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Old Oct 24th, 2015, 19:31 PM   11
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Oh my goodness, that's all I can say, what a couple of weeks eh?!
OK, so now everything is out in the open. Did your little sister go willingly back to moms place? does she see how you've tried to protect her?
Hopefully she's gained some strength from seeing that you and other sister are on her side and hopefully she can hold on til she's old enough to leave your mom's place.

Maybe she could speak to school counselor?
If she really is sure she can't stay at your mom's, then she needs to get children's services involved, and maybe they can find her a foster place where she might feel better. Obviously the more legal it gets, the more broken the family will be, its hard to come back from it once it's started.



 
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Old Oct 25th, 2015, 17:48 PM   12
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hey hey! so sorry that the things turned out like this :/ and kudos to you for taking so much care about your sister.

your mom is being incredibly selfish - have no words for her. i also think cops can't really decide if what your sister is going through is abuse - i think a psychologist or child services need to decide that - and i think your mother has been more than abusive, and not only in this particular situation.

i would try to talk to a councilor or school councilor about your situation and ask them how to proceed to get your sister to live with you. what is the minimum age for her to be able to leave your parents without being deported back to them?

would it be possible to have your mother talk to a therapist? maybe even your sisters therapist?



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Old Oct 26th, 2015, 18:36 PM   13
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You know as a christian and mother I couldn't imagine my kids not being able to come to me, and not supporting my kids no matter what, and I truly would, but then again I am also not against gay marriage or life style as a christian either, and we go to church..I am so sorry for you sister ..I am so sorry she's going through this!!She should have gotten help, sooner..Being a teenager alone is hard,and then add in everything else too..



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Old Oct 29th, 2015, 15:44 PM   14
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I think you should definitely get social services involved. At 15 she will possibly be considered old enough to choose where she wants to live.



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2015, 20:15 PM   15
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You are right about being vulnerable! Seems like you are the only one who gets that at this point. If you think you can manage it, try to keep her with you for a little bit until you feel confident in her. Sexuality aside, she is experiencing some deep internal conflict and it doesn't sound like living with her parents in that environment is very helpful!

At that age I remember being very confused and lonely and depressed, doing the same things your sister does. Therapy, hospitalization, none of that worked because all I really needed was to feel accepted and heard by my support system. Well, be that support system for your sister and she will find peace! It will be like a day and night difference, believe me! Best of luck to the both of you



 
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Old Nov 2nd, 2015, 02:41 AM   16
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What a nightmare!

I agree with the others you are the most supportive person in her life.

Given she is back with your mum I think social services / school should become involved. I find her therapist very worrying she needs a true therapist -not some church amateur who'll spill the confidential beans when the time is right - there is never a right time for a professional therapist to tell what was said in confidence!!!

I think a word with school will not go amiss. School possibly have access to a councillor who can listen to her deepest fears and feelings. She can probably speak to them without her mum knowing.

Hope she is able to get help soon. Your are a fab big sister to her and her best hope of getting help.



 
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Old Nov 2nd, 2015, 12:17 PM   17
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That sounds horrible, I definitely keep your sister at your place. This sounds like something you would hear on homeschool anonymous . maybe contact them for help.



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2015, 04:09 AM   18
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Hey, how's things now?



 
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Old Nov 15th, 2016, 21:00 PM   19
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I know how your sister feels. Not the sexuality part but the depression part - especially the hating everyone but hating yourself even more part. When I read that it really resonated with me.

I have tried many things in the past, yoga, exercise, diet, drinking more water, therapy, everything but the only thing that worked for me is medication (antidepressants). I would be a mess without them.

I think if you can make it work your sister should stay with you at least until she gets on top of her issues.



 
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