My 10 year old son insists on sitting down to wee. I taught him when he was little how to do it standing up but for some reason he won't do it.
Hubs and I have spoken to him about it recently and said that he needs to start doing it and he said he would. He said he had been doing it but when questioned yesterday confessed that he hadn't tried at all.
Then went on to confess that after he's been to the loo he doesn't wash his hands and when he's in the shower, sometimes he doesn't wash. He has said that this is because he's lazy and can't be bothered.
I spoke to him at length again yesterday and explained that in third world countries where they are not fortunate enough to have toilets, baths and soap they can get quite ill and sometimes the babies get ill too from germs that you get when you go to the loo. We have a 14 month old daughter and do not want her to get ill. I have explained that these things are not optional. They are as basis as learning how to eat using a knife and fork and learning to say please and thank you. They are mandatory and he WILL do them.
Now, short of watching him every time he uses the bathroom I'm not entirely sure how I'm going to monitor this situation. So, I've come to the wonderful BnBers to seek advice. Both hubs and I spent most of yesterday just trying to understand why he'd act like this.
You are the first person I have come across that is asking a person to stand up fortaking a piss. Usually most people complain about that their other halfs or kids don't sit down for it.
When I was a kid teenager I was quite reluctant to shower, but it could help if you make him a plan at this doors which tells him when to do what, and if he is doing it on a regular basis then he can get a minor gift like a little toy car or a magazine.
I guess I'm not sure why sitting down to pee would be an issue? I actually dated a guy (several years back) that still did this as an adult is that's how he was taught... but you need to do what you feel is best as his parents. Period.
As for hygeine... not really sure what you can to make him clean while in the shower. You can certainly ask him to wash his hands whenever he's takin a pee etc... my friend had to remind her 10yr old ALL the time as he just "forgets" LOL. I think it's really common to do that age with boys.
Is there maybe something you can buy to make washing hands easier (not that it's at all difficult)- but easier for him to do? Like hand foam or wipes or anti-bacterial gel he can use and rub instead? Not sure what else to recommend.
As for showers- there just may not be much you can do... besides remind him to wash before hand-- but something he'll most likely grow out of when he's older and his pits stink and girls think it's gross haha.
Location: England but I'm Irish and from Northern Ireland
There are things that you can get to put into the toilet, that change colour when hit with pee to encourage boys to aim properly or in this case, maybe to encourage standing up to pee? They might be a bit babyish though I know they had them in the boys toilets in my secondary school! http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...pf_rd_i=468294
About the showering, maybe buy him popular shower gels, so he'll want to use them (Lynx, etc). My brother went through the same problem, not wanting to shower, when he was 10 til about 13. It stopped when he wanted to smell good to impress the girls.
Ive got a 12 year old son dat i STILL stand outside the bathroom door shouting in commands to him to "Wash under ur armpits" and "make sure you have rinsed the soap out of your hair". But I agree with Cassie on this one I started to buy my son the fancy shower gels and stuff and he likes to do it now, he even comes out of the bathroom afterwards and asks me if he smells good.
Its worked for me!!!!
As for the toilet situation....it wouldnt bother me too much that hes still sitting down to go, but again for the hand washing.......I would use the alcohol hand gel if handwashing was a problem, i use it with my boys too.
But these are situations that they eventually grow out of as soon as they start "smelling themselves" and want the girls to start noticing them.
Karkey's suggestion is a good one.... buy him the fancy soaps.... Axe, or whatever. The nice shampoos. They even make loofahs for men. Make it seem as if he gets all the cool, good stuff. Offer them to him and just be like "I know how much you hate showering, so I got these special for you, they're meant for older boys and I doubt anyone at school will use them, but I think you're ready". He'll think he's really lucky!
As for sitting to pee, it's really not so odd! I've dated men who exclusively sat to pee. I wouldn't worry about that too much!
Thanks ladies. One of the reasons I want him to stand up to pee is that when he goes to senior school I want him to be the same as his peers - not to be the only one who has to go into a cubicle to do his stuff every time.
Fancy shower gel and your other ideas are fab though so thanks very much for all your replies - very much appreciated!
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