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Old Jun 25th, 2010, 03:56 AM   11
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what i would do in your position hun is inform them when you go into labour but also inform them due to treatment you have received from them in the past you will be doing the majority if not all your labour and birth at home with the least medical intervention as possible but will request it if required and that if you are not treated at a satisfactory level you will be making an official complaint to the medical board and to the local trust services as you do not and will not be treated like you were last time, but this will only be if you need the medical assistance.
that way they ar einformed incase you do need medical intervention if complications arise, and if you do go into hospital if you feel like anything is being forced onto you or you are being treated poorly then say to them, or shout if needs be, i am the mother of this child and i know my rights and if you dont listen to me or carry on with your behaviour i will come down on you like a ton of bricks after i leave as i know that the way you are treating me is unfair and uncalled for, do a bit of research if you have to and throw the legal book at them, they cannot treat you that way and if you dont put your foot down firmly they will, and everytime they come near you to try and do something you dont want them to scream at them in the face! worked wonders for a friend of mine! they wanted to break her waters but she didnt want them to as baby was fine and even though she was in major pain obviously she was fine so everytime they tried to she clamped her legs shut got on all fours and growled at them, they soon got the picture to leave her alone! xx
can see myself doing that!



 
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Old Jun 25th, 2010, 03:59 AM   12
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My daughter was recently blue lighted to hospital due to convulsions and it literally took 5 mins, i am fully informed aware and sensible although i am very acutely aware that people hear the word freebirthing and panic thinking its a reckless decision etc etc. i am not planning a freebirth as such. my childrens dad would prob call someone when the water hits the floor even if i didnt want him too... it just fills me with dread and fear. Hopfully i can just call someone when its going to be to late to move me anywhere (unless its a real emergency obviously) x
if it fills you with that much fear and dread you thought about hypnotherapy to help control you fear a bit more? even if you cant afford it you can do it yourself in a way, all you need to do is meditate twice a day every day best once in the morning and once in the evening if possible, concentrate on your breathing, in for 10 counts out for 10 counts, eyes closed, picturing your baby, and just say the mantra 'i am a blessed childbearing woman, i am strong willed and know my own body, i will not panic if medical intervention is required for the safety of my precious child' say it to yourself 15 times. it will really help you to relax and clear your mind more and calm your nerves and feelings for if the time arises where you do need their help. xx
i am listening to the natal therapy cds most evenings and they are really helpful. going with the flow seems to be the only option, i have such naggins anxiety about hospital. i am seeing the midwife next week i think so will talk to her then.

I have been so freaked about being taken in for monitoring this will be my 4th midwife visit, they wernt very happy that a refused consultant led care and wanted to keep midwife visits to a min.... not very happy is an understatement actually because they refered me to a mental health trained midwife...hazard anyone have independent thought eh!



 
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Old Jun 25th, 2010, 04:38 AM   13
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Im not surprised you dont want to go to the hospital if thats how they treat people! How far away is the next hospital? If its not too far you could go there instead. Failing that have your baby at home like you want to, call M/W towards the end and refuse to go to hospital unless there is a serious problem. You should have her there to monitor bubs just in case, if you didnt ring her at all and there was a problem you would never forgive yourself. But you can refuse anything she suggests, she cant MAKE you go to hospital and you can tell her to shut the hell up if she keeps trying to make you! Have you written your birth plan yet? Maybe showing it to the midwives will make them see you mean business! xxx



 
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Old Jun 25th, 2010, 04:43 AM   14
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no birth plan yet, i have just started to get bits together for the birth. The next hospital is pretty far away. I think i will just sit it out at home x



 
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I would just make sure you have a really clear birthplan then, and that your birthing partner makes sure they stick to it! Having a baby at home is a wonderful thing, dont let them make you feel bad for wanting it good luck xxx



 
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I don't know what the waiting list is like where you live but have you thought about a birth centre that isn't within a hospital? I know that in Australia, some people put themselved on the waiting list during the first trimester and you are already in the 3rd trimester.

