Don't have a vaginal examination and that way you'll only push when you have the urge and follow your instincts. Some women do feel the urge sooner. Listen to your body. A vaginal exam is only as good as the second it's done. You can dilate in minutes.
This article might help. http://midwifethinking.com/2011/01/2...ly-good-birth/ An increasing number of midwives are starting to think that preventing women from following their natural urges can actually cause more problems. Personally, as long as there have been no artificial interventions which might have caused an early urge to push, I would rather listen to my own body.
Try not to over think it. Just do what feels right on the day. If you feel pushy, try a little push and see how that feels. Usually, it's kind of like being sick. You know HOW to retch right? You could have an expert at your shoulder telling you when to retch and when to pant, but wouldn't it just be easier to do what your body wanted to do anyway, and get out whatever it needed to get out? And sometimes, there IS no controlling it or stopping it, your body just goes ahead and does it - and in that case telling you not to is worse than pointless!
I used the technique of breathing baby down I don't know why it's just what I did on the day. I think because I was scared of getting stitiches. But when the urge comes you can't stop you just do it.
Maybe try that when you feel like you want to push just try the breathing thing and let your body do it until its where your body takes over and you need to push?
Thanks for all the advice ladies. I'll have a look at those links in a mo.
Thing is with my last labour I got the urge to push and was told not to as they wouldn't do an internal to see how dilated I was (3hr rule). This is when I believe things started going wrong for me as by the time they did check me and realise I was dilated my contractions had stopped so I needed a drip and everything just got rather forced from that point. I honestly believe my lo should and would have been born about three hrs earlier if I'd have done what my body was urging me to instead of listening to the Mw.
This time I've put in my birth plan that if I get the urge to push I'm insisting on an immediate internal.
But u think I should miss the internal altogether if I need to push? I've no issues with internals as long as they don't actually do anything more than assess.
Insisting on an internal will put you on a 'clock'. So if you feel like pushing and they say you're 7cm are you going to not push again if you feel that's what went wrong last time? Like wise of you feel like pushing have an internal, are fully and are on the clock, they might not be happy with how long you're pushing for.....
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