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Old Apr 13th, 2017, 06:46 AM   1
daneuse27
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Swimming lessons vent


I love my mom and she's very helpful to me, but I just want to vent!

My daughter takes swimming lessons once a week with kids her age, and the lessons are located close to my my mom's work and home, so she often comes to watch with me.

This is fine, but she completely overtakes the whole social scene with the other moms. She's always talking to them, and becoming a big part of any conversation that starts up. She can also be a bit opinionated about some topics and likes to be the knowledgeable one people are listening to. Yesterday a more pressing topic came up and she was so passionate in the conversation, even cut the other ladies off a few times.

Last week she was unable to make it, and I noticed how nice it was to sit and chat with the other moms, and feel like I'm making friends. When my moms there, shes the loud talkative one and I end up barely saying anything at all.

I feel like she had her time to take kids to activities and chat with other moms, and now its my turn!

I know this is petty though, and she helps me so much that I dont know if I should say anything. It would hurt her feelings a lot if I asked her to stop coming to the lessons, so it isnt worth it. Just annoying!



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2017, 13:45 PM   2
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Oh that's annoying

I have something kind of similar with my mum when she does the school runs for me. It's not that she's loud or opinionated she's just very likeable and people always chat to her, whereas I'm quiet and shuffle on. I've never been able to make "mum friends" at the school because everyone's disappointed when it's me there and not my mum



 
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Old Apr 14th, 2017, 16:44 PM   3
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My mum is a bit like this and it's very annoying. I totally blend into the back ground and don't even bother speaking. When I'm alone I feel much better.



 
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Old Apr 17th, 2017, 07:16 AM   4
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Now that is the exact same situation I learnt and fought to avoid with my MIL. She is very overbearing and talkative, and when I first had my twins, she wanted to take care of them with me, go anywhere I went with the kids, and basically take over. I really had to push her out for my own sanity. She would always talk over me, or try to talk for me if she ever helped me to go to the doctors or the nurse, or if she was walking with me with the pram and people would come up to talk, she would just talk as if I wasn't existent, and I'm quite shy and I would just stand there like an idiot. So now I just refuse to go anywhere with her with my children. My children still see my parents in law all the time, but I let my DH do it, and I limit and control it a lot. Its all better now. I know in your case its your mother, and only maybe an isolated incident, but its brought back to me the horrors I went through



 
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Old Apr 17th, 2017, 11:02 AM   5
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My mom talks over me too. At Easter dinner, I was talking to my cousins about a vegan cookbook (conversation was between me and them.)
My mom hears what we're talking about and then cuts in to rave about the cookbook and tell them all about it. "Oh my gosh, you have to see this cookbook! Its amazing,.. etc etc".
Um Im sorry this was MY conversation and Im the one who cooks from it all the time - let me talk!

Shes not malicious at all, just very eager to talk and be heard. Shes so kind, caring and helpful in many ways so I cant tell her off.



 
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