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Old Mar 17th, 2017, 02:46 AM   21
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Aww topsy. Good to meet you and i am sorry to hear you are unwell and your oh has broke up with you you must be feeling really down but i am sure you are a wonderful mummy and things will get better for you soon. Xx



 
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Old Mar 17th, 2017, 04:07 AM   22
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Sorry I typed and ran the other day ! I'm a satm to a 15mth Lil boy. My DH and I have just decided I'll stay at home permanently but if one more person asks me I'm going back I'll scream. It would make more sense for me to go back but it's long hours and I have been off work with I'll health for years.

I try to keep busy during the day we will walk go to the park, the shops, visit my MIL or SIL or go to baby club most days or else I find the days very long. I'm in my late 30's but unusually 2 friends are also sahm so I have some support and people to meet.



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Old Mar 17th, 2017, 09:11 AM   23
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It drives me mad when i get asked that too. I think it should be accepted that we dont all go back to work and it is ok for parents to raise children full time. I always say when you are old you will look back at these years and be glad you got these days to make memories with your little ones. It can be tiring. The days can drag. Some days fly by. But you will never have this time again. I think there is alot of pressure on families now financially and we live in times where theres too much luxury. I like the way it was in the old days. Men worked and women took care of the kids. But i also like the fact we have a choice now. It is whatever works for a family isn't it. I certainly do not judge other parents fir going back full time but sometimes when i am pushing my daughter on a sunny day through the park i do feel like theres no place id want to be right now.

I also think about the support we have. My partner works miles away and if i had a part time job and my dd was sick id have to ring in sick. My dd gets sick quite alot so id be stressed trying to cope. I sometimes feel like im the only one around me that has no grandparents etc to help



 
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Old Mar 17th, 2017, 12:41 PM   24
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Hi all. I'm a sahm too although my son is older at 5.5. He's full time now but as he has additional needs I'm still quite busy throughout the day. My husband works nights so it's usually just me at home. We don't have much family support so it would be hard for me to go back and my husband thankfully earns enough for me to stay home. I am employed I guess through dwp as a career though



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 02:37 AM   25
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Hi sequeena thanks for joining. I will probably be a sahm too when dd is at school unless i can get a three hour shift 2-3 times a week i will have to do school runs etc. do you enjoy the days when ds is at school or do you get bored. I imagine when they are at school u can get your house chores done etc. i long for a morning a week to clean lol x



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 05:03 AM   26
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Hi guys,

I hope that you are all having a good day? My FOB ( first time i have had to type that SOB) is coming with DS to see me in hospital today. Then my parents are coming this eve, always hard once DS leaves.

What everyone plans for today?

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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 05:25 AM   27
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I have zero plans for today. The girls dad came and picked them up just after 9am as he always does on a Saturday and they are staying the night! (he has only recently started keeping them all overnight, and it only happens maybe once a month) So I have a completely child free next 24hrs (or a little more, will probably be around 2pm tomorrow I will collect them) I am cooking some dinners just now and then I can relax, since my house is surprisingly clean and tidy!
Must be hard staying in hospital without your son Hope you are doing okay xx



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 07:05 AM   28
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Not much planned here either. We've got a snow storm outside so not really fancying venturing out. OH is at work all day so me and DS have just been chilling watching paw patrol while his sister naps.

topsy, I hope you enjoy your visit with your son, it must be so hard to be in hospital away from him.

Here the kids start preschool the August of the year they turn 6 so DS won't start until he is 6.5!!! So he will be at home a few more years yet. My plans are to return to work a few mornings a week when DD is 3.5 and DS is 5.5 so that DS has a year of part time daycare before he starts school! But it will only be season work from December - April and then maybe a few weeks in a September!



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 12:10 PM   29
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Hi sequeena thanks for joining. I will probably be a sahm too when dd is at school unless i can get a three hour shift 2-3 times a week i will have to do school runs etc. do you enjoy the days when ds is at school or do you get bored. I imagine when they are at school u can get your house chores done etc. i long for a morning a week to clean lol x
I try to get as much done as possible though Thomas has sleep apnea and in general doesn't sleep well so sometimes I nap I don't get bored very often I have a few hobbies too.

Today we went swimming. I keep our weekends busy because Thomas just can't sit still. Tomorrow is dance class.



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 12:21 PM   30
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Hello all! I've been at SAHM for a few years now. I have battles with my myself in my head- some days I want to go back to work for the adult company and conversations, other days I am grateful that I am always here to take the kids to, and collect from, school, watch the school plays, swimming lessons etc.
We have 6 children but only 2 at home during the day as the rest are at school.
I find I don't socialise as much as I used to, been one of those things that's happened gradually really and I need to start going back to playgroup again I think. We do see friends during the week and there's always something going on and places we need to be.



 
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