Giving birth in a place that you feel uncomfortable is going to have a negative impact on the whole experience like making labour slow down or sometimes even stop. If you end up giving birth in a hospital, don't go without a doula. Find one that is in it for the passion of helping women and supporting them and they will more likely talk about the fees. Midwives will do the same. Call around in your area and, even if they aren't going to be your midwife, they will probably give you great advice on how you can create the best birthing experience.

Have you read Birthing From Within by Pam England? It is a great book which can give lots of advice on making birth a rite of passage.

Read up on how to make an effective birthplan so that there is less of a chance that it will get chucked out the window and make sure your OH knows what you want and what to say to anyone if they stand in your path of getting it.

I wish you all of the strength in the world to make this a positive experience and a beautiful rite of passage for your family.



 
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Old Jun 25th, 2010, 10:18 AM   17
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I don't know what the waiting list is like where you live but have you thought about a birth centre that isn't within a hospital? I know that in Australia, some people put themselved on the waiting list during the first trimester and you are already in the 3rd trimester.

Giving birth in a place that you feel uncomfortable is going to have a negative impact on the whole experience like making labour slow down or sometimes even stop. If you end up giving birth in a hospital, don't go without a doula. Find one that is in it for the passion of helping women and supporting them and they will more likely talk about the fees. Midwives will do the same. Call around in your area and, even if they aren't going to be your midwife, they will probably give you great advice on how you can create the best birthing experience.

Have you read Birthing From Within by Pam England? It is a great book which can give lots of advice on making birth a rite of passage.

Read up on how to make an effective birthplan so that there is less of a chance that it will get chucked out the window and make sure your OH knows what you want and what to say to anyone if they stand in your path of getting it.

I wish you all of the strength in the world to make this a positive experience and a beautiful rite of passage for your family.
if there were a birth centre near to me i would totally push to birth there, that way it would keep everyone happy but there isnt which is really sad it would make alot of diff to alot of people if we did have one.
Im going to draft a birth plan tonight when my wee one is in bed, i might post it here to see what you guys think?

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Old Jun 25th, 2010, 10:30 AM   18
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i am confused, if you hate the idea of hospital, why haven't you spoken to your MW and arranged for a home birth?? sorry if i have missed something. i hate hospitals with a passion too, was determined to have my baby at home and had a wonderful home birth!



 
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Old Jun 25th, 2010, 11:31 AM   19
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my midwife is unsupportive because i refused consultant led care. i dont hate hospital i am just terrified to have another baby in hospital. I know because of my history that any midwife that comes out to a home birth will try to get me into hospital at the slightest issue.thats if they come out at all! midwifes here tell you what you want to hear then when your in labour tell you they have no staff and that you have to go in. Fact is theyll have to find staff i guess!



 
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My daughter was recently blue lighted to hospital due to convulsions and it literally took 5 mins, i am fully informed aware and sensible although i am very acutely aware that people hear the word freebirthing and panic thinking its a reckless decision etc etc. i am not planning a freebirth as such. my childrens dad would prob call someone when the water hits the floor even if i didnt want him too... it just fills me with dread and fear. Hopfully i can just call someone when its going to be to late to move me anywhere (unless its a real emergency obviously) x
if it fills you with that much fear and dread you thought about hypnotherapy to help control you fear a bit more? even if you cant afford it you can do it yourself in a way, all you need to do is meditate twice a day every day best once in the morning and once in the evening if possible, concentrate on your breathing, in for 10 counts out for 10 counts, eyes closed, picturing your baby, and just say the mantra 'i am a blessed childbearing woman, i am strong willed and know my own body, i will not panic if medical intervention is required for the safety of my precious child' say it to yourself 15 times. it will really help you to relax and clear your mind more and calm your nerves and feelings for if the time arises where you do need their help. xx
i am listening to the natal therapy cds most evenings and they are really helpful. going with the flow seems to be the only option, i have such naggins anxiety about hospital. i am seeing the midwife next week i think so will talk to her then.

I have been so freaked about being taken in for monitoring this will be my 4th midwife visit, they wernt very happy that a refused consultant led care and wanted to keep midwife visits to a min.... not very happy is an understatement actually because they refered me to a mental health trained midwife...hazard anyone have independent thought eh!
I have no words! that is so appalling!
who do they think they are? birthing-fascists!?



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