Smoke Marijuana!

I went to visit family a few months ago and stayed with my older sister. She has a 14 yo old son, whom she has taken out of public school, and he does school online. However, it was brought up that she allows him to smoke pot. She doesnt smoke it with him, or let him smoke in front of her, from what I know, but that is questionable knowing my sister. Her excuse to me was that, " he is going to do it no matter what I say or do." To me that is just appalling I dont get it. Is it just me ladies or does this seem wrong?

Addiction runs in my family, my mother died from a drug overdose, and my sister has struggled with addiction herself. In fdact I suspect she was using when I visited her.

To some, smoking marijuana may not be such a buig deal, and perhaps its no more of a big deal than smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol, but this kid is 14!!! IMO teenagers are unable to make such decisions and this poor kid is headed down the wrong road. It sucks to sit by and watch this happen. I can't do anything other than protest to her since it is not my child. What would you do?

Ooops meant to post this in the kids and teen section ^_^

I know you posted it in the wrong section but I thought I'd comment anyways. My older brother smokes it, he has epilepsy and it helps keep the seizures away. He started at 16 years old and has every day since. He is now 21 and has a family of his own. Although inwould definitely not recommend smoking it there is no more harm then smoking cigarette. I hope that he can have a straight and good life even though he smokes it. Im sure your sister had talked with him before about it and tried to help him out - or at least you would think she would

^^ I think its a bit different for your brother to be using it as medicine I realize its tricky to approach her but gah these things do my head in. IMO I think its irresponsible for your sister to encourage/allow it when addiction runs in your family.

Yes, that is what concerns me the most. He is using for recreational purposes, and Im worried that if it is not corrected it will lead to harder drugs.

I don't really have any experience in this since I have a two year old but I was a teen recently and there was no way any of my siblings or I would get away with something because there was nothing more to do. Not trying to offend but your sister sounds like a pushover.

When my daughter is a teen, I'd rather her smoke weed in my home then out with friends where she might go do something dumb, tbh. Smoking weed isn't a HUGE deal to me at all.

Lol smh

I would rather my child smoke it where i could keep an eye on the intake rather than out and about with friends.

I understand where you come from and i think you are right to be concerned but i don't think there is really anything that you can do about it. It's possible that your sister wants her son to smoke it at home rather than out with friends and therefore keep an eye on him to make sure he isn't doing anything else.

I'm sorry ladies but that reasoning is not only wrong it is incredibly flawed. If a teenager is going to use illicit drugs and smoke marihuana in your home they are going to do it anywhere they want they have already shown they have no respect for authority. Not to mention that marihuana is a central nervous system depressant and stimulant. At the age of 14 the brain is still in a critical period of development and using any illicit drugs can cause mental immaturity. Teenagers are already incapable of making good decision which is the reason that I didn't wanna ask the question in this board! You ladies, no offense, are not capable of making good judgements on a level like this because the brain is not fully matured and ready. Let alone say how a teenager should raise a teenager. The fact that you believe allowing your child to commit a crime in your home and put them at risk by using a chemically altering substance is further evidence of that! You might as well say you will allow them to smoke, drink, and have sex in your house as well. After all they are going to do it outside of the home anyways. He's 14 and there needs to be rules and restriction especially when he is putting his whole life on the line!