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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 06:48 AM   31
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MM, I think I'd probably still go ahead with it, although I'd feel just as upset about it as you. My DH still thinks the hospital's the best (and I had a lovely text from a friend who asked me if the baby was here yet [urgh, already started!] remind me that home birth is a good idea if all goes to plan but there could be a delay if something goes wrong. Really?! Because I'm an idiot and hadn't considered all possibilities and thoroughly researched it before I made this decision. So glad someone told me! *obvious sarcasm*), but I'm convinced my stress would be through the roof at hospital, even in the birth centre. I need to be able to at least plan this and at least try. Is it possible for you to hire a doula (I would but can't afford any extras) or have another birth partner present that fully supports your plans?

For what it's worth, DH didn't want to go to my midwife appointment yesterday, when we discussed the home birth. But he did put me under instructions to remember everything to relay to him, which I did. Not my next visit, but the following ones, will all be here at home - so he can always discuss it with her then if he likes.



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 07:27 AM   32
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 07:39 AM   33
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 08:22 AM   34
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Thank you ladies Long but please please read


MM thank you for the heads up on this thread So glad you thought of me its great

Marley2580 Thank you x10000 for sharing your birth plan I was her almost wetting myself at some parts especialy the part about telling the "is it here yet brigade" to sod off and bashing people with the gas and air. But its really good lots of bits I would'nt have thought to include even after going through it 4 times. Good luck and don't do too much damage with heavy objects.

MM I hope you get your home birth preferably with full suport of OH. I have to say if you really feel it's right for you it probably is. My first 3 children (from 1st marrage) were born in hospital... ok easy births with no complications but it all felt so clinical. I was in more pain because of being stuck in one place and bored because of being limited to one room and because they were all born in the middle of the night, it was more or less insisted that I stay till morning.... then you have to wait to be given the "all clear" b4 you can leave and wheres dad in all this...... AT HOME ALONE (ok looking back best place for my x !!), fending of the calls and well wishers and and waiting around for the call to come get you.
Im sorry but i'm just of the opinion that at such a special time mum, dad, new baby and other children (and if its your wish other close reletives) should be with you ..especialy mum and dad together. Dads seem to get a little pushed out all too easlily as it is, all the focus is on mum and baby so for dad to be shipped off home is just out of the question for me, even the possibility of it happening.
My Oh (2nd hubby And brilliant) supported me fully when I wanted our DS to be born at home, 1st because he knows how much I hate hospitals and second because he trusted in my instincs but also because he weighed every thing up.... Pregnancy had been complication free, we were a 10 minute ambulance ride from hopspital should it be needed, full support of midwifes ( who at the end of the day knew what they were doing and talking about) And lastly because this was our time we wanted to be together and share those special precious moments that you can never have back if you loose them. And it was wonderful I had a dry birth last time but he was with me every step of the way. It was almost as if it was just us, the midwife stepped in if and when she was needed and after the three of us just snuggled up in bed and I have to say it's made us closer.
This time we've brought a pool, I'm not sure yet if I will actually have her in the pool or if we will use it but OH knows whatever happens we will be relaxed and in our home and if anything happens the midwifes are there with their wealth of knowledge and experience. They have seen things b4 and know where they do or don't lead and can make decisions way in advance of emergencys. At the end of the day if there is a problem they already know of b4 hand they are already prepaired for it, if the problem is too great they will not allow/support a homebirth in the 1st place and if a problem arrises that they or anyone else did not know of its just the same as being in hospital.. If your in the delivery suite and a problem appears they have to prep theatre get the extra staff called, assembled and scrubbed up and you knocked out or whetever. If this happens at a home birth the ambulance is already on call ( midwife notifies ambulance station etc for homebirths as routine just in case they're needed, so they are already ready) the hospital are doing all the theatre and staff prep while you are on the way and you go straight to theatre (worst case) as you would from the delivery suite at hospital.
If you are the sort of person (and this is NOT a knock to anyone) that feels more secure and comfortable in a hospital then being worried or stressed won't make it a good experience for you.
BUT if you are comfortable with a fully quailfied midwife who at the end of the day delivers babys (not doctors so is the specialist in that field at the end of the day. You wouldn't go to a heart specialist for a brain op!!) and are comforable you can manage your pain (another factor for most) but which I have to say from experience was much easier at home??? Then this will be a good and enjoyable experience for you which you may regret if you don't try it.
You can always ask at any stage to be transfered to the hospital if you get worried or can't manage the pain or just want to go. It seems to be an unspoked thing that if you choose a homebirth you only go to the hospital if something goes wrong and then it gets all scary. But thats just not the case you can ask to go in at anytime for any reason

