MIL/Grandparent support thread

Omg I know what you ladies are going through

My MIL is a complete bitch too.
Started when I got pregnant , everything we chose to do my MIL didn't agree with.
Little does she know her opinion doesn't count anyway.

Now DD is a year on Saturday and MIL has seen her maybe 3-4 times.

Reason being is that she's a drama queen & loves to create it.
If things aren't about her, she will try her best to make them about her.

Few things she's said / done:
She Called my DH telling him I stole him away from his family.
She keeps making lil sneaky comments about how I'm from Europe .. Like if she doesn't understand something she will say "oh must be a European thing" etc
She was invited a few hours after I have birth (32 hour natural labor & delivery) , she didn't look or talk to me once.. Not even a how are you.
She told my DH I'd get saggy boobs cause of breastfeeding.
She was talking shit about my mom towards another family member cause my mom sends birthday cards to everyone .. She said my mom likes to kiss ass.. She has only met my mom once very briefly btw.

I could go on and on.
Mainly I try to ignore her BS & try to avoid seeing her since she's nothing but negativity

Originally Posted by Lilly12

Omg I know what you ladies are going through

My MIL is a complete bitch too.
Started when I got pregnant , everything we chose to do my MIL didn't agree with.
Little does she know her opinion doesn't count anyway.

Now DD is a year on Saturday and MIL has seen her maybe 3-4 times.

Reason being is that she's a drama queen & loves to create it.
If things aren't about her, she will try her best to make them about her.

Few things she's said / done:
She Called my DH telling him I stole him away from his family.
She keeps making lil sneaky comments about how I'm from Europe .. Like if she doesn't understand something she will say "oh must be a European thing" etc
She was invited a few hours after I have birth (32 hour natural labor & delivery) , she didn't look or talk to me once.. Not even a how are you.
She told my DH I'd get saggy boobs cause of breastfeeding.
She was talking shit about my mom towards another family member cause my mom sends birthday cards to everyone .. She said my mom likes to kiss ass.. She has only met my mom once very briefly btw.

I could go on and on.
Mainly I try to ignore her BS & try to avoid seeing her since she's nothing but negativity

You're MIL sounds just lovely!

My MIL is usually OK, but we've had a huge falling out with satan-in-law, which has resulted in me telling SIL that if she continues to post on FB, or e-mail my friends (I'm a lying bitch and a dog who should be on a lead apparently) she will be reported to the police for harassment.

MIL told me today it's my own fault she's saying these things, as if I'd just let SIL have her own way (she demanded to be godparent, I said no) she wouldn't be saying them!

I've told DH today that when the economy imporoves and we're ready to move, I want to go back home to my family (North Wales). I'm sick of being stuck up here with no support and blamed for everything SIL does x

Originally Posted by BabyBoo36

My MIL is usually OK, but we've had a huge falling out with satan-in-law, which has resulted in me telling SIL that if she continues to post on FB, or e-mail my friends (I'm a lying bitch and a dog who should be on a lead apparently) she will be reported to the police for harassment.

MIL told me today it's my own fault she's saying these things, as if I'd just let SIL have her own way (she demanded to be godparent, I said no) she wouldn't be saying them!

I've told DH today that when the economy imporoves and we're ready to move, I want to go back home to my family (North Wales). I'm sick of being stuck up here with no support and blamed for everything SIL does x

THAT^^^^ is a huge pet peeve of mine. So, you're to cater to her bad behavior because she chooses to act poorly? I think not.

If people aren't held accountable and they don't LEARN the consequences of their behavior then they don't grow as people.

And who is she to DEMAND such a thing????

That's over the top.

Originally Posted by Lilly12

Omg I know what you ladies are going through

My MIL is a complete bitch too.
Started when I got pregnant , everything we chose to do my MIL didn't agree with.
Little does she know her opinion doesn't count anyway.

Now DD is a year on Saturday and MIL has seen her maybe 3-4 times.

Reason being is that she's a drama queen & loves to create it.
If things aren't about her, she will try her best to make them about her.

