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Old Jun 11th, 2012, 19:38 PM   1
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Are there anyways I can prepare for the pain?


Are there anyways I can prepare for the pain of birth? I hear people saying how horribly painful it is. Since i'm young and this will be my first baby what would you compare the pain to for those of you who have had a baby? and how long will the pain last?



 
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Old Jun 11th, 2012, 22:58 PM   2
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Umm... I can't really think of anything it compares to. The contractions anyhow.. I never felt the "ring of fire" because I got an epidural (which was amazing!) My advice is to stay open to an epidural and to ask for it early if you want one.
The contractions before the epidural and during transition when it quit working on one side were pretty terrible. I told my husband we weren't having any more kids at that point.. lol. It helped during transition to push just ever so slightly, it made me feel like I was able to do something to help the pain. The pain lasts all through labor... so however long that takes (12 hours from start to finish for me, also a FTM, 24 yrs). And really steps it up a notch when you hit transition which is like 8-10 cm or something. No idea how the pushing pain feels. Once I got the epidural fixed I didn't feel a thing! Just a bit of pressure with each contraction and pressure when she was coming out.

For me though I found the postpartum pains worse than labor/birth.. The breast engorgement was the -worst-. I couldn't even sleep in my own bed for days. I just propped myself up with blankets and pillows on the couch so nothing would touch my boobs. I don't know how FF moms get through the engorgement period.. I was seriously considering FF when I got engorged, but then when talking with the LC and my friend who is a nurse (who FF her kids), they told me that it would be worse and last longer if I just waited it out to FF.. but if I BF it would get better right away as the milk would get drained out.. They were right and after being engorged for 5 days, I pulled out a pump (LO had latching problems) and pumped out 10oz of milk.

The swollen lady parts weren't too bad, it was just hard to walk around and sit for a few days, but then got better. The bleeding was just freaking annoying.. it was pretty heavy the first few days and I never felt clean. I had to line the floor in the bathroom with 'puppy potty pads' that we had so that when I got out I didn't leave blood all over. That chilled out after about a week though.

Ooh boy I'm rambling...sorry about that.



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2012, 03:27 AM   3
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I honestly can't think of anything to compare the pain to! My advice would be to stay calm, listen to midwife and concentrate on giving birth. Yes, it bloody hurts but I think a bit of focus will get you to the finish line easier. Once you are holding your baby all pain seems to fizzled away

In the days afterwards I relied heavily on max strength ibruprofen and nice hot baths with lavender oil and tea tree oil in it to aid healing and to help me relax



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2012, 05:06 AM   4
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Honey just think about the little miracle you're going to get at the end of it all! I was induced three weeks early, so I didn't really have a chance to think about hte labour. but to be honest, although it does hurt.. It wasn't nearlly as bad as I'd imagined. You might surprise yourself. x



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Old Jun 12th, 2012, 05:42 AM   5
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Are there anyways I can prepare for the pain of birth? I hear people saying how horribly painful it is. Since i'm young and this will be my first baby what would you compare the pain to for those of you who have had a baby? and how long will the pain last?
Yes!!! There are lots of ways to prepare for birth - and lots of drug-free ways to reduce, if not eliminate the feeling of pain in labour! I've lifted this from another post I've posted this morning...

What was your perception of the pain like?
I didn't have any pain at all... I was aware of the contractions, but never felt any pain at all. It felt more like a sensation of pressure and warmth.

What was your most important tool or strategy for getting yourself through it?
I used Natal Hypnotherapy cds in the leadup to the birth. I used the Home Birth Birth Preparation set of 4 cds. The first cd was general pregnancy relaxation (including reducing common pregnancy bug-bears like morning sickness. I didn't have any problems in pregnancy). Second is Birth Preparation. Third is relaxing birth music, for use during labour, but I didn't! 4th is fast post natal recovery. The basic premise of it is that it is fear in childbirth that leads to the extreme pain experienced by many women. I was amongst the hundreds of women terrified by birth - I even went to my doctor in tears before even TTC because I was so scared of birth. I had a home birth with no pain or pain relief - not even a paracetamol! I also used lavender oil for relaxation in the preparation, but didn't need it during birth. Natal Hypnotherapy gives lots of info about making the right environment to birth in.

Was there anything about the pain that surprised you?
Yes, there wasn't any!

As for how long does the "pain" last - don't forget that it's not continuous! Nature was kind enough to give you a break between contractions!

The best advice I can give is to not read/listen to the "doom-mongers". Studies have shown that the expected level of pain pre-labour is a very good indicator of pain experienced in labour (i.e. if you expect it to be unbearable, it is likely to be experienced as more painful).

If you want some more info on Natal Hypnotherapy, give me a shout. I'm happy to answer any questions!



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Old Jun 13th, 2012, 02:13 AM   6
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The one thing I would say is do NOT panic when you get contractions. I was induced and they came on really strong and fast and I completely panicked! It made them 10xs worse. After a little while I started telling myself that my body was made for this and produces its own endorphines and although it was still painful, it did help.



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2012, 03:19 AM   7
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Labor and Birth scare the holy bejesus out of me. Im afraid of the pain or complications im worried about EVERYTHIING



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Old Jun 13th, 2012, 03:31 AM   8
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Labor and Birth scare the holy bejesus out of me. Im afraid of the pain or complications im worried about EVERYTHIING
At the risk of repeating myself Have a look at Natal Hypnotherapy! As I said yesterday, I was exactly the same! I kid ye not when I say I sat in my docs and bawled, and that was before even beginning TTC! Big hugs though - I DO know how you're feeling.



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Old Jun 13th, 2012, 03:39 AM   9
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Labor and Birth scare the holy bejesus out of me. Im afraid of the pain or complications im worried about EVERYTHIING
It's really not that bad when I think back now to the births I only have happy memories!



 
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Old Jun 13th, 2012, 07:15 AM   10
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I think the best thing to do is to just accept that it will hurt. I'd had such a difficult pregnancy that I just knew I was in for a long and painful labour. Not having high expectations meant I wasn't disappointed!

I had a long 3 day labour with a tare and a cut. It was all very painful and my epidural did not work so I went through it all without pain relief.

However it was all bearable because I had the mindset of acceptance and just getting on with it.

Also I found that I felt pretty good after labor. I was amazed at how quickly the discomfort subsided.

You are a very capable person and you will do it.



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