Sorry I've waffled on enough. I don't want to sway or pressure anyone, but I hope that anyone wanting to do it but just don't know if they can will get something from this. If everything has been ok through pregnancy give it a try arrange everything and transfer to hospital if need be.... But you may just be surprised at how relaxing and calm evrything is and be there a lot longer than you thought you would. After all they are now making birthing centers away from hospitals and as homley as they can



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 10:25 AM   35
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I have had 2 amazing home births, dylan was born on my bathroom floor after me labouring in my dimly lit bath and harry was born on the lounge floor and the other two kids were there to watch it.
Each one was different and each was beautiful.
With Dylan i started getting contractions at 7pm, anais went to stay at the neighbours and we went for a walk around our estate for an hour so i could keep the labour going.
By 10pm it was getting painful and i used the tens machine i had hired.
The midwife came out at 11pm and i was 7cm dilated.
We were drinking tea and watching tv and i was walking around the house to ease the pain.
At about midnight the midwife ran me a hot bath to help with the pain. We had it dimly lit and very peaceful, the contractions were very strong but weirdly i was relaxed enough that i dozed off in the bath.
At about 2am it was getting REALLY painful and i was writhing around the bath like an injured seal!!!!! We called the midwife upstairs as she had left us to it and she checked me.
I was 10cm dilated and feeling ready to push.
I got out of the bath, knelt down holding onto the bath and pushed out my beautiful 7lb 8oz Dylan, natural birth, no pain relief and totally amazing.
The midwife showered me while steve dressed dylan and we went and got into bed while the midwives mopped the bathroom floor and made us a cup of tea and toast.
Within an hour of dylan being born the midwives were gone and we were tucked up in bed sleeping xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
This is my birth story with Harry
http://www.babyandbump.com/birth-ann...ics-added.html

Where the mess is concerned with both of my home births i set up a ''birth area'' in the lounge - this was basically layers on the floor -
old double quilt, covered by cheap shower curtain, covered by old blanket and towels.
Both times the midwives cleared up all the mess while i was getting cleaned up and getting into bed.

If anyone has any questions feel free to ask anything xxxxxxxx



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 11:12 AM   36
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i had a homebirth with Robyn last year and it was the best thing i have ever done.
I felt more in control of things, the midwife was helpful but kept her distance.. i never noticed any mess at all they cleared it up instantly... where as with Ewans hospital birth i was left sat in blood etc for over an hour! and had to request that they clear it up!!
i just used an old duvet to kneel on.

Midwives stayed after the birth for a couple of hours to ensure that i wasn't bleeding heavily. We had tea and toast and a chat after the birth.

Oh was very set FOR a home birth, he was very supportive especially after Ewans rather negative hospital birth.



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 11:17 AM   37
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I'm planning a home water birth. Hypnobirthing sounds like something I'd like to go for too, does it cost a fortune? Having the lights off and nice music on sounds like a good idea RosieandAlan. I must admit, I haven't put much thought into the actual birth yet. But my OH being abroad at the moment makes it a bit tricky to discuss with him...



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 11:30 AM   38
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I'm really hoping for a home birth, It's so much more relaxing and I might be moving house so I have more room for the pool and everything. : )



 
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I'm planning a home water birth. Hypnobirthing sounds like something I'd like to go for too, does it cost a fortune? Having the lights off and nice music on sounds like a good idea RosieandAlan. I must admit, I haven't put much thought into the actual birth yet. But my OH being abroad at the moment makes it a bit tricky to discuss with him...

I suppose it depends on what you think is a fortune! We have paid 180 for 12 hours of sessions. I think that's good and my HIP grant covered it with a tenner to spare



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2010, 12:12 PM   40
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Thanks for all the home birth stories!

When we first started TTC I did not think about a home birth, but after lots of reading and research I know it is the right thing for me. It is where I am the most comfortable and happy! The only tricky part is my 3 dogs (all small) but I figure if they get too barky with the midwife & doula they'll just be locked away in a different room.

I am really excited to have a home birth. I mentioned it to my midwife, who is definitely pro home birth, and as long as all is good come that time we will go for it. My doula also has home birth experiance, so I know between midwife, doula and DH I will have all the support I need!

Has anyone taken a Birthing from Within class? That is what we are planning on taking.



 
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