I had a 3rd degree tear (3c almost 4th degree) with my first daughter.
Was told it was unlikely I'd tear badly again. They were wrong, I had another 3rd degree (3c again) with my second!
I tore in different places each time so I'm like a patchwork quilt down there!
I opted for a section with number 3 and will be having a section again this time.
The worst thing was that with my first I had to go to a hospital out of town as ours was full.
So when I tore they couldn't give me any pain medication because they didn't have my medical records because they never got send over or were lost in transit.
No suppository, no paracetamol. Nothing.
I was sent home 6 hours after surgery and didn't get any strong pain meds until my community midwife came round 36 hours later!
I was young and though it was normal to be in that much pain after labour so I never thought to rung the doctor!
Oh no, that must have been incredibly painful! I'm so sorry. It sounds like a c-section was a wise choice for you. I talked to a doctor about it yesterday and he seemed to think a c-section wouldn't be necessary after a third degree, only a fourth. But he wasn't my usual doctor and I really want to talk to another doctor about it and get a second opinion.
My first I had a couple of internal tears with stitches. 2,3,4,5 and 6 just grazes. Number 7 i tore again but just got away with no stitches.
Im not sure why I tore last time- bAbys head was a smidge bigger and born in her waters (but so were 3 of my others) but I think the midwives werent v encouraging and didn't help me control the pushing either.
I have been thinking about this too lately! I had an emcs with my first and I was determined to have a VBAC with my second, which I achieved, only he turned out to be a forceps delivery which came along with a third degree (3b) tear and an episiotomy. We are going to TTC our third at some point this year and I'm wondering whether to have another VBAC or go for an elective section... I have to say that despite having the tear and the episiotomy my recovery was definitely easier than with the caesarean, so I'm sure another VBAC is probably the way for me. I'm just scared because I have a pretty obvious scar down there and I am worried about having a worse tear next time! I am lucky in that I have healed perfectly from the tear and episiotomy and haven't had any probs with wee or poo, so I don't want to end up having probs if I have another similar tear!
With my first I had a home water birth and a 2nd degree tear, it was quite a simple one and stitched on my sofa she was 8lb12oz and I pushed her out in under twenty minutes which is quite fast for a first.
This time the only thing I want to change is pushing out more gently/slowly, the midwives who were with me were clearly very 'nature take its course' kind of midwives which I understand but I actually think more direction to slow me down would have been better so this time I'd like to be in the pool again but I'm going to instruct the midwife/birth partners to really slow me down and help me breathe, I think it's far more about doing it slowly than how big baby is that matters.
Of course sometimes bodies don't let you do it slowly so we'll see what happens
Best of luck x
With my first I had a second (almost third) degree tear and a few firsts. Recovery was quite sore and she was 8lb10
My son was 9lb11 and I had barely a second degree tear and felt better within a few days.
It was definitely better the second time, plus my labour was faster and easier
This is so encouraging! I had a partial 3rd degree tear with my first (8 lbs 12) and have been worrying about what might happen in the future with an even bigger baby (DH was about 10 lbs and I'm a small lady!). So I'll keep this in mind for reassurance!!
With my first baby I had an episiotomy. They did not tell me they were giving me one and just went up and snipped me. I tore as well. I was really upset afterwards when they told me they did one without consulting.
With my second baby, I did not have an episiotomy. I ended up with one minor labial tear and that's it.
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