Hey there...I guess I might as well just hop into the cold water and hope it gets warmer?

I am 26 years old, my husband is 26 years old as well and...well we want to have kids XD I was looking for a forum to talk and discuss everything related to that and found this place. It seemed nice while looking around so I just give it a shot.

My husband and I are planning on having kids some time around being 28-30 years old. I am VERY concerned about being fit to be a good enough mother so in order to ever finally agree to having a baby I need a place to bring all my questions and concerns to. Just a place to share I guess

A bit about myself: I moved from Germany to the USA in September 2010 to live with my husband who grew up here (even though he was born in China). That has been a tremendous change in my life obviously and I seem to after almost 2 years not take it so very well...I developed some kind of anxiety problem and am currently trying to find my way back to a normal life. Which is one of my main concerns at the moment, when thinking about having a baby.

Another one is, that I don't know if I really want to raise a child or two without my family being around. All my family is in Germany So our kid/s won't have two pairs of grand parents and my family won't get to see them growing up etc. That really really concerns me a lot.

And then there's the question if I'd be a good Mom...I know I'm not the only one worrying about that but well - I am a little different than the average new Mom I am diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, even though I tend to deal pretty well with it it does bother me when thinking about being or not being fit to raise children. The most significant part about it is, that I am not very socially competent. As in, competent with dealing with people. I'm a good person - I am just having a really hard time being with people

Well...I really DO want to have children. When thinking about it, I'd love it to happen in about 2 years, when my husband is done with his current education. But I have so many worries and doubts and nobody to really talk to about all this So maybe this is a good place for me. We will see.

Anyway: Hi. I love answering questions (weird?) so whatever you want to know: ask!!! Plus...I never know what to say or when I have said all I wanted to say so I'm probably missing like half of the important stuff...

Welcome!

Thank you so very much

Welcome to BnB x x

Hi!

Hi and welcome to BnB xxx

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Thanks for all the Welcomes...and how does this work? XD I am pretty clueless as to where to go. I am hoping to make some contacts maybe with people going through the same stuff as me? ._. I think sharing experiences might help ._.

Welcome to BnB!

Hi! I only joined this site last week, but can say that it really does help to have access to so many people's ttc journeys. To search for people similar to yourself, you can click the "site map" button on the home page and see if anything there seems appealing. Or, what I sometimes do, is just go to Google and type in what I want to know about ttc and 9/10 times a bnb thread is revealed in the results.