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Old Dec 26th, 2016, 14:36 PM   1
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Unreasonable worrier?!


So a bit of a ask story but to cut it short we missed DDs outpatient appointment on the 22nd Dec and only realised Christmas Day. We also missed the same appointment last year(it's a yearly thing) because I was in L&D having my daughter at 19 weeks pregnant so was unavoidable but we did go to the rescheduled one. I have every intention of ringing as soon as I they open to reschedule but I googled and found stories of SS being rang for missed appointments and because it's 2 years running now my mind has gone into overdrive with worst case scenarios. Here's hoping it's just hormones but does anyone else worry to ridiculous heights?!



 
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Old Dec 26th, 2016, 14:47 PM   2
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Since you went to the reschedule one last year and have every intention of rescheduling as soon as possible this year, I doubt it will be an issue.

Is there any way to have next year's appointment scheduled a week or two before or maybe a week later? Do they have a reminder system?

Last time I took DD to an outpatient clinic (besides my regular doctor) we received 3 text alerts, 3 phone calls, and two paper letters. That was a bit overkill, IMO. It was an appointment to remove her full leg cast, it's not like I was just going to not go and ignore it...but I digress. Perhaps they can put you on a list for reminders if changing the date is not an option?



 
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Old Dec 26th, 2016, 14:58 PM   3
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I got a reminder a month before hand by post. I'm usually pretty good and have them in my phone calendar with a reminder but this is a new phone . Like I said last years I was in labour so really couldn't be attended but this year my only excuse is the Christmas rush and I feel terrible Hoping they're a bit understanding . I think ill ask about text reminders as I get them for some appointments and not others.



 
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Old Dec 26th, 2016, 16:09 PM   4
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I think my main problem is a general anxiety disorder. Everytime something happens I think of the worst case scenario. Now I'm thinking my kids will be whisked off by SS for a missed appointments which I know is totally unrealistic but I can't stop the fear and it's not the first time I've worried like this over a minor thing



 
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Old Dec 26th, 2016, 17:26 PM   5
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I suffer from general anxiety. I have been seeing a psychiatrist for a few years now and I have medication. It really helps to talk to your doctor about it. Even acknowledging it, to a medical professional, really seems to help. I've gone from having to take medication daily to backing off to an as needed dosage.

It really helps me to do things to mitigate my anxiety, like if I miss or am late for an appointment, call and let them know. I feel like I've done my duty to acknowledge it and then it's okay. Many, many people miss appointments. It is not something that alone would cause you to lose custody of your children.



 
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Old Dec 26th, 2016, 17:52 PM   6
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I suffer from general anxiety. I have been seeing a psychiatrist for a few years now and I have medication. It really helps to talk to your doctor about it. Even acknowledging it, to a medical professional, really seems to help. I've gone from having to take medication daily to backing off to an as needed dosage.

It really helps me to do things to mitigate my anxiety, like if I miss or am late for an appointment, call and let them know. I feel like I've done my duty to acknowledge it and then it's okay. Many, many people miss appointments. It is not something that alone would cause you to lose custody of your children.

Thank you so much. Logically I know I wouldn't lose my children, they're very well looked after and loved very much. My mother in law is even a foster carer for our local social services and has been for 40 years so I don't know why I'm so scared of them lol. Anxiety wise though that little voice of doubt in my head says 'but what if?!' . It's so frustrating living with anxiety and my anxiety always targets my biggest fear and that's ever being without my children. I'll be ringing tomorrow to see if the appointment line is open and think I definitely need to see the doctor about anxiety. If it's not this it's health anxiety which again always involves me dying and leaving my children motherless.



 
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Old Dec 26th, 2016, 17:57 PM   7
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I suffer from general anxiety. I have been seeing a psychiatrist for a few years now and I have medication. It really helps to talk to your doctor about it. Even acknowledging it, to a medical professional, really seems to help. I've gone from having to take medication daily to backing off to an as needed dosage.

It really helps me to do things to mitigate my anxiety, like if I miss or am late for an appointment, call and let them know. I feel like I've done my duty to acknowledge it and then it's okay. Many, many people miss appointments. It is not something that alone would cause you to lose custody of your children.

Thank you so much. Logically I know I wouldn't lose my children, they're very well looked after and loved very much. My mother in law is even a foster carer for our local social services and has been for 40 years so I don't know why I'm so scared of them lol. Anxiety wise though that little voice of doubt in my head says 'but what if?!' . It's so frustrating living with anxiety and my anxiety always targets my biggest fear and that's ever being without my children. I'll be ringing tomorrow to see if the appointment line is open and think I definitely need to see the doctor about anxiety. If it's not this it's health anxiety which again always involves me dying and leaving my children motherless.
You know that is something that has been happening to me since I found out I was pregnant. I feel like I am excessively worried about what will happen to our kids if we die, and I'm so worried about it, because there is no one capable and/or willing to care for our THREE children if something happened to one of us.



 
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Old Dec 27th, 2016, 14:59 PM   8
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I wouldn't worry too much. Just ring and explain. I am sure they will be fine with it.

You posted something that struck a cord with me that was being without your children. This is what triggers my anxiety too. It's awful living with it but I dont want it to effect my girls growing up. I want them to remember a happy fun childhood and will go out my way to make sure they go to sleep every night happy and content. My neice passed away when she was 12 days old. I was 3 months pregnant and the time with DD1. I think its where all my anxiety started . Pregnant and dealing with my sisters emotions .

I take medication when it flares up for the sake of myself and my family. I get alot of support from my OH and his family.

OH once told me 99% of the irrational things you worry about never happen. Its hard when your gripped by anxiety. Please speak to your GP and don't worry about the hospital appointment. If need be ask your GP to refer her again.. Good luck xx



 
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