MIL/Grandparent support thread

I never understood how people can leave their LO's with other people THAT often. I have a friend who works M-F and doesn't get home until 6:00p, her DD goes to bed at 8:30p and then spends every weekend (Usually Sat around noon until late Sunday afternoon at her grandma's) in which my friend and her hubby usually go out for drinks at the pub every Sat. night. While a break is understandable, or even a few hours every weekend, I can't help but think that's a bit excessive when other people are basically raising your child for you. But that's JMO...

I'll have to check out that link, thanks!

Hello ladies
Well I finally sent my bitch in law the letter.
Basically saying its disgusting she's not seen my boys but could go new York and that they have been thru enough and I won't let her swan in and out of their life.
I've told her she has to see the boys at least every 3 months n she can do it thru my mum because I want nothing to do with her anymore.

Suprise suprise she's not even bothered to contact my mum to sort anything out. She's shown zero fight to have my boys in her life which is sick.

F her! Finally she's out of my life hopefully she will drop dead soon.
If she does contact my mum she's under stricked instructions of what to say, like the fact I no mil can afford to come see the boys seen as she took life insurance out on my oh, so she can use that

Oh wow. That's sad that's she's not even trying to make an effort. I thought she would at least pretend to make arrangements just so she would look good, but to no even do that, how pathetic. Good riddance to her! Your boys don't need someone that vile in their lives

moomin.


What a jackass she is. You would think given the history that she would want to she her son's children EVEN MORE.... but apparently, she's completely self absorbed and totally self serving.

I agree with Valentinesgal- your boys don't need that in their lives.. and quite frankly, she doesn't DESERVE to see them either.

Oh yeah she's all about herself and how she's suffering, she doesn't seem to give a shit that Zane lost his dad and he's only a baby.

I'm giving her 2 weeks to contact my mum, if she hasn't then I'm giving my mum her number and letting my mum rip her to shreds. It's now been 8 months since she even bothered to see the boys do oh well.
They can't miss what they never had

What have your other IL's been saying about it all? Don't they find her behavior just outrageous?

Oh, she's a "poor pitiful me" type huh? Always the victim. Poor little thing

Originally Posted by ValentinesGal

What have your other IL's been saying about it all? Don't they find her behavior just outrageous?

Fil doesn't bother to talk to me, youngest sil and bil haven't bothered and my other sil is on her mums side making out I'd break her heart doing this....ok then.
None of them see what a posionus cow she is, even my oh would make excuses for her. So I'm not even going to try.

Ohs cousins who I talk to are on my side n they can't understand why they don't seem to bother, so at least I've got some of his family in the boys life's even tho I haven't seen them since the funeral they text and talk to me on Facebook all the time. And they actually ask how I am, mil has never asked how I'm actually coping.

Originally Posted by moomin_troll

Fil doesn't bother to talk to me, youngest sil and bil haven't bothered and my other sil is on her mums side making out I'd break her heart doing this....ok then.
None of them see what a posionus cow she is, even my oh would make excuses for her. So I'm not even going to try.

Ohs cousins who I talk to are on my side n they can't understand why they don't seem to bother, so at least I've got some of his family in the boys life's even tho I haven't seen them since the funeral they text and talk to me on Facebook all the time. And they actually ask how I am, mil has never asked how I'm actually coping.

Gee, how did I know that this was what you were going to say? My MIL does the same bullcrap. She manipulates people and plays the victim and her immediate family just lap it up. It's a little pathetic isn't it?

I think you've done all you need to do. She needs to make an effort and if she doesn't that's on her. It's not your responsiblity to make your MIL have a relationship with your kids and you don't have to answer to your in-laws either.

I'm sorry you have to put up with this. I think they sound like some very entitled and sad people.

Everyone I no who's met her didn't think much of her, even a vicar had bad things to say about her lol

I did tell the eldest sil that I'd still like to keep in contact with her but since then I've heard nothing other then a message she obviously sent to everyone saying happy Easter.
They are strangers to me n I can finally see I owe them nothing so screw the lot of them.

I love this thread, all u ladies are fantastic
I will never understand any of the mils u all have to deal with or ur ohs who let them get away with it, so frustrating