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Old Oct 5th, 2013, 05:49 AM   1
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Advice please 20 week scan abnormalities

Hi I'm new to this but needed somewhere to talk as have been going crazy for the last few days. We went for our 20 week scan last week it's my 3rd pregnancy an I guess I just assumed as I had got this far and first scan was good that I would go in maybe find out the sex and leave with some lovely pictures. Sadly that didn't happen the hospitals senior sonographer carried out our scan and noticed a few problems- the baby only has 3 heart chambers, 1 kidney, fluid on the brain, 2 vessels on cord instead of 3 and the bladder is not filling. I am not particularly old (29years) and I am so careful when pregnant I never smoke dont drink dont take drugs I even cut out caffeine. My first 2 children are perfectly healthy an I never had an issues during pregnancy. Yet I can't stop thinking I must have done something. I have a specialist scan on Monday and I am so scared of what they are going to say or suggest. I try to shut off from it but everytime I feel him moving I just start crying. Has anyone else had this or something similar. Please any advice would be really helpful

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Old Oct 5th, 2013, 17:38 PM   2
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I'm so sorry. I can't imagine the worry and sadness that you are going through. I'm sure there is nothing much I can say to make this better but I want to tell you that I had a friend go through a smilier situation recently. Unfortunately they had to terminate her pregnancy due to the babies abnormalities. But, what I want to say is that all of her friends and family were so supportive and respected her decision because it was made out of love for her child. I think when you get all the information from the doctor you will know what is best for your baby. I'm so sorry that it doesn't sound like any outcome will be easy for you.

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Old Oct 5th, 2013, 23:11 PM   3
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Please know it is NOT your fault. It is so unfair that good people who try their best have to go through such trials. I am so sorry. I hope you can get some peace at your next ultrasound, and maybe the baby will be better off than you think? I know it is hard, and will take some time, but remember - it is not your fault. Things happen like this unfortunately, and most of the time, it is due to chromosome abnormalities which can occur no matter how healthy the mother eats. I am so sorry, and I hope the best for you and your sweet baby.

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Old Oct 7th, 2013, 06:20 AM   4
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I'm so sorry! None of this is your fault, I promise. Many of those issues can be dealt with singularly and I hope that you get good news at your specialist appt.

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Old Jan 3rd, 2014, 08:14 AM   5
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Just read this and wanted to say thinking of you and wondered if you had any update

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Old Jan 3rd, 2014, 14:44 PM   6
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I'm sorry you are going thru this. There is nothing you did to cause this. It sounds like you're probably going to have more tests and scans to determine what exactly is going on and you're going to be faced with a lot of information... I will keep you in my prayers during this time..

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Old Jan 8th, 2014, 00:58 AM   7
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I'm so so sorry hun. Praying for your sweet baby and hoping all is well and you get more answers.

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Old Jan 14th, 2014, 21:20 PM   8
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It's so difficult getting extra testing ect but you will be just fine. Seek out support where you can Hun. It's nothing you have done, please don't blame yourself. I hope you update with some positive news xxx

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