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Old Jul 15th, 2013, 14:27 PM   1
Mimzy3
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Positive Stories of Natural Birth With no Doula


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Looking for some encouragement. I have a midwife and we are all set on doing a water birth. As long as no unforeseen complications don't arise. I have done a lot of reading. Ina Mays Guide to Child Birth, Hypnobirthing, and now reading Birthing From Within. DH is reading The Birth Partner. And we are taking a child birthing class at the hospital which I will be delivering at.

My concern is I don't want to hire a doula. I just want it to be an intimate time with me and my husband. I'm just hoping I'm not being unrealistic in my goal to have this natural child birth without a doula?



 
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Old Jul 15th, 2013, 16:39 PM   2
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Hi!
I'm from uk so we don't really have Doulas. I had a natural birth in hospital using natal hypnotherapy. My baby was born in 4 hours using gas and air. It was a wonderful experience, and things went exactly how I wanted it to go thank god!
I used visualisation and breathing techniques plus water. I was in the bath for 2 hours however as my baby was back to back I felt more in control when pushing to be squatting on a bed. The water was so helpful during contractions though.
My mother was my birthing partner and my boyfriend was present although isn't good with pain and blood!
My mother having read all my books and watched the DVDs was excellent. I don't think you will need a doula as long as your husband is prepared and supportive which I'm sure he will be!
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Old Jul 16th, 2013, 06:50 AM   3
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I did have a doula (technically, though she was pretty useless), but I definitely would have been fine without her and don't plan to hire a doula next time. My doula was late getting there because she'd gone on holiday when she should have been on call for me (like I said, pretty useless!). She barely made it from the airport to my house in time for me to start pushing. She did help a little bit with helping me focus and vocalise better during the pushing stage, but that's all she did and I would have figured it out on my own. I laboured pretty much alone (with my husband checking in occasionally) from the start of labour until I was fully dilated and starting to push (that's when the midwives arrived and then doula about an hour after them, my daughter was born about 3 hours later). I much preferred being on my own too and found it a bit weird with so many people in the room. Since my doula didn't do much besides sit there and stare at me, it was too many people in the room and just generally distracting. You absolutely can have a natural birth without a doula. Actually, if you're in the U.S. midwives there do a lot more in the way of support and coaching than I think midwives here tend to as they are used to only really attending natural/home births, whereas here, midwives attend all births and (in hospital) might have more than one going on at a time (like an OB would in the U.S.), so you don't get as much one-on-one support. Sounds like you have a very supportive midwife, so I wouldn't have any concerns about whether you can do it, especially since you're doing hypnobirthing. I did a similar method and it was great (one of the reasons why I didn't really need too much additional support). Just trust yourself and know you can do it because you can.

If it's helpful, my birth story is below. Obviously, I did have a doula, but since she didn't do much, it might give you an idea of how a birth might go without one. I had a home birth, just using a TENS machine and hypnotherapy and it was a really positive experience.



 
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Old Jul 16th, 2013, 09:47 AM   4
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I've never heard that you need to have a doula if you're having a natural birth. If you don't want one, don't have one! I'm planning a natural birth at home and it will just be me, DH and the midwife x



 
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Old Jul 16th, 2013, 09:48 AM   5
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Thank you for the responses ladies!

I'm feeling more confident that I CAN do it without a doula.



 
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Old Jul 16th, 2013, 09:57 AM   6
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Yeah, course you can! You go



 
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Old Jul 16th, 2013, 20:51 PM   7
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WE're in thre US with baby number 1, and we're having a home birth with no doula. Just me, DH adn 2 midwives, who, as I understand it, will serve as birth attendant AND labor companions, so really, no need for a doula. Which I wouldn't have anyway, TBH, only want DH.



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 06:05 AM   8
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my last birth was just me and DH , no MW's no Doula, No Doctor and the Paramedic and EMT's showed up about 10min after the birth, was calm and relaxed ( as much as birth can be ) and i loved it. Id love another BBA and if it weren't for wanting to use the pool then id be considering freebirthing as it is with the pool i want the security of a MW there incase DH is occupied too much with the pool



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2013, 10:51 AM   9
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Yeah I was hoping my midwife would sort of service as a birth attendant too. She said she would be there as much as I wanted her to be or would leave me and my husband alone more if we wanted that too.

I plan on staying at home as long as I can before going to the hospital.



 
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Old Jul 18th, 2013, 16:13 PM   10
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Hi! I had a home water birth and read the books you are talking about as well. I found them to be very good preparation for a natural birth and did not end up using a doula. My husband and midwife both provided fabulous support so I didn't feel like I was missing out. I have a positive home birth story in my sig!



 
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