heres a tip
if you go into hospital then be armed with the words i do not consent to ....
if there are things that you def dont want then laminate a piece of paper with i do not consent to written in big letters then all the things underneath
for example im sure if you say and have in writing the fact that you do not consent to the use of pitocin then i dont think legaly they can give it to you
also get a douls aor make sure your birth partner is ready to fight to the death to keep unwanted interventions away from you
i agree with watching the buisness of being born do what you feel is right for you ignore anyone who has not spent at least an hour looking up the pros and cons of homebirth
Many people fear childbirth. They see it as painful and scary, and think about all the things that could happen. They think that women can't cope with it without intervention and pain relief. This, quite frankly, is IGNORANCE.
I remember when I was doing my NCT course, and my course leader asked the question, 'Who believes labour and birth to be painful?' Every person there, with the exception of myself and my husband, raised their hands. Then she said, 'Why?' Not one of them could answer her.
Not so long ago, mere decades in fact, home birth was the standard. Hospital births only came in around the 1950s, I believe, and women were deeply mistrustful of them. Rightly so in my opinion. Don't get me wrong, they have their place, there will always be emergency situations which we need help with. The fact is that I'm not going to go to a hospital just in case. Just in case what? Ok so I'm going to cross the road now, I'd better go to hospital in case I break my leg. Well what if you don't break your leg? Well in that case I'm at the hospital for no bloody reason!
Bad mother for considering home birth? Ha! No way. My son was born in the most loving, peaceful way possible, he had a wonderful start to life thanks to my choices. Birth doesn't go wrong in the space of a minute. The warning signs start early and are spotted early, and if you are comfortable, relaxed and positive there is significantly less chance of anything going wrong.
People don't understand because it is contrary to the norm these days, and they have not done any research. Smile sweetly and let them get on with their scare-mongering. Women are STRONG, believe in your body!
you know another good point is half the drugs they gave women for labour and birth 10 years ago are now not used because they caused all sorts of problems i wonder in 10 or 20 years from now how many of the drugs they use now will be out of commision due to health risks?
this it why im going to a mainly midwife led center and trying to do the whole thing on gas and air because it leaves your system quickly and a birth pool
One thing I learned about other people and their opinions is that it's not my job to convince them of what I know or intuitively feel to be true for me. I knew that home birth was right for me, but my parents, being the generation they are, assumed this was very risky. At first I felt pressured to convince them of how safe home birth is, but then I realized that was just a waste of time and energy. What I needed to do instead was focus inward and figure out what my truth is and face any fears that pop up.
It sounds like this might be a great opportunity for you to look at any fears that have come up since your family has been trying to convince you to go to the hospital to give birth. What part of you is influenced by their words? Does that part of you feel small, out of control, or alone? If you're into delving inward like I am then I highly recommend the book "Birthing from Within"--it's awesome for exploring any fears you have surrounding birth, using tools like drawing, creative visualization, things of that nature. Also, a woman named Laura Shanley has a wonderful website--do a google search for unassisted birth and you'll find her site (this forum won't let me post the direct link because I haven't made enough posts yet ). The articles, stories and interesting information about unassisted birth isn't necessarily just for women who've chosen to give birth unassisted, it's also for anyone who is looking to deepen their trust in the natural flow/rhythm of birth and also to help them let go of any fear.
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