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Old Jan 21st, 2016, 10:32 AM   31
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I don't remember a ring of fire. I do recall pushing to be the most painful part of labour though. I literally thought I would die!! I have to add though that my pushing was short for a first time mom (25 mins) and I had a big-ish baby at 8lb 10oz, I also had no tearing



 
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Old Jan 22nd, 2016, 05:33 AM   32
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It's my least favourite part, but it's over quite quickly.

I've had 3 natural deliveries, and each time I have to give myself a mental pep-talk of "it's coming out anyway so shut up and get on with it!"

What I'd compare it to is (sorry TMI) when you're constipated and have to do a particularly big poo. Not pleasant and does hurt, but it isn't unbearable and it's over soon.



 
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Old Feb 3rd, 2016, 05:27 AM   33
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I don't remember feeling it with my first. I had a hospital birth the first time & had pethadine quite early on, I think it had wore off for the pushing stages.

My second I felt the ring of fire awful, it hurt so much but I had a home water birth with no midwife present. When I phoned the hospital they didn't believe I was in labour & refused to send a midwife out. I don't think this helped with the pain at all, it was excruciating from transition & I believe this was because I was panicking. I knew what was happening, I just kept screaming for a midwife & Gas & air. I had a second degree tear second time round & I feel all this could have been avoided if the midwife who answered the call in hospital would have trusted me knowing I was in labour.



 
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Old Feb 3rd, 2016, 06:28 AM   34
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I only felt it the third time as I had spinals rest and I was in shock. I gasped, I wont forget that in a hurry. But it was only a second, after no feeling.



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Old Feb 3rd, 2016, 14:40 PM   35
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Horrific, but I've had 2x pain relief free births, so it's very vivid. Its the only time I made any noise. However, it's not worth worrying about, there's nothing you can do about it and you are so close to meeting your baby then you just need to stay focused on that



 
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Old Feb 3rd, 2016, 18:18 PM   36
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Ouch! I'm really scared about this part the most!



 
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Old Feb 4th, 2016, 02:37 AM   37
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I think it can depend what your muscle tone is like down there. I dont mean your vagina, but more your skin because that is what stretches/tears. If it is more supple then it figures that it will be a less painful experience. But it is just luck of the draw on that!



 
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Old Feb 4th, 2016, 09:21 AM   38
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This is the part of labour I dread the most. I had a drug free birth with my DD (8lb 2oz no tears) and to be honest it's the only part of the labour I really remember from a pain point of view. That being said it doesn't last long and as soon as the head is out the rest kind of just follows and the pain disappears instantly



 
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Old Feb 4th, 2016, 10:42 AM   39
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With my first I had epidural so didn't feel it much. I was given episiotomy as well and I'm just so scared of tearing or getting cut again

The fact that I plan to go natural this time really frightens me!



 
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With my first I had epidural so didn't feel it much. I was given episiotomy as well and I'm just so scared of tearing or getting cut again

The fact that I plan to go natural this time really frightens me!
Try not to fear, fear is not a productive emotion in labour and can have negative consequences. Trust in your body, it knows how to birth. Women have been birthing for centuries without pain relief. You can do it.



 
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