Hate people who downplay labor!

Samiam03 · Jan 11th, 2013, 13:46 PM

Ugh I just need to vent. I just had a status pop on my newsfeed of a girl who was saying she wished she was brave enough to have a natural birth and another girl replied saying she would never do it without medication...and then as they continued to talk they started saying how labor doesn't hurt at all and is so easy and how their broken toe hurt worse than labor. Are you kidding me? Of course labor didn't hurt! You both had an epidural the moment you walked in the door of the hospital!

It just makes me so mad because I worked hard to get my natural birth and it was the hardest and most rewarding thing I ever did in my life and to have someone who never experienced the ring of fire or transition totally downplay it makes me mad!

Just had to let that rant out because I have no where else to say it.

LegoHouse · Jan 11th, 2013, 13:50 PM

My second labour didn't hurt too bad. I remember saying a short while before he was born that I'd had toothache worse than my contractions. I had no pain relief at all. I was singing to myself in my head whilst I pushed to distract myself from the pain.

To be honest my labour the first time around hurt more when I had gas and air and was out of control and panicked.

NaturalMomma · Jan 12th, 2013, 11:42 AM

Everyone is different. ds2's unmedicated homebirth didn't hurt. Transition was intense, but I have to admit that a toothache is worse than *my* birth with ds2. I had no ring of fire either. I might not be as lucky with this one though, it could hurt worse than ds2's and I could have ring of fire, I'm sure I jinxed myself

SarahBear · Jan 12th, 2013, 14:24 PM

Haha, how ridiculous. You should ask them why they needed all the medication if labor is so easy

Also, I didn't think labor was too bad, but then again I think I had an easy labor.

Sam Pearson · Jan 12th, 2013, 16:36 PM

Yeah, when you have abdominal surgery with anesthetic it doesn't hurt at the time but you can sure as hell bet if somebody cut your stomach open with a knife it would sting a little. Duh.

Samiam03 · Jan 13th, 2013, 09:16 AM

Everyone has different pain thresholds and different labors and I just don't think people who got epidurals at 4 cm should be commenting on how natural birth is nothing.

I myself had a very painful and unbearable birth...it was a precipitous birth and contractions started at 3 minutes apart and an hour later were 30 seconds apart and extremely intense. It upsets me to see people act like what I went through was nothing.

And I don't quite understand the abdominal surgery comment? I didn't say anything about csections...that's a whole different ball field.

tinkerbelle93 · Jan 13th, 2013, 11:13 AM

I think that it's different for everyone. I managed to get to 8cm without pain relief and found the pain excruciatingly awful but bearable if that makes sense? I had to have a spinal for emergency forceps after that so will not know whether I would have been able to go right until the end without pain relief, although I doubt I would have because at 8cm was about the highest pain I could bear! Everyone seems to have different opinions though.

I do agree though that people who have epidurals and other drugs right from the onset can't exactly comment on raw, unmedicated labour. The difference between before and after the spinal injection was huge- before it I was writhing in extreme pain then the minute after I had it, I felt nothing at all, no pain whatsoever! There is no way I could compare those two states! I can understand why you're annoyed. xx

Sam Pearson · Jan 13th, 2013, 16:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Samiam03

And I don't quite understand the abdominal surgery comment? I didn't say anything about csections...that's a whole different ball field.

I didn't say anything about c/sections. My point was that when you take pain relieving drugs you don't experience pain.

Samiam03 · Jan 13th, 2013, 16:05 PM

Oh yeah. Sorry I thought you were talking about csections.

lynnikins · Jan 14th, 2013, 17:15 PM

my first birth was by far the most painful of them all because i failed myself in keeping calm and in control , i panicked and tensed up , the second was painful too but not as much as the first because i did a better job than the first time and the third well i can honestly say ive had back spasms and toothache worse than what that labour was, the most i had in any of them was G&A and nothing with the third I had just learnt how to manage it more for myself, it does annoy me when people who take every medication offered make it sound like labour is easy though because its hardly easy

