PLEASE help me feel confident about not getting an epidural! - Page 2

madasa · Apr 11th, 2012, 17:12 PM

aliss, I am so sorry

for your bad experience and your loss

madasa · Apr 11th, 2012, 17:42 PM

I'd no more numb myself for a normal birth than I would for sex. Birth is a lot like sex. Yes it can be messy, yes it can be tiring and yes it can hurt. Sex can be all of that too. But it can also be great! It can be feminine and raw and sexy and powerful and primal and empowering and uplifting and satisfying.... And birth can be those things too.

The key is working out what you WILL do (how you will cope with the sensations)... rather than focussing on the things you don't want to do. (Star Wars alert) Your focus determines your reality. Just breathing is huge - start there, focus on that. The ONE thing my midwife said at my homebirth that stuck with me was: "Just breathe them away." So simple, but it helped so much!

Rhythm helps.... (See, another similarity to sex!

) Dancing, rocking, swaying, breathing.... I got into a rhythm in labour with DC2. Breeeeeeathe thru a ctx, sip water, relax my whole body, rest, repeat, repeat, repeat.

campost006 · Apr 15th, 2012, 12:14 PM

i had an epi with my first and afterwards i had extreme back problems. I decided this time around I would suck it up and go completely natural. I made it all the way to 7 cm the 1st time 3 more cant hurt lol

oh not to mention I have a really big back tattoo and dont think i can get an epi now

Pixxie · Apr 16th, 2012, 16:13 PM

Listen, your body is made to do this! You are designed to cope with labour, you don't need anything! (repeat daily for maximum effect)

No one ever died or even passed out from the pain of labour

xx

aliss · Apr 16th, 2012, 17:11 PM

I did pass out from pain actually! That was on pitocin and my abdominals tore.

Pixxie · Apr 17th, 2012, 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by aliss

I did pass out from pain actually! That was on pitocin and my abdominals tore.

I mean in normal circumstances, your situation is obviously an exception! :O

LadyM812 · Apr 24th, 2012, 00:08 AM

Make a list of the reasons why you want to do this naturally, and have your birth partner read them to you while you're in labour.

Also, Make a list of thoughts you find comforting, and have someone read those to you when you need them during labour. One that really sticks with me is "Pain is temporary, Pride is forever"; it's what my old hockey coach used to say to us when I was young.

punk_pig · Apr 24th, 2012, 14:06 PM

Visualisation helped me loads. I imagined the seashore and watching waves swell and break. As the contraction peaked I imagined the wave peak and as it ebbed away I imagined the wave breaking. Linking the contraction to something that inevitably breaks and dissipates away helped me realise the contraction wouldn't last and would go away - this helped loads and stopped me panicking.

Rachiebaby24 · Apr 27th, 2012, 09:39 AM

Before I had my girls i cried when I had my belly button peirced, cried when i was constipated and would avoid any pain at all costs. Im a self confessed WIMP!

For me, labour pain is not like a ouch pain. its an all consuming feeling to me. like im possessed so its a different type of pain. and the main reason i didnt want drugs was because i was sacred of a needle in my back and also i didnt want anything that may make my labour last longer.

oh and when people tell you to deep breathe and relax - do it!! i thought it was a load of crap with my first baby (i had gas and air) and often thought people were stupid for telling me to breathe but IT DOES HELP LOADS!!!

Housewife83 · Apr 27th, 2012, 10:14 AM

I had an epidural but it failed so I did the worst bit of labor without pain relief.

I won't lie, it is horrible. But I got through it and recovered very quickly. If I can do it you can too!

Apr 11th, 2012, 17:12 PM	#11
madasa Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Shropshire, UK Posts: 3,152	aliss, I am so sorry for your bad experience and your loss

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Apr 11th, 2012, 17:42 PM	#12
madasa Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Shropshire, UK Posts: 3,152	I'd no more numb myself for a normal birth than I would for sex. Birth is a lot like sex. Yes it can be messy, yes it can be tiring and yes it can hurt. Sex can be all of that too. But it can also be great! It can be feminine and raw and sexy and powerful and primal and empowering and uplifting and satisfying.... And birth can be those things too. The key is working out what you WILL do (how you will cope with the sensations)... rather than focussing on the things you don't want to do. (Star Wars alert) Your focus determines your reality. Just breathing is huge - start there, focus on that. The ONE thing my midwife said at my homebirth that stuck with me was: "Just breathe them away." So simple, but it helped so much! Rhythm helps.... (See, another similarity to sex! ) Dancing, rocking, swaying, breathing.... I got into a rhythm in labour with DC2. Breeeeeeathe thru a ctx, sip water, relax my whole body, rest, repeat, repeat, repeat.

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Apr 15th, 2012, 12:14 PM	#13
campost006 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Houston, Tx. Posts: 290	i had an epi with my first and afterwards i had extreme back problems. I decided this time around I would suck it up and go completely natural. I made it all the way to 7 cm the 1st time 3 more cant hurt lol oh not to mention I have a really big back tattoo and dont think i can get an epi now

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Apr 16th, 2012, 16:13 PM	#14
Pixxie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Salford, UK Posts: 7,239	Listen, your body is made to do this! You are designed to cope with labour, you don't need anything! (repeat daily for maximum effect) No one ever died or even passed out from the pain of labour xx

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Apr 16th, 2012, 17:11 PM	#15
aliss AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Québec Posts: 24,336	I did pass out from pain actually! That was on pitocin and my abdominals tore.

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Apr 24th, 2012, 00:08 AM	#17
LadyM812 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 344	Make a list of the reasons why you want to do this naturally, and have your birth partner read them to you while you're in labour. Also, Make a list of thoughts you find comforting, and have someone read those to you when you need them during labour. One that really sticks with me is "Pain is temporary, Pride is forever"; it's what my old hockey coach used to say to us when I was young.

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Apr 24th, 2012, 14:06 PM	#18
punk_pig Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: UK Posts: 2,422	Visualisation helped me loads. I imagined the seashore and watching waves swell and break. As the contraction peaked I imagined the wave peak and as it ebbed away I imagined the wave breaking. Linking the contraction to something that inevitably breaks and dissipates away helped me realise the contraction wouldn't last and would go away - this helped loads and stopped me panicking.

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Apr 27th, 2012, 09:39 AM	#19
Rachiebaby24 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Mitcham Posts: 4,149	Before I had my girls i cried when I had my belly button peirced, cried when i was constipated and would avoid any pain at all costs. Im a self confessed WIMP! For me, labour pain is not like a ouch pain. its an all consuming feeling to me. like im possessed so its a different type of pain. and the main reason i didnt want drugs was because i was sacred of a needle in my back and also i didnt want anything that may make my labour last longer. oh and when people tell you to deep breathe and relax - do it!! i thought it was a load of crap with my first baby (i had gas and air) and often thought people were stupid for telling me to breathe but IT DOES HELP LOADS!!!

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Apr 27th, 2012, 10:14 AM	#20
Housewife83 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,526	I had an epidural but it failed so I did the worst bit of labor without pain relief. I won't lie, it is horrible. But I got through it and recovered very quickly. If I can do it you can too!

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