I hate that people terrify moms with more padding about birth. ugh! First off, weight in and of itself does not increase risk of issues. Maybe if you were super morbidly obese maybe then i could see it, but not at your BMI. That is about my BMI. I have given birth two times, both unmedicated intervention free (second was a HB) with no problems. I am having another HB this time around too. DS1 was face up and i managed to get him out but that had nothing to do with my weight Quite honestly i call BS on when they say larger women will have issues. I think you need to be significantly, super larger in order for that to *maybe* even be an issue. Your weight alone should have no bearing what happens during the actual birth. And i presume you are getting prenatal care so if things like GD or Pre-E became an issue you would know about it, and plus that is a prenatal issue, not a complication with birth itself (if im making any sense here).
I say follow your instincts. If you want a homebirth go for it. Here you are not considered high risk just bc you weight more than desired or have a high BMI. Now they may test for things like GD more often, but that does not ever classify you as high risk just bc of your weight (unless you are morbidly obese, which you are not). You are only high risk if you actually end up with some issue like GD, Pre-E, placenta previa, etc. And as someone who has birthed just fine in the past and is overweight with a similar BMI, i really just dont buy into this notion that being overweight alone is going to cause an issue.
I was heavier when I gave birth to my son but 10 years ago that was never an issue...
Don't listen to such ridiculous scaremongering. The above suggests you are a perfect candidate for a homebirth. Do some reading, relaxing, remember the confidence you had earlier and go for it.
My siblings and I are naturally slim and very active and when my sister and I had our first babies we ended up seriously underweight during the early breastfeeding period...so we worked very hard to increase our weight when pregnant with our subsequent pregnancies. I had 1 homebirths and 2 freebirths - with my attended birth my IMs didn't even mention BMI nor weigh me at all. My sister had all hospital births with an Ob and he went on and on about how she was putting on weight which had her concerned. We were throughout all of our pregnancies very healthy and had all completely natural births and our weight gain did the trick as we managed to remain a better weight despite demand breastfeeding and caring for our other children.
The focus should always be on health not what a person weighs and I highly recommend you reading at this site:
My midwives are happy that I would like a HB, but because my BMI is 38 they have had to refer me to a consultant.
I went for the consultant appointment yesterday and she didn't even bother to turn up. I had some nurse do all the usual checks the midwives do. She then asked why I was there and I said because of BMI and the fact I want a homebirth. She said "Oh you're not allowed a homebirth because your weight means you're more likely to bleed and develop DVT". I said I have a right to birth at home, but that I would prefer to be supported in my decision and that I am a very active person who wants an active birth in my home environment at which point she said she would go and talk to the consultant.
They have asked me to have a scan because up until now baby has been breech and transverse (hello those appointments were at 30 and 32 weeks and he has since turned) and because my son was 9lb2oz when he was born and they want to check that this baby doesn't get too big.
I only had gas and air with my son and although I had a 2nd degree tear with him, I gave birth with no problems standing up (couldn't bear to lie down!). I am hoping to have a home water birth this time (hoping water will help avoid another second degree tear, although it healed with no problems so not a major concern).
Will keep you posted on how my "fight" goes - the scan is on Tuesday followed by another consultant appointment - if she bothers to turn up!
Just read about the EX factor and noticed in your post you say that she "works in the hospital where you HAVE to give birth" - I just wanted to repeat what my midwives have said to me...
Legally you have the right to give birth wherever you want to - so although you might have a tougher route to getting your homebirth, they can't refuse it (although you might find it best to be open to a transfer should the need arise during your labour).....
Freebirth isn't for everybody but it was wonderful for me both times I did it and my free pregnancy was the best of all - no pressure, no scaremongering, no weighing how heavy or light I was....just me focusing on connecting with my baby, being as healthy as possible, preparing myself to birth - all the important stuff me thinks.
Giving birth in an environement of your choice with only those you love and trust and have a deep personal connection with. It typically does not involve the presence or care of any medical professional. Mom is highly informed on her health status, birth, and the various aspects of each. It's what some call an unassisted birth but I prefer the term free birth, personally, bc unassisted sounds negative to some ppl. As PP pointed out, it's not for everyone but it is truly an amazing way to birth-it dates back since the dawn if humanity. It's our primal roots
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