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Old Jan 11th, 2013, 13:46 PM   1
Samiam03
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Hate people who downplay labor!


Ugh I just need to vent. I just had a status pop on my newsfeed of a girl who was saying she wished she was brave enough to have a natural birth and another girl replied saying she would never do it without medication...and then as they continued to talk they started saying how labor doesn't hurt at all and is so easy and how their broken toe hurt worse than labor. Are you kidding me? Of course labor didn't hurt! You both had an epidural the moment you walked in the door of the hospital!

It just makes me so mad because I worked hard to get my natural birth and it was the hardest and most rewarding thing I ever did in my life and to have someone who never experienced the ring of fire or transition totally downplay it makes me mad!

Just had to let that rant out because I have no where else to say it.



 
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Old Jan 11th, 2013, 13:50 PM   2
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My second labour didn't hurt too bad. I remember saying a short while before he was born that I'd had toothache worse than my contractions. I had no pain relief at all. I was singing to myself in my head whilst I pushed to distract myself from the pain.

To be honest my labour the first time around hurt more when I had gas and air and was out of control and panicked.



 
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Old Jan 12th, 2013, 11:42 AM   3
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Everyone is different. ds2's unmedicated homebirth didn't hurt. Transition was intense, but I have to admit that a toothache is worse than *my* birth with ds2. I had no ring of fire either. I might not be as lucky with this one though, it could hurt worse than ds2's and I could have ring of fire, I'm sure I jinxed myself



 
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Old Jan 12th, 2013, 14:24 PM   4
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Haha, how ridiculous. You should ask them why they needed all the medication if labor is so easy

Also, I didn't think labor was too bad, but then again I think I had an easy labor.



 
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Old Jan 12th, 2013, 16:36 PM   5
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Yeah, when you have abdominal surgery with anesthetic it doesn't hurt at the time but you can sure as hell bet if somebody cut your stomach open with a knife it would sting a little. Duh.



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Old Jan 13th, 2013, 09:16 AM   6
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Everyone has different pain thresholds and different labors and I just don't think people who got epidurals at 4 cm should be commenting on how natural birth is nothing.

I myself had a very painful and unbearable birth...it was a precipitous birth and contractions started at 3 minutes apart and an hour later were 30 seconds apart and extremely intense. It upsets me to see people act like what I went through was nothing.

And I don't quite understand the abdominal surgery comment? I didn't say anything about csections...that's a whole different ball field.



 
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Old Jan 13th, 2013, 11:13 AM   7
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I think that it's different for everyone. I managed to get to 8cm without pain relief and found the pain excruciatingly awful but bearable if that makes sense? I had to have a spinal for emergency forceps after that so will not know whether I would have been able to go right until the end without pain relief, although I doubt I would have because at 8cm was about the highest pain I could bear! Everyone seems to have different opinions though.

I do agree though that people who have epidurals and other drugs right from the onset can't exactly comment on raw, unmedicated labour. The difference between before and after the spinal injection was huge- before it I was writhing in extreme pain then the minute after I had it, I felt nothing at all, no pain whatsoever! There is no way I could compare those two states! I can understand why you're annoyed. xx



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Old Jan 13th, 2013, 16:01 PM   8
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And I don't quite understand the abdominal surgery comment? I didn't say anything about csections...that's a whole different ball field.
I didn't say anything about c/sections. My point was that when you take pain relieving drugs you don't experience pain.



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Old Jan 13th, 2013, 16:05 PM   9
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Oh yeah. Sorry I thought you were talking about csections.



 
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Old Jan 14th, 2013, 17:15 PM   10
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my first birth was by far the most painful of them all because i failed myself in keeping calm and in control , i panicked and tensed up , the second was painful too but not as much as the first because i did a better job than the first time and the third well i can honestly say ive had back spasms and toothache worse than what that labour was, the most i had in any of them was G&A and nothing with the third I had just learnt how to manage it more for myself, it does annoy me when people who take every medication offered make it sound like labour is easy though because its hardly easy



 
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