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Old Feb 10th, 2017, 15:57 PM   11
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Mine was pretty easy and straight forward. DH and I had then my water broke. Lol I was about 37.5 weeks. Nurse said to come in, but not break the speed limit (basically, it wasn't anything to panic about).

When we got in, I was checked around 7am and was 2cm. I labored on, and by 9:30am I was asking for some type of pain med. I was almost 7cm, and whatever pain narcotic they gave me sucked! It made me dizzy, but didn't even take the edge off. So I got the epidural and it was easy sailing from there. I pushed in 3 different positions: squating with a birthing bar, on my side and on my back. To be honest, on my back was the best! I had a 2nd degree tear internally, which I never felt, nor did I feel the stitches since I had the epidural. And recovery was a breeze. I was up using the bathroom in about 2 hrs after birth (perfect timing to have all our families visit and leave).

It sounds scary, and there is a lot going on. But it's not bad once you're in the middle of it. I was TERRIFIED going into my 3rd tri because labor seems so scary. Not bad at all.

Just wanted to add, I thought about writing a birthing plan, but decided not to. I knew I didn't want to labor in severe pain, and I didn't want an episiotomy. So I made that clear, and that was that. I knew anything can happen (like a csection or emergency). So I went into labor with as much of an open mind as I could. And it all went to plan.



 
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Old Feb 12th, 2017, 14:36 PM   12
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I had baby number 4 this week and all the labours were so different.

Number 1: I was induced at 38 weeks due to obstetric cholestasis with number 1 and it was very slow, very long, very painful and I had an epidural which I regretted as I couldn't feel to push and ended up with a forceps delivery and lots and lots of stitches. It was quite traumatic really. It took 48 hours for the induction to work and then 17 hours from my waters being broken. Recovery seemed to take ages and my stitches were painful for ages.

Number 2: I was induced at 39 weeks due to obstetric cholestasis. Once they'd broken my waters it took 6 hours in total. The contractions were very painful and I had diamorphine which helped a lot. The pushing stage was really quick and not too painful and I felt fine as soon as he was born.

Number 3: I had a sudden and spontaneous labour/birth at 37 weeks as he was in distress. From not knowing I was in labour at all to him being born was 5 minutes! My waters gushed, two MASSIVE contractions then two pushes and he was born. I felt fine afterwards.

Number 4: I had him on Tuesday. I was induced at 37 weeks due to obstetric cholestasis. They broke my waters at 9:15am and I was only 1.5cm dilated. Nothing happened for hours and by 6pm I was only 2.5cm dilated and feeling pretty demoralised. Then it all happened very quickly. Within 2 hours I was fully dilated and he'd been born! The contractions towards the end were very intense and I had gas and air but gave up on that as it made me feel sick and then had no pain relief. The pushing stage was painful but bearable with no pain relief. I felt fine afterwards. The worst thing now is that I must have been clenching my teeth during labour and I have really terrible jaw pain and toothache!!



 
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Old Feb 12th, 2017, 19:10 PM   13
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Hi KittyKat

I'm in hospital in the early stages of induced labour as we speak. I'm here because the contractions are keeping me awake. ;-) But I think your "perfect vision" is perfectly achievable. You might have more pain than you're expecting now or you might not. Either way, if you want a water birth and there aren't any complications dictating otherwise, you can totally do it. I had a water birth with my first. I won't lie, it was very painful, but mostly I think because I wasn't prepared and panicked. Still glad I did it though, the water was wonderful. My second was "on land" in rather chaotic circumstances but much more manageable as I'd practiced hypnobirthing and managed to stay calm. Side note: the key there is PRACTICE. Reading a book once won't help but practicing the relaxation mantras and other techniques daily made a huge difference for me.

Anyway, my point is: yes, keep and open mind and acknowledge that sometimes things are beyond your control but also know that you are absolutely capable of having a natural birth if you want. Changing your mind isn't failure though, it simply means that at the time, something else was the right thing for you.