Few things she's said / done:
She Called my DH telling him I stole him away from his family.
She keeps making lil sneaky comments about how I'm from Europe .. Like if she doesn't understand something she will say "oh must be a European thing" etc
She was invited a few hours after I have birth (32 hour natural labor & delivery) , she didn't look or talk to me once.. Not even a how are you.
She told my DH I'd get saggy boobs cause of breastfeeding.
She was talking shit about my mom towards another family member cause my mom sends birthday cards to everyone .. She said my mom likes to kiss ass.. She has only met my mom once very briefly btw.

I could go on and on.
Mainly I try to ignore her BS & try to avoid seeing her since she's nothing but negativity

I'm sorry that your MIL is so awful I try to ignore my MIL too...I could be wrong, but it seems a lot of the MIL's I've read about are very much drama queens and negative a-holes...must go with the job description I guess

Originally Posted by BabyBoo36

My MIL is usually OK, but we've had a huge falling out with satan-in-law, which has resulted in me telling SIL that if she continues to post on FB, or e-mail my friends (I'm a lying bitch and a dog who should be on a lead apparently) she will be reported to the police for harassment.

MIL told me today it's my own fault she's saying these things, as if I'd just let SIL have her own way (she demanded to be godparent, I said no) she wouldn't be saying them!

I've told DH today that when the economy imporoves and we're ready to move, I want to go back home to my family (North Wales). I'm sick of being stuck up here with no support and blamed for everything SIL does x

Geesh, your SIL needs to grow up already and stop acting so childish. Obviously, you wouldn't want someone like that being your LO's godparent anyways, when a godparent is supposed to be someone to be there for LO and set a good example

I received a card today from mil saying "I've tried to contact u all last week with no response (she text twice) I want to be in urs and the boys life's, please contact me if this is possible"

So I'm now in the middle of writing her a letter. I'm stating she obviously doesn't realise how wrong she is so I won't waste my time, I want nothing to do with her n that if she wants to see my boys it can't be when ever she feels like it n then nothing for months...she's not seen them in 7 months, and it has to be atheist every 12 weeks.

She won't make the effort so I'm looking forward to her reply lol

Originally Posted by moomin_troll

I received a card today from mil saying "I've tried to contact u all last week with no response (she text twice) I want to be in urs and the boys life's, please contact me if this is possible"

So I'm now in the middle of writing her a letter. I'm stating she obviously doesn't realise how wrong she is so I won't waste my time, I want nothing to do with her n that if she wants to see my boys it can't be when ever she feels like it n then nothing for months...she's not seen them in 7 months, and it has to be atheist every 12 weeks.

She won't make the effort so I'm looking forward to her reply lol

Love how she tried 'all week'. Hopefully she steps up to the plate if she really wants to be in their lives and doesn't just try to blow smoke up your butt, but from the way you describe her, sounds like she's just going to go through the motions or step up temporarily. Curious to what she replies to you...

Originally Posted by ValentinesGal

Love how she tried 'all week'. Hopefully she steps up to the plate if she really wants to be in their lives and doesn't just try to blow smoke up your butt, but from the way you describe her, sounds like she's just going to go through the motions or step up temporarily. Curious to what she replies to you...

Yeah I'm not expecting much from her, she's done this to make me look bad n making out how she's trying which is bull.
Her trying all week made me laugh, 2 texts is really trying lol
Mil hates my mum for no reason so Im saying she can only see the boys threw my mum at my mums house every 12 weeks minimum.
She will hate that lol n my mum will love rubbing her face in it

Originally Posted by ValentinesGal

Love how she tried 'all week'. Hopefully she steps up to the plate if she really wants to be in their lives and doesn't just try to blow smoke up your butt, but from the way you describe her, sounds like she's just going to go through the motions or step up temporarily. Curious to what she replies to you...

Exactly. Two texts- that must have really put her out.

Those 2 texts were after her trip aswel lol so it took her a week to bother after I told her id had enough lol

She's the strangest person I've ever met