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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 00:29 AM   51
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justagirl- how you been hun? You haven't popped in here for a while.

nimyra- How you holding up?



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 00:40 AM   52
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Hi Opal! :waves:

I have to say... I've been visiting my mom for 2 weeks now and although I was really nervous about being here (I'm really independent too), it has been really nice having help with my LO. So, I hope living with your family is better than expected. I think I find it easier to get along with my mom than I used to because I'm so desperate for adult company since my OH is away.

-- what I've been up to -- (sorry this is probably boring) I'm trying to make decisions about buying a larger car. This would be a lot easier if my husband was here, but I'm getting impatient and my old car is having more and more problems that I just want to be done with... besides the fact that hauling my daughter's carseat carrier in and out of my 2 door car is getting difficult!



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 00:47 AM   53
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my mom is crazy so that's the main reason we don't usually get along so well. She's been quite stable since I've been here though. it's great!

The time continues to fly. My husband will be home in less than 2 months. I absolutely cannot wait!!!

I need to start looking into once a week childcare for Maya because I'll be starting a class in mid-January. I was really uncomfortable having her watched when she was younger but she's getting more independent and I think she'll do fine being babysat.

oh, and I think she's starting to teeth. That's my news

Cleckner, it really sounds like you are better off without those women in your life! They sound awful. I'm so sorry you had that experience. I'm starting to feel really glad that my OH and I aren't really involved with Army things. We just do our own thing.



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 00:52 AM   54
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Ooo teeth already! I hope she's not being too grumpy for you!!

I hope you figure out a car! We had a honda fit and loved it but it was a bit tiny in the backseat since I'm doing extended rearfacing. My carseat just takes up too much room when being rearfaced. But than DH totaled my car a week before he left so I'm just driving around my jeep wrangler. I have to open the back tailgate and window to put Emma in. It's so horrible but works for now. I totally understand wanting a bigger vehicle though! I'd actually LOVE a van. I always said I'd never be one of THOSE moms but I totally am. I just think it'd be so comfy.

I knew your DH was coming home soon but didn't realize it was that soon!! YAY!!! I hope it's an awesome reunion. Don't abandon us when he gets back though ok?!



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 00:58 AM   55
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LOL I'm not going anywhere. I'm a bit addicted to BnB. And I'll still be home alone during the day with Maya for a year or so.

I'm totally van shopping. Well, I already know what I want (Honda Odyssey), I'm just trying to decide when and where to buy it, how to pay for it (!!), and what to do with my old car (I'm tempted to trade it in, OH wants to keep it as a back up car... we're currently a one-car family). I've been reading about extended rear facing and that sound like it will be much easier to do in a minivan.



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 01:16 AM   56
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OMG I want a honda odyssey!!! That's the one we've been eyeing. It's SOO nice. I want one in white.



 
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Old Dec 8th, 2010, 08:51 AM   57
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To add to the co-sleeping discussion, I do it as well. It feels right. Her and I both sleep better. Many cultures co-sleep. I think it is how nature is intended, but of course I respect any mother's decision. Each of us know what is best for our child. And yes, I have gotten crap for my decision. One wife said, "You need to fix that ASAP! She'll be 2 and sleepin' with ya!" There is nothing to "fix." Ugh, so judgemental...
I started a playgroup when I first moved here. Met 3 other wives and we started getting together a few times a week. It was a bit 'off' from day one because I breastfeed and none of them did. I'm okay with that but they weren't. They kept making snide comments about it. Than came the cosleeping issue. One girl especially got on me about it. She said she lets her son cry to sleep. He was 6 months old at the time. She said she has done it from the start. Than all the girls wanted to have a drinking night and sleepover. Again, I breastfeed so that's not happening and I'm a grown adult, I'm gonna take my daughter to her own bed at night. Not take her to some strange house so I can get wasted. So they all got together without me. No big deal. Than we all went to a museum and they all had their strollers but I had my carrier. They acted like I'm crazy and kept asking if Emma was burning up and said she would be clingy because I carry her everywhere. But than a lot of things escalated and the topic of circumcision came up at a different playdate. I told them I won't be circumcising if I ever have a son. I just think it's mean and there is no reason for it. I didn't condemn them, I just voiced my own side of it. But later that night I sent a message to apologize to one of the girls because I think I hurt her feelings and I didn't want it to be like that. She messaged me back saying I'm a horrible mother and my daughter is horrible and I don't punish her(she was 10 months at the time and liked to get into stuff..) Than she went on to say my future son will be made fun of because he's not circumcised and I don't care about my children's future. I just messaged back and said I know bad news when I come across it and she's not worth getting a reply. Than I blocked and deleted all of them. It was horrible.

I never once judged any of those girls for their choices. But I was judged every single time for the 'natural' things I did with Emma. I just dont' get it. I try my best to be a good friend to people.

So I guess I'm trying to say you aren't alone hun. You have us now.
Oh my god that is horrible. Personally I don't use attachment parenting (Dont do CIO either) But I'd never judge you for how you are raising Emma, those women sound terrible. It's sad because the whole play group thing could have been so amazing if it went the way it should have...



 
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justagirl- how you been hun? You haven't popped in here for a while.
Hey ladies! Sorry my cable was out for a few days so couldn't come on, just saw all the new replies in here today! Anyways I decided to not go the morning after pill route, my period is no where to be seen and I feel nauseas, sore BBs, ect. I really really hope it's all in my mind because I see a lot of girls TTC with these symptoms that don't end up being pregnant.

Testing day Dec 14th...



 
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my mom is crazy so that's the main reason we don't usually get along so well. She's been quite stable since I've been here though. it's great!

The time continues to fly. My husband will be home in less than 2 months. I absolutely cannot wait!!!

I need to start looking into once a week childcare for Maya because I'll be starting a class in mid-January. I was really uncomfortable having her watched when she was younger but she's getting more independent and I think she'll do fine being babysat.

oh, and I think she's starting to teeth. That's my news

Cleckner, it really sounds like you are better off without those women in your life! They sound awful. I'm so sorry you had that experience. I'm starting to feel really glad that my OH and I aren't really involved with Army things. We just do our own thing.
Mine is starting to get a tooth in now too! I felt it the other day! He's been miserable with it, poor thing. He fusses a lot and gets all drooly and such and instantly stops fussing when I put the gel on. I cant believe he's getting a tooth so young.



 
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I'm having such a hard time at work. I never do anything wrong, always have a smile on my face, I'm never late, work hard, etc etc and it's seemingly getting me no where. I work in a restaurant and I recently got the job there after I had JJ. No matter how well I do the people who have been there longer (who the manager is friends with) get rewarded with the best sections, etc even though they are always fucking up, coming in late, etc. I have alot of friends there but the managers seem to hate me all of the sudden? I don't know why or what I did.

I cant wait till the day I finish my BA and never have to work in another restaurant again.

I signed up for classes for the spring, they start 3 days after DH leaves for basic. But I think it's the right thing to do. I need to finish my education and I need to do something to occupy myself while he's gone.



 
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