MIL/Grandparent support thread

I wouldn't even bother giving her the chance. I'd let her know that the week she took to send 2 texts told you all you needed to know.

Originally Posted by AmethystDream

I wouldn't even bother giving her the chance. I'd let her know that the week she took to send 2 texts told you all you needed to know.

True, I was going to just ignore her or text her just saying leave us alone but then my sister butted in hahaha

Plus I dunno why but mil really hates my mum, I think it was because my mum n oh were close so saying if u wana see the boys u have to do it thru her will really piss mil off hahaha

I no mil will say she can't do the traveling ect but ile point out its only taking 6 days off work each yr n use her weekends to see the boys and I might point out I no she took life insurance out on my oh so I no she's got more then enough money that she's kept from my boys

Originally Posted by moomin_troll

True, I was going to just ignore her or text her just saying leave us alone but then my sister butted in hahaha

Plus I dunno why but mil really hates my mum, I think it was because my mum n oh were close so saying if u wana see the boys u have to do it thru her will really piss mil off hahaha

I no mil will say she can't do the traveling ect but ile point out its only taking 6 days off work each yr n use her weekends to see the boys and I might point out I no she took life insurance out on my oh so I no she's got more then enough money that she's kept from my boys

I think either she needs to shit or get off the pot(excuse my language). Either she wants to see em or not. She doesn't get to do it half ass, or quite frankly how she wants to.. she isn't in control of this situation, you are.

Mil hates being out of control so this will be fun lol I'm not her son who she thought she could emotional blackmail to get her own way.

Ile keep u all posted to if/when she responds

I hope I'm not crashing this thread right now.

But...this is minor but I can't stop thinking about it. There's a lot of backstory to this, of course, but here is the current situation that I can't stop thinking about.

We printed up some pictures of Breanna to give to MIL, including some Easter cards. DH took them over to her house as she only has one picture of my baby (who turned 5 months today!!!).

And she didn't have one nice thing to say.

She said, "Ewww...why are her eyes so big?"
"What is that plug doing in her mouth?"
"What's wrong with her hair?"
"The picture is too dark."
"Oh, that's not a very good picture, is it?"

She thinks my baby is ugly! How can a grandmother criticize so much about her own grandchild?

It broke my heart completely. We thought we were doing a good thing and giving her some beautiful pictures, and instead, she complained about all of them. I grew up with all these issues feeling ugly and unattractive, and I don't want that for my daughter. She's also made comments about how her legs are too fat. (Breanna's weight is less than 25th percentile).

Sounds so minor when I write it down, and it is compared to some of the other things she has done/said.

But still not cool.

Originally Posted by andella95

I hope I'm not crashing this thread right now.

But...this is minor but I can't stop thinking about it. There's a lot of backstory to this, of course, but here is the current situation that I can't stop thinking about.

We printed up some pictures of Breanna to give to MIL, including some Easter cards. DH took them over to her house as she only has one picture of my baby (who turned 5 months today!!!).

And she didn't have one nice thing to say.

She said, "Ewww...why are her eyes so big?"
"What is that plug doing in her mouth?"
"What's wrong with her hair?"
"The picture is too dark."
"Oh, that's not a very good picture, is it?"

She thinks my baby is ugly! How can a grandmother criticize so much about her own grandchild?

It broke my heart completely. We thought we were doing a good thing and giving her some beautiful pictures, and instead, she complained about all of them. I grew up with all these issues feeling ugly and unattractive, and I don't want that for my daughter. She's also made comments about how her legs are too fat. (Breanna's weight is less than 25th percentile).

Sounds so minor when I write it down, and it is compared to some of the other things she has done/said.

But still not cool.

Welcome! That would bug the hell out of me if MIL or anyone else acted liked that! I'd tell her that'd be the last time you try to do something nice like give her pictures of her grandchild And I think your LO is adorable...so screw her

Another iffy day in the MIL dept. here. I had to stop by the IL's to pick up our nephew. Couple of the neighbor friends were over and everyone was sitting outside. She inquired about Clay's 4 mo. check up and shots today. Asked me again what his birth info was compared to now and what time he was born (which I couldn't remember the exact to the minute time as I have the worst memory in the world! ) She then asked me if I cry when he gets his shots and I replied, no, but I feel terribly bad for him and give him lots of cuddles. So she goes on in front of everyone...."Well....I ALWAYS cried when my kids had shots and I STILL remember what time they were born and that was after being in labor for 26hrs and such and how can you not remember what time your baby was born...blah blah blah!" I just grabbed the nephew and left. WTF? Is this a competition or something? Just because I don't remember things due to a bad memory or that I don't act the way SHE did as mother, doesn't mean that I'm a bad mom!! She can f*ck off right now!

Thanks for allowing me to vent!

Andella- Welcome...and it would tick me off too. Insulting an infant in front of a parent is pretty low. I might not give her any more pictures if that's how she's gonna be...

Valentine'sGirl- I hate people that make passive aggressive digs. Trust me, she looked horrible...not you!

It's not minor that's horrible! I'd of said stick it up ur ass then and took the pictures back and I wouldn't be giving her anymore. What a vile woman x

moomin, have you got a reply from MIL yet?

Originally Posted by ValentinesGal

moomin, have you got a reply from MIL yet?

I haven't had chance to post the letter yet, I'm going to hopefully post it tomorrow. I really can't wait lol