Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 03:39 AM   1
Jessica60
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 117

Playing out front with neighbours


When I was a kid we all use to play out the front with neighbours, marbles on bikes, skateboard etc. I had so much fun. We used to call for each other after school and also go to each other's houses.

I hardly see kids playing out the front anymore.

I really want the same for my five year old, problem is we live down a country lane and the only immediate neighbours are elderly.

I'm just worried she won't experience the fun I did. We had fun in school hols too.

She leaves school, then the after school club has her until 5pm then we are home have dinner watch some tv and bed. School holidays and weekends we are always trying to fill with ideas but struggle. It would be so much easier for her to have friends close. I'm currently pregnant so as yet she has no siblings to play with.

Anyone else think like this?

Does anyone see children playing out front anymore?

Her friends all live five Minutes away and everyone does there own family things weekends.

Any suggestions? I'm even thinking of moving house but even so where to I don't see any kids playing out.



Status: Offline
 
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 07:36 AM   2
george83
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 5,426
We’re really lucky where we live as our house faces onto a green away from a road. My kids are always out with the neighbours playing games, riding their bikes or having massive football matches. The kids age from 16 years right down to 2 but they all mix and play happily. In the summer my ds1 can get home from school pop in to get changed and then spend the whole evening out there playing.

I know it’s not the same but do you have any parks you can go to after school, we get the same parents at the same parks near us all the time which is a good way of getting the kids to play together



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 07:46 AM   3
LoraLoo
Pregnant (Expecting)
BnB Elite
 
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: Cumbria
Posts: 16,084
We live on a private lane and there are no other children but i wouldn't let my 5yr old play out anyways and i dont really see kids of that age playing out around here so i wouldn't worry too much. Most people seem to do play dates now. I do feel sad that my kids havent experienced the childhood i had, but its a different world now, the roads are so much busier too.
If friends are busy at weekends you can still take your LO to parks, soft play etc to socialise with other children.
I dont miss all the falling out and kids in and out of my house that used to happen when i lived on an estate so it definitely has its bonuses too!



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 08:00 AM   4
MindUtopia
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Dorset, UK
Posts: 9,498
I imagine it depends on where you live and age. Mine is 4 and plays outside on her own, but alone. We live really rurally. We're at the end of a private lane and have lots of garden and woodland around us for her to play in. But there are no kids nearby. Our closest neighbours are probably a 1/4 mile away (and they are middle-aged with no kids). Her closest friends are in the next village, maybe a 5-10 minute drive. I played outside both alone and with friends as a kid, but they were all friends who lived on my street (I lived in an estate). We rarely had organised 'playdates' like where friends would come over at a set time from far away and we rarely do that now either. Honestly, we work all week so we want to be together as a family on the weekends and not having friends around. It would be different if they were just outside playing, but it's the formality of it and the organising I just can't do. I am sure some kids still do this, but it means living in an area where there are lots of other young families and that just isn't where we live.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 13:31 PM   5
impatient1
Mum (Mom)
BnB Elite
 
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Canada
Posts: 13,184
When I was a kid we always played outside and there were always other kids playing outside so you didn't gave to go searching far. We have a couple kids who live near us and one set never seem to be outside of their fenced in back yard if at all. That being said our work schedules leave the evenings pretty rushed with dinner and getting ready for bed so they mostly play eith other kids at the sitters or school. On my days off I sometimes invite a school kid over after school, would that be something that is possible?



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 14:32 PM   6
Natasha2605
Mum (Mom)
BnB Elite
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Edinburgh, UK
Posts: 14,591
We are very lucky. There's so many kids out playing around here and they have so many friends. Plenty green spaces and a park at the back of the house which they play in too. On any given day in the summer you'll find up to 15 of them out playing and everyone looks out for one another.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 14:58 PM   7
kirstybumx3
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Midlands
Posts: 5,424
I did the same as a child too and it does make me sad that my boys wonít experience that but the world is so different now compared to then (I say that like it was hundreds of years ago lol, but itís true)
We live moments away from a very busy road and all of our neighbours are elderly so our kids wonít be playing out.
Iíd love to move to an area that has a community of children like that but they arenít easy to find these days I donít think.
Especially not in my area. Where my mum lives, a highly council populated area, all of the children play together in the street, they seem to have lots of fun but also cause lots of trouble, these are the typical parents donít give a damn asbo kids who are outside because the parents cba with them, so I wouldnít want mine playing out in that anyway
Judgement aside, Iím with you that itís really sad but I think Iím happy with my boys going on safe play dates and to the park etc instead.



 
Status: Online
 
Old Oct 17th, 2017, 15:12 PM   8
c1403
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Kent, UK
Posts: 2,727
I wouldn't let mine play outside the front until at least secondary school age. Our road is quiet but you still get cars racing up and down.

However, the girls do play in the garden and the neighbours kids come over or they go over there.

Between us there are 7 children so that is nice (does get annoying when you want your garden for yourself though)

I grew up on an London council estate and we always played out, was different then as everyone got on so well including the parents. Now when I go back no one talks to each other. Sounds harsh but it's because the council homes have all been sold to richer professionals and the families driven out of the area



 
Status: Online
 
Old Oct 18th, 2017, 03:25 AM   9
Jessica60
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 117
A mix of views. Thanks for replies. One minute I feel bad that I work full time and don't get chance to see her then the next minute I feel guilty that she only has me and no kids to play with. I'm pregnant and maybe just over thinking things.



Status: Offline
 
Old Oct 18th, 2017, 10:47 AM   10
auger98
Mum (Mom)
New BnB member
 
Join Date: Oct 2017
Posts: 2
Age 5 is a little young to be playing outside with friends...but yes, as they get older, playing becomes more important! I have found that I have to work at creating play times with other kids, because you are right, most kids just don't play outside with other kids anymore. And if you live on a country road, that is even harder. Have you tried meeting other parents in her class and scheduling play times?



Status: Offline
 
Reply



Bookmarks

Tags
neighbours , playing

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



SEO by vBSEO