Is 8 too Young to Attend a Funeral? (Family Friend) - Page 2

RachA · Apr 8th, 2012, 16:01 PM

If theyve asked then I would say yes. Refusing to let them go is almost like making it a taboo subject for them and I don't think that's healthy.
We all gave to deal with death at some point. While he was too young to understand at the time we allowed our son to go to the celebration after the burial. Since then the subject of various family members has come up (we've lost two great granddaddy and one great uncles since DS was about 12months old) and we've spoken openly about how they died and whats happened next etc.

Jemma_x · Apr 9th, 2012, 11:17 AM

I would let them go, i think if they are asking to go then they are old enough to go but i think having a friend there if possible in case they get upset

PipPlus3 · Apr 9th, 2012, 17:47 PM

Thank you to everyone who has replied. I have decided I will be taking them with me, and my LO will be coming to the celebration afterwards too. I also have a friend on standby who will take them out if they can't cope. It's not so much the death and the funeral itself that I was worried over, but I know that this is going to be horrifically hard for my Mum, who hasn't cried yet and this woman was her best friend for 40 years. I didn't know if I would be able to support the children as well as my mum ( sounds so selfish now I have typed it!).

Again, thanks everyone. The advice has put it into perspective.

Mummy2B21 · Apr 11th, 2012, 18:10 PM

I think id let my children go if they asked but like you I'd have to sit them down and explain it all

PipPlus3 · Apr 15th, 2012, 15:23 PM

Well, I took them. It went as well as could be expected, a few tears but some smiles as well. They both did me proud, behaved amazingly and were so, so considerate of others grief. I'm glad they had a chance to say goodbye.

Just wanted to say thanks again for everyone's opinions

katealim · Apr 16th, 2012, 00:08 AM

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Originally Posted by PipPlus3

Well, I took them. It went as well as could be expected, a few tears but some smiles as well. They both did me proud, behaved amazingly and were so, so considerate of others grief. I'm glad they had a chance to say goodbye.

Just wanted to say thanks again for everyone's opinions

So glad to hear that things went well.

Apr 8th, 2012, 16:01 PM	#11
RachA Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 4,146	If theyve asked then I would say yes. Refusing to let them go is almost like making it a taboo subject for them and I don't think that's healthy. We all gave to deal with death at some point. While he was too young to understand at the time we allowed our son to go to the celebration after the burial. Since then the subject of various family members has come up (we've lost two great granddaddy and one great uncles since DS was about 12months old) and we've spoken openly about how they died and whats happened next etc.

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Apr 9th, 2012, 11:17 AM	#12
Jemma_x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 15,045	I would let them go, i think if they are asking to go then they are old enough to go but i think having a friend there if possible in case they get upset

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Apr 9th, 2012, 17:47 PM	#13
PipPlus3 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Midlands, UK Posts: 337	Thank you to everyone who has replied. I have decided I will be taking them with me, and my LO will be coming to the celebration afterwards too. I also have a friend on standby who will take them out if they can't cope. It's not so much the death and the funeral itself that I was worried over, but I know that this is going to be horrifically hard for my Mum, who hasn't cried yet and this woman was her best friend for 40 years. I didn't know if I would be able to support the children as well as my mum ( sounds so selfish now I have typed it!). Again, thanks everyone. The advice has put it into perspective.

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Apr 11th, 2012, 18:10 PM	#14
Mummy2B21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 10,030	I think id let my children go if they asked but like you I'd have to sit them down and explain it all

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Apr 15th, 2012, 15:23 PM	#15
PipPlus3 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Midlands, UK Posts: 337	Well, I took them. It went as well as could be expected, a few tears but some smiles as well. They both did me proud, behaved amazingly and were so, so considerate of others grief. I'm glad they had a chance to say goodbye. Just wanted to say thanks again for everyone's opinions

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