Who makes all the decisions in your relationship?

Angel2Fire · Oct 7th, 2008, 12:22 PM

My OH is stressing me. I make all the decisions and plan everything. Left to him nothing would get done until 2 seconds before!!!

He's a great guy but it stresses me a bit.

We're planning our wedding and I've made every arrangement so far. Today I've booked the hotel, booked the registrar, found my dress and the brisemaids and planned the menu. Then I come home to tell him we've got an appointment with the registrar and he tells me he doesn't have a birth certificate

But this is my fault because he told me a few days ago that he didn't.

Is this a common occurence? I'm wondering if its just my fella or all men

cupcake · Oct 7th, 2008, 12:25 PM

i think most men are not really bothered about wedding plans. we make all financial decisions together thou and try to discuss most things together. i wouldnt worry if hes not into the the menu or flowers etc but if it hurts your feelings then id just tell him u really want his input.

Angel2Fire · Oct 7th, 2008, 12:26 PM

I don't mind that I've done the arrangements... I've checked everything with him, its just that he's made it my fault that he can't do the one thing I've asked him to do (locate his birth certificate or get a new one!)

Uvlollypop · Oct 7th, 2008, 12:37 PM

put it this way, my other half wears the trousers but i tell him where to buy them haha

Elli21 · Oct 7th, 2008, 12:52 PM

Molly...thats a great way to put it..tis the same here i think Lol.

**Chris77** · Oct 7th, 2008, 13:00 PM

Ah yes, wedding plans!!

Remember it well!! DH and I discuss everything together - even when I was planning the wedding, he always wanted to put his input and we discussed what would work/what wouldn't work, etc.

Alexas Mommy · Oct 7th, 2008, 13:18 PM

i think a lot of men are like that. i have planned and post poned two weddings, and oh has had nothing to do with the planning except for the ring he wanted, and he went with me to apply for the marriage license, and that is all. in everyday life, i make all financial decisions. he leaves everything up to me, which is good because he is terrible with money. he makes it, i manage it lol. also, my oh blames me for everything as well. claims he tells me things when he doesnt really.

pinkmac85 · Oct 7th, 2008, 13:57 PM

Well it depends what its in regards too! Lately OH has been making all financial decisions as I seem to have gone a bit 'baby overboard' and can't stop spending! He's a bit more responsible when it comes to that stuff lately! Oops hehe

ALY · Oct 7th, 2008, 14:07 PM

im def the one that wears the trousers if it was left t hubby nothing ad get done

polo_princess · Oct 7th, 2008, 14:12 PM

It depends what its about ... i deal with pretty much most things and he just pays for them or goes with it.

One thing i am not allowed to deal with is anything car related lol, ive got to let him be the boss at something otherwise he's get upset lol

Oct 7th, 2008, 12:22 PM	#1
Angel2Fire Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Derby Posts: 886	Who makes all the decisions in your relationship? My OH is stressing me. I make all the decisions and plan everything. Left to him nothing would get done until 2 seconds before!!! He's a great guy but it stresses me a bit. We're planning our wedding and I've made every arrangement so far. Today I've booked the hotel, booked the registrar, found my dress and the brisemaids and planned the menu. Then I come home to tell him we've got an appointment with the registrar and he tells me he doesn't have a birth certificate But this is my fault because he told me a few days ago that he didn't. Is this a common occurence? I'm wondering if its just my fella or all men

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cupcake Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: middle east Posts: 4,604	i think most men are not really bothered about wedding plans. we make all financial decisions together thou and try to discuss most things together. i wouldnt worry if hes not into the the menu or flowers etc but if it hurts your feelings then id just tell him u really want his input.

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Angel2Fire Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Derby Posts: 886	I don't mind that I've done the arrangements... I've checked everything with him, its just that he's made it my fault that he can't do the one thing I've asked him to do (locate his birth certificate or get a new one!)

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Oct 7th, 2008, 12:37 PM	#4
Uvlollypop Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: milton keynes Posts: 5,789	put it this way, my other half wears the trousers but i tell him where to buy them haha

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Elli21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2008 Location: UK Posts: 12,054	Molly...thats a great way to put it..tis the same here i think Lol.

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Chris77 Trying to conceive (TTC) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: New York, USA Posts: 46,438	Ah yes, wedding plans!! Remember it well!! DH and I discuss everything together - even when I was planning the wedding, he always wanted to put his input and we discussed what would work/what wouldn't work, etc.
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Oct 7th, 2008, 13:18 PM	#7
Alexas Mommy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 7,420	i think a lot of men are like that. i have planned and post poned two weddings, and oh has had nothing to do with the planning except for the ring he wanted, and he went with me to apply for the marriage license, and that is all. in everyday life, i make all financial decisions. he leaves everything up to me, which is good because he is terrible with money. he makes it, i manage it lol. also, my oh blames me for everything as well. claims he tells me things when he doesnt really.

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pinkmac85 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Ontario Posts: 7,288	Well it depends what its in regards too! Lately OH has been making all financial decisions as I seem to have gone a bit 'baby overboard' and can't stop spending! He's a bit more responsible when it comes to that stuff lately! Oops hehe

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Oct 7th, 2008, 14:07 PM	#9
ALY Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: barnsley s yorkshire Posts: 7,755	im def the one that wears the trousers if it was left t hubby nothing ad get done

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Oct 7th, 2008, 14:12 PM	#10
polo_princess Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,496	It depends what its about ... i deal with pretty much most things and he just pays for them or goes with it. One thing i am not allowed to deal with is anything car related lol, ive got to let him be the boss at something otherwise he's get upset lol

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