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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 12:30 PM   11
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It was good at our last house, there was a communal garden out front and a playground across the road (and the road itself was very quiet, only residents drove down it and very slowly, plus speed bumps to reinforce that slowness) so Maria played out from 4 years old.

Now we don't have roads kids can really play out on as there's no pavements and they're dirt/gravel roads so no good for bikes or scooters but Maria goes for walks and everyone has big gardens so she plays in neighbours' gardens, they play in ours.



 
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Old Oct 18th, 2017, 19:29 PM   12
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This is why we moved housed, we were very lucky to find a new build estate that we love which is full of kids.

DD is 5 and often comes straight in from school gets changed and goes back out to play with her friends, they build dens, ride bikes, make potions in the mud, play with their pets and soo much more.

I think unless your planning on a move soon, then try not to fret about it, your DD will have experiences unlike mine which will be lots of fun for her and I'm sure once your 2nd LO is big enough they'll both be out their together making memories



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 14:43 PM   13
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We are very lucky. There's so many kids out playing around here and they have so many friends. Plenty green spaces and a park at the back of the house which they play in too. On any given day in the summer you'll find up to 15 of them out playing and everyone looks out for one another.
Same here. My daughter started playing out in the last few months and has developed so much socially from it. Her confidence has increased, she has become more streetwise and sensible and all the exercise is great. There are loads of children her age and above and they all look out for one another, it's a great community



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 14:51 PM   14
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I hope you don't mind me posting this on this thread - I've actually got a problem with the kids playing outside my house! There are children out there, I think from about aged 4 to about age 10, and most of the time they are unsupervised. On one occasion one child ran behind my car when I was reversing to catch their ball and thank goodness I was really wary and looking out as if I hadn't been on hyper alert I would have hit them, and then on another occasion one on a bike on the pavement swerved off the kerb into the road right into the path of my husbands van, and it was just luck they didn't get hit. These are just a couple of examples, there are vehicles which tear up our road so I cannot believe they are allowed out there on their own. Anyway when I was a child one of our neighbours died (a child) as she was on her sloped drive laying down on a skateboard, lost control, went out into the road and was run over. So I am a bit over paranoid! I tried to phone the non emergency police to see if they would do a talk on road safety or something, but they wouldn't. Social services wouldn't do anything without me naming specific children and making a referral of them being at risk, which I think would be overboard. Some of the parent sin the area can be a little nasty, and I've already had my car vandalised in the past, so I wouldn't want to do anything that may attract attention! Any ideas? Or am I just being over the top because of what happened?



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 15:53 PM   15
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red head that sounds awful



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 17:39 PM   16
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My 5 year old loves playing outside with his friends, we live on a new build estate and there's lots of families here. There's a group of about 8 kids who always play together now, they are out most days before and after school and most weekends, riding their bikes, playing football etc. I love it and I'm glad he gets to experience that like I did when I was a kid.
However when I move again, I don't want to be on an estate. So we will really miss the sort of community here as I don't think it's the same if you live on a street/main road etc.



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Old Oct 19th, 2017, 21:39 PM   17
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We live in a very small town, there are only about 500 people in the town itself, but about 5000 in the surrounding area on acreages. We have 11 acres only about 1 km from town so we can walk down to the park and community centre, but we don't have any kids that our daughter can go out and play with around our house. It's one of the reasons we decided to have a second child. We have social activities four days a week, on monday mornings we go to a playgroup in a town about 20 min away, tues and thurs we do a workout class that the kids come to (kids play with toys while mom's exercise) and immediately afterwards on both days we go to playgroup at the community centre, and on wednesdays a group of local mom's bring their kids over to our house in the mornings for play time. Almost every afternoon we walk down to the park to play with kids there. So my kids get lots of socialization and play time with other children even though they aren't able to just go outside and play on the street with other kids. Once they are too old for playgroups they will either play with each other, have friends over to our house, or ride their bikes/get driven to friend's houses. It does make me a little sad as I grew up playing out in the street with neighbourhood kids, but I like to look at the opportunities my kids have that those kids don't. For example my kids can go build a fort in the forest in their own backyard, have a giant zip line they can ride across our property, can play with our hobby farm animals that we are getting next summer once we finish building the barn, etc. So their experience of childhood will be different than what I grew up with, but I think they will still have fun.



 
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Old Oct 20th, 2017, 08:12 AM   18
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I live in a major European metropolitan capital city. Non-stop traffic. Not to mention all the bicyclists and pedestrians. And guess what? Kids from an extremely early age are out and about all around the city. Going down the streets bouncing balls, riding their bikes, going to the parks, etc. They're taught early how to navigate, street smarts, and overall common sense.

If you want your kids to go out and play, do so. Don't let fear mongering stop you. In the US (where I'm originally from) in any given year, less than 0.01 percent of kids are kidnapped by anyone other than one of their parents. I assume that statistic is the same (or nearly so) in most other Western countries. I didn't really realize just how much the media terrorizes parents nowadays until I moved to a country where they don't.

Your child will love the freedom and fresh air. You'll love having more time to yourself. And you never know, if another parent sees you letting your child out, they may feel more comfortable letting their child do so. You might just have to be the first in your area.



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Old Oct 22nd, 2017, 18:31 PM   19
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Thanks for all your replies. Does anyone have any suggestions other than moving house to an area that may have children she could play out with.

Organising play dates is a bit of a nightmare, parents work and don't really want to spend the weekend or evenings at our house. Some of my daughters friends at school we don't even know what the parents look like so would be hard to ask those friends over.

The past three days she has only had adults as company, we have not seen one child. We have taken her swimming, played games, watched films and taken the dogs for a walk. I feel really sorry for her that she never has any children to play with.

She does swimming class and gymnastics but they are structured classes so doesn't really play or speak to the other kids.

Advice and suggestions neeeded please.



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Old Oct 23rd, 2017, 21:12 PM   20
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It is hard, I find it hard approaching parents at school too.
Is it her birthday coming up anytime soon? You could arrange a birthday party for her school friends then get to know some of the parents that way and that gives you a way in for inviting school friends over etc.



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