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Old May 19th, 2010, 06:37 AM   11
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Old May 19th, 2010, 06:42 AM   12
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Shes gonna do what shes going to do. Better she's protected against pregnancy than getting pregnant at 13 by an irrisponsible man (he is irresponsible in the fact that he's breaking the law and sleeping with a minor) who wont be there in 9 months time when the babys born.

Whilst it does increase the risk of her thinking shes indestructable and catching an STI, I think her mother has done the right(ish) thing - She needs to stress the importance of using condoms for protection and have a big talk with her about how emence having a sexual relationship is.

Teenagers wont be told though at the end of the day.



 
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Old May 19th, 2010, 06:54 AM   13
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the big talk thing is what im worried about her mum has never been the one to talk, when zoe came my mums once and my mum gave her a cuddle zoe said ive never had a cuddle like that before, my mum dosent cuddle me so as you can imagine her mum that kind of person who does things like that.
i dont know if she has had it or not, but i dont want to just butt in and fall out with her too



 
Old May 19th, 2010, 07:11 AM   14
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such a shame to read about such a situation

Is the boyfriend quite grown up or just a immature git ?
Maybe someone could approach him and just be honest about your worries , surely if hes mature he wont sleep with her anyway. Unfortunately nothing is going to stop her having sex but maybe her bloke could realise what hes doing - maybe reporting the relationship to the police would be a good idea.



 
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Old May 19th, 2010, 07:21 AM   15
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if i report ot tpto the police i will loose family plus she will only go and fine another bloke. i havent ment the guy as both my niece and him like in chorley and im in stoke, so their is a fair distance



 
Old May 19th, 2010, 07:33 AM   16
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To be honest, I think putting her on the implant was a wise decision.

Girls are becoming sexually active at a younger age and 13-15 is usually the age where many have sex for the first time. I always said that if there was any indication my daughter was having sex or going that route, I would be putting her on the pill.

Yes, it may seem like you are condoning it and I've thought about that too. However, no matter if a girl is on or off of it, they are going to do it anyhow.

Although I don't agree with a 20 year old man having sex with a 13 year old.



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Old May 20th, 2010, 05:55 AM   17
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To be honest, I think putting her on the implant was a wise decision.

Girls are becoming sexually active at a younger age and 13-15 is usually the age where many have sex for the first time. I always said that if there was any indication my daughter was having sex or going that route, I would be putting her on the pill.

Yes, it may seem like you are condoning it and I've thought about that too. However, no matter if a girl is on or off of it, they are going to do it anyhow.

Although I don't agree with a 20 year old man having sex with a 13 year old.
I totally agree with everything Leeanne has said x



 
Old May 20th, 2010, 06:03 AM   18
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I've only read the first couplde of posts but wow. . .
That must be quite a shock!

When I think about it I started having sex at 14
So although I can understand some people will be shocked by her age, I'm really concered about his age.

I don't want to sound rude but why would a man of that age by having sex with a girl of 13. . . .
it sounds a little werid

As for the implant, it is definately a good thing she has it.
A pregnancy would be mad (especailly since she may have mental problems that you menitioned).
I see what you mean about her mum letting her have it but IMO if she wants to have sex, she will have sex.




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Old May 20th, 2010, 06:11 AM   19
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I do agree with Leeanne, it was wise for her to have the implant if she is sexually active, as wrong as I think 13 year olds having sex is, and I will assume her mother has tried her hardest to stop her from doing it. However having said that, if it was Grace and she was sexually active and that was my only choice as she was going to do it anyway, I would do it (and tell her to use condoms) BUT if it was a 19/20 year old man she was with I would be doing absolutely everything in my power to either stop her from seeing him or reporting him to the police. They're breaking the law and while we can't be naive about the fact that "kids" are out having sex, I would not want my daughter sleeping with a man 7 years her senior when she was physically still a child myself. But each to their own, you can't judge what mother's decide to do with their children



 
Old May 20th, 2010, 06:48 AM   20
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surely this is statutory rape ? and you could report him, without having to leave a name ? or ask the police to leave ure name out of it? ... this is quite shocking and i would actually ground her for about a year! she would not be leaving the house! ... if my youngest sister done this... (she is 13) my family would just NOT allow it... how can the mother have such little control over a 13 year old ? i don't want to sound judgy because she may of tried her best..... at least she has got the implant, but this doesn't mean she wont catch something, and as for the 20 year old! he must be a bit mentally unstable/sick! imo .. sorry x



 
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