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Old Nov 30th, 2017, 03:11 AM   1
laura109
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Clothes struggle again


Last night I put a full length mirror together. I had ordered jogging bottoms from sports direct. Not usually what I wear but I am desperate to have something to wear home from hospital. Turns out it led me to feeling totally rubbish about myself. They just looked awful on me. Tight cuffs at the bottom and they seemed to just make my ass look huge and my legs look shorter than ever. Now I know it's not a fashion show but I did hope to rock them for a week or two before the birth as I need comfort. I've managed to stay in normal size 14 jeans as maternity jeans were not my friend this time. Seems like all shops provide skinny jeans and hardly any other styles now. I just can't get them on let alone look OK in them.

So last night I got upset and panicked. I just wanted to look OK not awful. I always have to think so hard because I just don't pull of any of these fashion lines anymore. Other people pull of all these high waisted skinny and crop tops. They can rock jogging bottoms with a messy bun and look good. I do have alot of issues with my self confidence. It stems from my mum making comments on my shape and being horrible about my bigger legs for years. I've avoided so many parties etc as I don't believe I can wear anything nice as my legs need to be hidden and I've completely lost myself in the process.

The most Important thing is meeting my son in a few weeks. I am so happy in that respect but I do need to find a way to dress after he is born so I can feel confident. I am debating long skirts in spring etc but not sure about a mummy tummy and tops to match. Any advice. It is honest when I say I have the wrong shape to pull of all these tight jeans etc. Most patterned trousers look terrible on me too. I'm abit wary of leggings too as I have bigger calves. I'm a size 12 when not pregnant. I'm 5 ft 5 and naturally more stocky??? Than petite. I'm a little overweight but certainly not a big girl. Just seems skinnys are not going anywhere so my struggle is going to continue.



 
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Old Nov 30th, 2017, 23:21 PM   2
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I am 5 ft 4 in so about the same height as you. I am about 5 months postpartum and have been living in leggings and long tunic style shirts since the birth of my son. I have lost a lot of the baby weight, but the flabby tummy is hanging around and making any jeans or regular pants quite uncomfortable. I am not a fashionista by any stretch of the imagination, but I feel like leggings and longer tops look pretty good on just about any body type. I like the high waisted leggings to help hold the tummy in and prevent the belly spillage over the top, then a loose top (sort of a boho style top) to help cover up the tummy as well. Don't worry about bigger calves, honestly I can't say I have ever in my life taken notice of the size of a person's calves.

And honestly, I don't think those jogging pants with the tight cuffs are flattering on anyone other than a runway model, so don't beat yourself up over it! Just wear anything comfortable home from the hospital, no one is going to see you or really care what you are wearing anyway. After both my kids were born I wore a pair of extra large sweat pants home from the hospital (I usually wear a size small!), the crotch was hanging down to my knees, but I was comfortable so I didn't care!



 
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Old Dec 1st, 2017, 02:19 AM   3
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Thank you for your reply. Maybee I should try leggings and long shirts. I feel abit better after reading that as I felt like only one who couldn't look good in joggers but you're probably right
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Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 10:08 AM   4
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Jogging pants with tight cuff = hella unflattering.

My younger sister wears them a lot, she is in college and in good shape. I would not wear them if I were her, but they are "in" I guess.

I am short and slightly overweight. Do not buy skinny jeans. You run the risk of looking like an ice cream cone. Straight (like trouser jeans, not skinny) or slight boot cut look best on me (I'm 5' or ~153 cm).



 
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Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 10:10 AM   5
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Leggings look good. Shapers are super good for wrangling in the loose belly skin and smoothing things out. I have a pair of high waisted smoothing leggings that make me feel FAB. I know some people don't like them, but they really smooth out the loose skin well and help your clothes fit better.



 
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Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 11:37 AM   6
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I like to wear light control shapwear to make me feel better about myself. Just makes me feel smoother and less wobbly, and maxi skirts are what I find most flattering(I'm chunky but funky ) or jeans and a baggy jumper!



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 16:21 PM   7
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Agree the cuff joggers are unflattering!! Get yourself some nice yoga pants or leggings with a long top.
There are so many styles of jeans out there including straighter legs and extremely skinny, you just need to try some on and see what works. Like you say you're not a big girl at all so finding something won't be hard but you do need a couple of hours to go and look (which is not easy I know!!)



 
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Old Dec 5th, 2017, 14:04 PM   8
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I am not slim by any means (about size 16-18)
When my children were born I lived in long vest tops and leggings. (River Island do long vests that cover half your bottom).
I would then wear any normal top/jumper over that. Those early days you just want to be comfy. I couldn't imagine putting on tight jeans after having a baby.

It's such a shame we feel so anxious about our image, try not to worry so much xxx



 
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Old Dec 5th, 2017, 18:26 PM   9
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You sound like a similar shape and size to me - I'm a size 12 and 5 foot 2. I live in high waisted skinny jeans and either long tops, or looser tops tucked in with a belt. I carry my weight at my stomach and definitely find this style most flattering. I only buy one specific pair of jeans though as others don't look as good!

I occasionally wear leggings (I wore leggings a lot for the first 6m pp though!) and sometimes try jehgings too, but skinny jeans are definitely the most flattering. My mum is size 14-16 and also suits them, but not the same ones as me if that makes sense?



 
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Old Dec 12th, 2017, 04:37 AM   10
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Postnatally I will live in leggings and long tops/jumpers until my mummy tummy settles and I can get back to the gym! I’m a size 14 when not preggo and around 5ft7. Once I’m back to being comfortable i wear a lot of skirts/dresses and tights and I live in maxi skirts or dresses in the spring/summer.

Leggings are definitely more flattering than joggers with cuffed bottoms, it’s really hard to look good in those and it’s certainly not something I could pull off at all!



 
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