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Old May 17th, 2017, 19:42 PM   1
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Reward charts


Anyone use these? What behaviours are you trying to encourage/discourage? Has it worked for you?
Not sure yet if I like the idea but I want to stabilise dd's behaviour at home with regards to not listening, being rude, generally not doing what she's been told to do..



 
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Old May 18th, 2017, 05:05 AM   2
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Hi

It's working for us. I mean no miracles are happening here but it does help to guide my dd and myself.

Not interrupting when others are talking, keeping hands to herself, good listening ears, Sharing and takin turns and bedtime.

These are the main offenders this week. We keep it short. I bought it from the works for £2 came with stickers etc. Every Monday we all sit and discuss her weeks goals and what she would like for a reward once she hits x amount of stars. Every evening we sit in her bedroom and all decide what stars she gets. She loves it and it's a nice calm activity before bed.
It's helps when she's playing up I just need to remind her about her chart. It's helps her visualise when she can see her stars mounting up and helps me feels like I have a bit of a back up if that makes sense. My dd is the same. Give it ago for a month cant hurt, see what you think x



 
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Old May 19th, 2017, 03:25 AM   3
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I don't use them at home yet but I'm a teacher and in my class they are the most powerful thing ever - even just the sentence "you might have to move down your chart" is enough to make most children stop what they are doing. We kept saying with my son we were going to get him one but each time that was enough to make his behaviour improve. Agree with pp though they should be short so they aren't waiting for ever for their reward and I like the idea of praising the positives rather than punishing the negative (although that's not always possible).

There a website called Sparkkebox which has loads of different reward charts on if you want to print one at home



 
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Old May 19th, 2017, 04:46 AM   4
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We did a marble jar from about 4 till 8 (weve just stopped)

So we had a jar and marbles. Positive behaviour results in marbles in, from one to many depending on the good behaviour. negative behaviour results in marbles out, so for example running in the hall, one marble out, rude behaviour 2, etc.

Then a treat is decided when the Jar is empty, when the jar is full the treat is given, I did normally buy them in advance so she could get it as soon as it was full. Or sometimes she would ask for a trip to the cinema whatever. But it was agreed when the jar was empty and agreed, no I pads or whatever lol. We normally set a limit at about £20 and it would normally take her about 5-8 weeks to fill her jar.

I think having that visual thing there all the time really helped.



 
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Old May 19th, 2017, 22:59 PM   5
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No I don't use reward charts. Knowing my kid, it would totally backfire. At least for my oldest. I have no idea how my youngest would do, but it doesn't matter because I'm not using them with my kids. Reward charts don't teach the right things, even if they sometimes get short term results for specific behaviors.



 
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Old May 20th, 2017, 03:14 AM   6
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I suppose it does depend on the child. I agree with the short term result but with consistency everyday you will end up with a positive long term result? ( I hope ). In an ideal world no one would use reward charts but sometimes some children just need that extra help understanding positive behaviour. I love the fact that it's teaching my daughter to have goals. She really appreciates/proud when she gets her reward and it's normally just something small.
She knows she's tried really hard to get it and when she doesn't get a star we encourage her to keep trying, don't give up and helps her to make better choices and boost her self esteem. I can only see the positives in it. X



 
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