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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 03:11 AM   1
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I feel so on edge


Our garage was broken into the other night/ morning. I was stood no more than 10 feet away from him with a wall in between us without realising. Ever since, iv felt so on edge, i jump at every noise, all windows and doors are locked and checked multiple times, living room curtains havnt been opened since i put them up on saturday. I went to pick ds up from school yesterday, it took me 30 minutes to leave the house, even then, i was close to tears and felt like i would be sick. I walked down looking around me constantly and jumped when people walked past me or said hello. OH is at work tonight and wont get home till 10.30. Im already feeling sickly. Iv been waking up constantly in the night, and feel so drained. It seems to have completely taken over my head. I know im being ridiculous, but i cant help it. Despite my cbt and trying to use the techniques i learned my ocd behaviour seems to have taken over, but worse than ever before.
I feel so sick at the thought of some guy, just casually strolling into my garden, helping himself to our belongings and then strolling back out ( we saw him on a neighbours cctv). I cant help but think, If it wasnt for our lovely dog barking and waking us up, it could have been much worse, he could have taken more/ got into the house.

Please tell me to get a grip. I feel like its taking over my life, i keep trying to understand what would make someone do this, and i cant. It isnt even about the stuff, he can keep that, as much as it annoys me. One of the items stolen was realy cheap compared to others available but if was the first proper gift we got OH in years as it was all we could afford. The other bits were things i needed to take to the chairty shop. Its more about how he has made me feel in my home.

Im sorry this is so long. I just need to get this out of my head.



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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 07:56 AM   2
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how horrible. It feels really violating to have someone come into your space like that. It's not surprising that you're feeling vulnerable, but hopefully the panicky feelings will start to fade. Don't beat yourself up xx



 
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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 13:39 PM   3
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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 14:49 PM   4
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I dont think you are being ridiculous or need to get a grip at all. That is a bloody scary thing to happen and it would take most people some time to feel secure again. My OH is away on training atm and I know i check doors windows ALL THE TIME for my own peace of mind.

I wish i could give you any tips but i imagine over time your fears will ease slightly but i just wanted you to know that a certain dont think you are being overly dramatic about this. X



 
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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 14:57 PM   5
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totally agree with the above poster.

What a awful thing to happen! I am sure it will take a little time to settle down and you will feel more secure again.

What a low life to do such a thing



 
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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 16:18 PM   6
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That is so awful and I'm not surprised you feel the way you do. Hopefully time will help as it seems this happened very recently. Could you maybe put up some cameras of your own for peace of mind? It can be done quite cheaply.



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Old Apr 4th, 2017, 17:09 PM   7
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Thanks all. I feel i should add, i was in the house thw whole time. He was outside. I feel so daft because he didnt do anything to me. He didnt attack me, or come near me, or say anything to me. He was outside i was inside, surely i shouldnt feel this way. Iv seen a man on the way from school run the last two days who keeps waving at me while smiling at me yesterday he was on foot. Today he was in a van with his head hanging out. I have no irea who he was. Normally id have no problem asking if i knew him but today i freaked out and practically made poor ds run home. I feel like part of me has dissapeared. I know im being crazy, i sat with a pole and hammer beside me all evening, but i just cant help it. I keep trying to tell myself, its no different to when next door was broken into, but somehow if feels different. I dont think we could put cameras up as its a rented house, but may discuss with landlord to see what he says. Thank you all, i realy do hope you are all right and the feelings will pass in time.



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Old Apr 5th, 2017, 14:10 PM   8
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Oh that's a totally different situation if you were in the house same time as he was looking around the back garden !
That would definitely freak me out and I would be so scared to leave the blinds open at night ! .

I definitely think it's all anxiety based which you have every reason to feel this way just say to yourself we're all fine and nothing happened to us physically and maybe keep reassuring yourself ( I do this if I am anxious /worried) .

It's a big shock . Don't be too hard on yourself it must have been awful ! X



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2017, 15:15 PM   9
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Sorry to hear. Must be devastating xx



 
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Old Apr 9th, 2017, 22:48 PM   10
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I think it would be hard on anyone after they've had the sanctity and safety of their home violated. I do think what you are experiencing is totally normal though.

But I would recommend talking to the landlord as you already suggested. Even if he can't get real cameras installed, maybe he would allow you to put up a motion sensor light over the doorways and garage door or install some fake cameras to make it look like there is a security system there. Maybe you could ask the local police dept if they could do a drive by to check on your house once during the evening hours for peace of mind? And talking to a therapist might help you cope if this is triggering your OCD. As I said, this is your home, a place where you feel comfortable and SAFE and because this person decided to do this, you no longer feel safe there. Taking steps to regain that safety should help.



 
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