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Old Feb 7th, 2013, 16:23 PM   1
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Got called "stupid" today...


For saying that I want to keep my baby in the room with me at the hospital instead of sending her to the nursey. Then to top it off, she told me that I was being lied to that laboring in water and using a birthing ball will help. (I mentioned that the hospital's new birthing suites have tubs to labor in and birthing balls in every room.) Also, the woman who told me this has had one child, 25 years ago, and did not use either of those things.

Have to learn to keep my mouth shut, because everyone has an opinion on how I want to do things.

Sorry for the pointless rant...didn't know where else it would fit in

EDIT: I want my baby with me at the hospital because she is going to be breastfed (on demand), and I don't want some nurse deciding when she's hungry enough to bring to me. Also I would get home and have no idea what her hunger cues are. Plus, I can't imagine having her inside me all this time, then sending her away as soon as she gets here...honestly it seems a little cruel to me to do that to my baby.



 
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Old Feb 7th, 2013, 18:29 PM   2
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It seems the US is one of the few modern countries left that actually still has nurseries! We don't have those here for healthy babies. Why on earth would one separate a healthy newborn from it's mother (and that goes for all mammals, not just the humans!).

Well, I've had both a birth with zero water and one with 12 hours in a hot shower, and I can guarantee you that it made alll the difference! A birthing ball, now that I don't know, it didn't fit into my lovely shower so I didn't care to use it :P



 
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Old Feb 7th, 2013, 18:33 PM   3
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Water birth unfortunately isn't an option for me since I have to give birth at the hospital But I am so excited that I can at least labor in a tub. I want to do this unmedicated if at all possible and I think the water will help.



 
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Old Feb 8th, 2013, 13:47 PM   4
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Who the heck called you stupid for that??

Those seem like totally valid and reasonable things to want - she obviously has no clue what she's talking about.

(I will say that I personally didn't get much use out of the birth ball I had around, because I just wasn't comfortable on it once labor really got going, but I LOVED having it around my house the last couple weeks of pregnancy and for maybe the first hour after I woke up having contractions.)



 
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Old Feb 8th, 2013, 14:35 PM   5
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Someone hasn't done their research then. It wasn't a nurse was it?



 
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Old Feb 8th, 2013, 14:50 PM   6
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She is the one that's stupid!

The hospitals around here don't send babies in the nursery. It's only for sick babies. They stay in the room with the mom.

She obviously has no clue about water births and using other positions to labour than laying on your back!



 
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Old Feb 8th, 2013, 15:35 PM   7
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Actually she is a nurse (I work in a family medicine doctor's office and she works with me).



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2013, 08:00 AM   8
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Actually she is a nurse (I work in a family medicine doctor's office and she works with me).
OMG that's even worse. What strange ideas that lady has. She didn't experience the wonder of water then! Seriously sent a wave of calm over me when I got in. It was so relaxing that it stopped me progressing in labour so I had to get out after 2 hours, lol.
Not sure how feeding babies and them being in another room works either.......!!
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Old Feb 9th, 2013, 10:25 AM   9
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Well, the nurses in the nursery decide when they think baby is hungry and then brings it to the mom to feed. Though in the US, a lot of women who formula feed leave the baby overnight in the nursery and the nurses feed the baby all night.

I've decided I'm doing Natal Hypnotherapy too - I don't care what anyone thinks, I'm going to do what I need to do to have the birth I want!



 
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Old Feb 10th, 2013, 06:55 AM   10
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I honestly didn't realise that some places still did the whole take the baby to the nursery thing! You should do whatever is best for you and you little one xx



 
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