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Old May 6th, 2017, 15:07 PM   51
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I know it was upsetting at the time as I just plucked up the courage to try and go and make some mum friends. I have to admit every time Weirdly meet some one like a new parent at my DD preschool I dread the question and feel embarrassed when I tell them.
Its crazy as I feel I need to justify why I'm at home. I'm getting more questions about when I'm returning to work now that I'm expecting with no#2? Such a funny world we live in there's no right or wrong as every family is different x
That woman was just rude and weird, it's a complete non issue to me and every other mum I know irl. I can't see why it's still a debate. This whole thread was started by a (made up?) article.



 
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I do find it funny because its not as if any of the SAHM on this thread or any that were talking about are gaining money from it or doing something 'bad'
I do find it frustrating when people choose it as a lifestyle but have to claim benefits or i know one person in particular who pretends shes looking for work so still recieves jobseekers allowance. I also know another girl who i worked with, she never put her partner on the birth certificate and pretended she is single. She honestly recieves everything under the sun because she works 16 hours so between them they have range rovers, a gorgeous house etc etc i was so close to phoning up about it.

So yes if you can afford to be a SAHM and choose that as your lifestyle and you WANT to then good on you. if you want to go back to work then thats brilliant too.
Just dont be one of those that are moaning about the other. The grass isnt always greener. I feel like i can say from both sides because i do normally work (on mat leave) but at the same time i cant imagine what working full time is like with kids just as i dont think being on maternity leave for 9 months is anything like the reality of being a SAHM to multiple aged children.



 
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Old May 6th, 2017, 15:18 PM   53
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I know it was upsetting at the time as I just plucked up the courage to try and go and make some mum friends. I have to admit every time Weirdly meet some one like a new parent at my DD preschool I dread the question and feel embarrassed when I tell them.
Its crazy as I feel I need to justify why I'm at home. I'm getting more questions about when I'm returning to work now that I'm expecting with no#2? Such a funny world we live in there's no right or wrong as every family is different x
Oddly enough I get "oh that's a shame you have to go back to work so soon" and people assuming I am a single parent! - my daughter is 18 months, I don't really consider that to be young for me to be working nowadays.

I live in an elderly neighbourhood. My neighbours are nice, but very old fashioned. I really needed to bite my tongue earlier when they made a comment that it was shocking that my partner was the one bringing in the washing!



 
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Old May 6th, 2017, 15:24 PM   54
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18 months is probably a great age.
I took a part time job when my 2nd was 4 months because i was bored out my mind after having 2 back to back maternity leaves. Its only 3 hours a night though but still nice to get away for a bit haha.
The washing how funny im sure men are prefectly capable!



 
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Old May 6th, 2017, 15:38 PM   55
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I work full time and I take my hat off to sahms. Yes my life is full on and hectic. I have to fit in drop offs /pick ups, and 8hr work day, cleaning, washing, cooking etc. But honestly I cannot be a sahms. I tried it for 8 months and that was enough. Being sold responsably for your child's everything all day every day is hard. Lack of adult convo is hard.

I don't care that other people might not see me as a full time mum. Your opinion doesn't really affect my life. I am a mum all the time, but spending all my time with my kids isn't for me. Kids are hard 😂



 
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Old May 7th, 2017, 04:41 AM   56
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I've done both (currently work full time) and I think mums feel judged no matter which we do or choose. I do find it hard to stay on top of things my son has on at school and homework etc. when working and without a lot of help from family I'd really struggle (but I'm not an organised person!), the ideal for me would be to work part time..so I'd still get the adult time and be able to be there more for my son. I honestly couldn't care less what other mums do though, whatever is best for each individual family...women probably need to be a lot more supportive of each other though, it's tough enough being a mum!



 
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I work full time and I take my hat off to sahms. Yes my life is full on and hectic. I have to fit in drop offs /pick ups, and 8hr work day, cleaning, washing, cooking etc. But honestly I cannot be a sahms. I tried it for 8 months and that was enough. Being sold responsably for your child's everything all day every day is hard. Lack of adult convo is hard.

I don't care that other people might not see me as a full time mum. Your opinion doesn't really affect my life. I am a mum all the time, but spending all my time with my kids isn't for me. Kids are hard 😂
I could have written this word for word! I am a mum to 2 little people and I work full time (accountant) and I am amazed by SAHM & childminders as that job is damn hard!

Don't get me wrong I love spending time with my children and I feel a tonne of Mum guilt daily but I financially cannot do part time or be a SAHM plus I have studied hard for my career (recently qualified). My children know I love them unconditionally, working does not change that

Working Mum or Stay at home Mum we are ALL Full Time Mum's



 
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