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Old Nov 30th, 2010, 12:12 PM   31
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I'm not sure if we would, but if he decides he'd rather just work I'm not letting college money go to waste! He wants to go for his BA though, as soon as he figures out which school to go to and all that.
I hope the next 6 months fly by for you hun.



 
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Old Nov 30th, 2010, 12:28 PM   32
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Cleckner You don't sound self-absorbed. I think bursting into tears is a very normal reaction. I sobbed for a couple of days after my OH left. Take care of yourself. We're definitely here to listen if you feel like talking.

One of my closest friends I also met on BnB in the TTC section. She's married to a guy in the Navy (also new to this, and lives off base like me, but about 30 minutes away). Her husband doesn't deploy but has to go away some times for training. They've been incredibly supportive to me through my OH's deployment.



 
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Old Dec 1st, 2010, 08:40 AM   33
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hey Cleckner - you don't sound self-involved at all!! You have every right to be sad that your husband and babies father just left for 7 months and every right to talk about it! Thats what I made this group for! How are you feeling today? How is Emma?

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Old Dec 1st, 2010, 08:46 AM   34
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Justagirl- when in January does your man have to leave? Where is bootcamp at for the army? How long is bootcamp for him? Does he know what job he's going to have yet?

He leaves at the end of January. JJ will be 5 months old. His Basic is in Oklahoma and AIT is in Georgia. His AIT is so long, 24 weeks! His job is 25N Nodal Networks System Operator/Maintainer. He's wanted to join the Army for awhile now (ever since the middle of my pregnancy) but we've been waiting for 2 specific jobs to open up and one finally did! I'm very happy he got the job he wanted. It was important to us that he has an IT job so that he gets training in that specific area for when he gets out.

Anyways I re-applied to college... I really really want to finish my BA while DH is gone. I think it will give me something to do to occupy myself (besides being a mommy of course) and also I will be so much better off if I have my degree. I only have 1 semester left!



 
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Old Dec 1st, 2010, 08:49 AM   35
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I have a confession to make...

DH and I last night with no protection. I feel like such an idiot. I don't want to be pregnant right now. We were planning on WTT till he gets back in August for #2. Should I get the morning after pill?



 
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Old Dec 1st, 2010, 12:46 PM   36
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I have a confession to make...

DH and I last night with no protection. I feel like such an idiot. I don't want to be pregnant right now. We were planning on WTT till he gets back in August for #2. Should I get the morning after pill?
I imagine it would be extremely difficult having a young child and being pregnant while he's away! But it's up to you hun, I wouldn't feel right advising yes or no but if you are going to take the morning-after pill, best do it quick! Good luck hun xx



 
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Old Dec 1st, 2010, 14:13 PM   37
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justagirl- I really can't say one way or the other. I don't particularly agree with the morning after pill just because I think if it's meant to be, it will be. But if you feel a baby is most definitely not something you want right now, I would support that. You would need to do it quick like Nic says. Do you know when you ovulate next? Where are you in your cycle? I definitely could not imagine having a 3 month old and being pregnant again. That would mean you'd have a year old toddler just learning to walk, and a newborn. That would be hell.

Also, you can go with him for his schooling right? In the navy, they allow wives and children to go with them if they are in school. I did it for some of DH's extra training while I was pregnant with Emma. His actual A and C school I was still in highschool through so I didn't go than obviously, but I know it's possible as long as you're married! So it may not be as bad as you think.



 
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Old Dec 2nd, 2010, 23:13 PM   38
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So I spent most of my day in the hospital with Emma this morning. DH left only 3 days ago and we've already had a hospital visit. This is SO hard. Read my journal if you want details...link in siggy. It's too long of a story to write out again on here.


Hope you are all okay!!



 
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Old Dec 2nd, 2010, 23:46 PM   39
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This doesn't compare at all to Cleckner's day, but I feel like a bit of a crap mom because its nearly 1am and I've had like 4 failed attempts to put Maya to bed and she's still wide awake. I'm staying at my mom's house right now for a few weeks and I feel like she's pressuring me to have Maya cry it out (which Maya is way too young for). I think I'm doing the worst of both worlds though, because sometimes I let her fuss for quite a while before going to her and go to her when she's really worked up (which maybe just teaches her to get worked up so mom will come??) I find all this sleep stuff so confusing and I really don't know what the best thing is to do. I think that I'm a bit haphazard which I think is a lot worse than being consistent.

I also think I'm responsible for Maya not falling asleep so well anymore because I haven't been consistent lately with getting to bed at the same time or keeping our routines stable. Especially with not being home, I've been letting things slide a bunch.



 
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Oh hun. I went through a phase that I was so inconsistent too. I nurse Emma to sleep and we cosleep. But I started doubting myself when family kind of gave me grief for it. So I started trying to get her in a crib. It felt so unnatural to me so one night I'd put her in it, and another night I'd yank her back out. So confusing to her I'm sure. Just do what feels natural to you hun. Forget what anyone else says or thinks. I still cosleep with Emma so my little issue didn't last long. I plan on starting the move to her big girl bed next week or at least when she starts to feel better with her fingers. And I hope I can be consistent this time around. It's a bed not a crib anymore so I think I'll feel better about the whole thing. Something about cribs weird me out like she's in a cage.

Sleep is really confusing to know what is right. Just figure out what really feels right to you, and stick with it. It's never too late to change up a routine and get it consistent again.

ETA- I don't even necessarily think babies need strict routines every day anyways. Whatever works for your family is all that matters.



 
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