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Old Feb 12th, 2017, 19:48 PM   14
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Hi KittyKat

I'm in hospital in the early stages of induced labour as we speak. I'm here because the contractions are keeping me awake. ;-) But I think your "perfect vision" is perfectly achievable. You might have more pain than you're expecting now or you might not. Either way, if you want a water birth and there aren't any complications dictating otherwise, you can totally do it. I had a water birth with my first. I won't lie, it was very painful, but mostly I think because I wasn't prepared and panicked. Still glad I did it though, the water was wonderful. My second was "on land" in rather chaotic circumstances but much more manageable as I'd practiced hypnobirthing and managed to stay calm. Side note: the key there is PRACTICE. Reading a book once won't help but practicing the relaxation mantras and other techniques daily made a huge difference for me.

Anyway, my point is: yes, keep and open mind and acknowledge that sometimes things are beyond your control but also know that you are absolutely capable of having a natural birth if you want. Changing your mind isn't failure though, it simply means that at the time, something else was the right thing for you.
Perfectly said!



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2017, 13:31 PM   15
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I had the birth you're envisioning (is that the right word..?) but it's really not as bad as some TV shows depict. Ultimately it all comes down to each individual woman's pain threshold but I don't think I'm super tolerant of pain, yet I found it painful but not excessively horribly painful. I got to the hospital triage at 8cm expecting to be sent home so it could've been worse!



 
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Old Feb 16th, 2017, 03:16 AM   16
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I had the birth you're envisioning (is that the right word..?) but it's really not as bad as some TV shows jdepict. Ultimately it all comes down to each individual woman's pain threshold but I don't think I'm super tolerant of pain, yet I found it painful but not excessively horribly painful. I got to the hospital triage at 8cm expecting to be sent home so it could've been worse!
You see I think it has very little to do with pain threshold, a lot of it is down to circumstances in labour - like position of baby, the surroundings, medical people at your birth etc... to say otherwise can make women feel bad, like they weren't strong enough or they took the 'easy' route

Every woman needs to make their own choices in labour, at that time, you do what you need to get through. Try not to make too many 'plans' beforehand



 
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Old Feb 16th, 2017, 03:45 AM   17
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I had the birth you're envisioning (is that the right word..?) but it's really not as bad as some TV shows jdepict. Ultimately it all comes down to each individual woman's pain threshold but I don't think I'm super tolerant of pain, yet I found it painful but not excessively horribly painful. I got to the hospital triage at 8cm expecting to be sent home so it could've been worse!
You see I think it has very little to do with pain threshold, a lot of it is down to circumstances in labour - like position of baby, the surroundings, medical people at your birth etc... to say otherwise can make women feel bad, like they weren't strong enough or they took the 'easy' route

Every woman needs to make their own choices in labour, at that time, you do what you need to get through. Try not to make too many 'plans' beforehand
I have to agree with you Pink & say that pain threshold has nothing to do with it at all. If every woman's contractions & labour were guaranteed to be the same then yes it would come down to pain threshold but I know women who have handled immense pain & got through but then crumbled in labour & other women who cry over headaches but didn't know what all the fuss of labour was all about.

I think all women should expect the unexpected but hope for the best. Asking for pain relief during labour does not mean you are weak or a failure so don't have any expectation going into it otherwise you are setting yourself up for disappointment. It's better to be pleasantly surprised you got through it unmedicated, after the birth.



 
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Old Feb 18th, 2017, 13:22 PM   18
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Something I would bear in mind - I'm sure you know that many women tear during labour. And also that they are totally unaware that they've torn, it's only afterwards that they are told when they are stitched up.

So, think about how much pain you would need to be in to not notice your vulva (and possibly the underlying muscle too) being ripped open. Labour hurts!



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2017, 15:52 PM   19
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I had a majority labour without meds, just a pool until about 7cm. Looking back now I can say that I probably could have carried out but I was exhausted and probably scared a little.

Labour is painful, no doubts about it but it's also manageable. Also, no one can tell you what it feels like and how you will cope as there are so many variables.

I would say just try to believe in yourself and your body xx



 
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Ah I'm sorry girls for the wrong choice of words 😔 I'm a bit of a muppet at times!



 
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