (not that I earn much!) so I've always paid the majority! That's probably why I want a man to be able to look after me!



 
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Old Oct 6th, 2015, 19:52 PM   13
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Definitely 50/50. My oh was a bit annoyed that I wouldn't let him pay for our first date. I let him pay for the second though, but only because I was skint and originally asked him to delay for a week until I got paid - he insisted.

We just took it in turns to pay in te early days based on who ha money.



 
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Old Oct 6th, 2015, 20:10 PM   14
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50/50 My DH and I take turns. I paid for the first date and we just try to keep it pretty even but we don't keep score. Sometimes DH likes to treat me to something special and I don't argue.



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Old Oct 7th, 2015, 00:48 AM   15
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I would always offer to pay but not make a stand of insistence if the guy wanted to be gallant.

When my OH and I started dating, he was earning about twice as much as I was and he has expensive tastes, so he would insist on paying most of the time.

He probably also spends more time and money on his appearance than I do, so I have really gotten an easy ride.



 
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Old Oct 7th, 2015, 01:54 AM   16
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I would always offer to pay 50/50 but my OH would never allow it and he would pay for me when we first started dating. If we were going out for drinks I'd insist on taking turns buying them.

It is nice being spoilt sometimes though 😊 I don't think there's anything wrong with that if your date wants to treat you as long as you don't take it for granted and just expect it.



 
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Old Oct 7th, 2015, 05:10 AM   17
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When we first started dating, and when I dated before OH always always 50/50 and I will argue down to the ground about it. Just because I am a woman why should I not pay?! Ive eaten half the food, or have watched the film too or whatever.

After a while when we got more serious I would pay a lot more often than OH as I earn over double what he earns. If its a big thing, Go Ape for example or the theatre I'll pay as he just cant afford to, but he will always buy us starbucks or the cinema or take away or soemthing.

Now we live together that stuff comes from the joint account - although I pay more in than OH.

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Old Oct 7th, 2015, 07:48 AM   18
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We should be doing those things for ourselves and not to look attractive to someone else so completely irrelevant imo
100% this!



 
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Old Oct 7th, 2015, 11:28 AM   19
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Me and OH take it in turns. As for 'making an effort' - I only wear make-up once in a blue moon. OH loves me for me, not for my make-up and perfectly coiffed hair



 
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Old Oct 7th, 2015, 12:30 PM   20
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We should be doing those things for ourselves and not to look attractive to someone else so completely irrelevant imo
100% this!
I actually don't think there's anything wrong with getting dressed up in order to look more attractive for someone else. I mean, sure, if you have to have a full face of makeup on 24/7 in order for him to be able to bear to look at you, maybe you want to rethink the match.

But I don't understand the perspective that makeup or getting dressed up "should" be only for yourself. I 100 percent wear makeup and get dressed up for other people. If I'm having a night at home on the couch, I don't feel the need to put on mascara and high heels. Myself likes me just fine with sweatpants and my hair in a bun, haha.



 
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