Jan 11th, 2013, 13:46 PM	#1
Samiam03 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: South Carolina, USA Posts: 1,202	Hate people who downplay labor! Ugh I just need to vent. I just had a status pop on my newsfeed of a girl who was saying she wished she was brave enough to have a natural birth and another girl replied saying she would never do it without medication...and then as they continued to talk they started saying how labor doesn't hurt at all and is so easy and how their broken toe hurt worse than labor. Are you kidding me? Of course labor didn't hurt! You both had an epidural the moment you walked in the door of the hospital! It just makes me so mad because I worked hard to get my natural birth and it was the hardest and most rewarding thing I ever did in my life and to have someone who never experienced the ring of fire or transition totally downplay it makes me mad! Just had to let that rant out because I have no where else to say it.

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Jan 11th, 2013, 13:50 PM	#2
LegoHouse Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,504	My second labour didn't hurt too bad. I remember saying a short while before he was born that I'd had toothache worse than my contractions. I had no pain relief at all. I was singing to myself in my head whilst I pushed to distract myself from the pain. To be honest my labour the first time around hurt more when I had gas and air and was out of control and panicked.

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Jan 12th, 2013, 11:42 AM	#3
NaturalMomma Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 2,601	Everyone is different. ds2's unmedicated homebirth didn't hurt. Transition was intense, but I have to admit that a toothache is worse than my birth with ds2. I had no ring of fire either. I might not be as lucky with this one though, it could hurt worse than ds2's and I could have ring of fire, I'm sure I jinxed myself

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Jan 12th, 2013, 14:24 PM	#4
SarahBear Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,967	Haha, how ridiculous. You should ask them why they needed all the medication if labor is so easy Also, I didn't think labor was too bad, but then again I think I had an easy labor.

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Jan 12th, 2013, 16:36 PM	#5
Sam Pearson Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 555	Yeah, when you have abdominal surgery with anesthetic it doesn't hurt at the time but you can sure as hell bet if somebody cut your stomach open with a knife it would sting a little. Duh.

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Jan 13th, 2013, 09:16 AM	#6
Samiam03 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: South Carolina, USA Posts: 1,202	Everyone has different pain thresholds and different labors and I just don't think people who got epidurals at 4 cm should be commenting on how natural birth is nothing. I myself had a very painful and unbearable birth...it was a precipitous birth and contractions started at 3 minutes apart and an hour later were 30 seconds apart and extremely intense. It upsets me to see people act like what I went through was nothing. And I don't quite understand the abdominal surgery comment? I didn't say anything about csections...that's a whole different ball field.

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Jan 13th, 2013, 11:13 AM	#7
tinkerbelle93 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,950	I think that it's different for everyone. I managed to get to 8cm without pain relief and found the pain excruciatingly awful but bearable if that makes sense? I had to have a spinal for emergency forceps after that so will not know whether I would have been able to go right until the end without pain relief, although I doubt I would have because at 8cm was about the highest pain I could bear! Everyone seems to have different opinions though. I do agree though that people who have epidurals and other drugs right from the onset can't exactly comment on raw, unmedicated labour. The difference between before and after the spinal injection was huge- before it I was writhing in extreme pain then the minute after I had it, I felt nothing at all, no pain whatsoever! There is no way I could compare those two states! I can understand why you're annoyed. xx

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Jan 13th, 2013, 16:05 PM	#9
Samiam03 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: South Carolina, USA Posts: 1,202	Oh yeah. Sorry I thought you were talking about csections.

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Jan 14th, 2013, 17:15 PM	#10
lynnikins Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: East Midlands Posts: 15,499	my first birth was by far the most painful of them all because i failed myself in keeping calm and in control , i panicked and tensed up , the second was painful too but not as much as the first because i did a better job than the first time and the third well i can honestly say ive had back spasms and toothache worse than what that labour was, the most i had in any of them was G&A and nothing with the third I had just learnt how to manage it more for myself, it does annoy me when people who take every medication offered make it sound like labour is easy though because its hardly easy

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