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Old Mar 3rd, 2017, 11:02 AM   31
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Twag did you have pitocin to be induced?



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2017, 11:07 AM   32
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kittykat - This is my first as well and I am with you on this one regarding how I want to give birth. Is your DH supportive on this method?

That said, to the experienced mommies: is there anything we can do to prepare ourselves other than reading/watching the positive birth stories, taking a class? Or will our bodies just know what to do when the time comes?

Second, My DH doesn't want me to do natural, would you recommend doing the Hypno Class on my own or do I need him on board?

Sorry for hijacking your post Kitty!
Don't take this the wrong way but if you want a natural birth and your dh does not, I highly suggest having a different birth partner, whether it's a family member, close friend, or hiring a doula. This doesn't mean he can't be present, but if you don't have people who are 100% behind you, it's not going to go as well.



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2017, 11:15 AM   33
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Ttc yeh he supports my wishes, he wants me to birth however I want to which is nice, and he wants to be there, you're most definitely not hijacking my thread it's fine don't worry! I'm sorry hubby doesn't support you and I agree if he doesn't want to support you then get a different main birthing partner who shares your wishes



 
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StillPraying - that is a tough one because my family doesn't want me to have a natural birth either so I would likely have to hire a Doula and DH is a little weary about spending the money on a Doula and is all about "doing it ourselves." Also didn't help that my OB said to spend the money on a nice purse instead of getting a Doula and DH was right there and agreed. ugh..

I am thinking of having a meeting with a Doula and hopefully he can see where I am coming from.

And I hate to paint him and my OB like this, both are great. I love my OB and I love my DH. DH is super supportive of everything I do and has been great this entire pregnancy. It is just so weird because with giving birth he thinks he knows everything about it and is really pushing the epidural. Maybe he is scared of me being in pain?



 
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Have you tried having him watch any videos on it?thebbusines of Being Born series was really eye opening. Or maybe have him read some articles? Do you have any friends who would be willing to step in? Also look to see if there are birthing centers in your area. Perhaps if he went to thebhypnobirthing classes with you he might see differently.



 
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Twag did you have pitocin to be induced?
They start you with a prostaglandin pessary so no I never had pitocin



 
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Twag did you have pitocin to be induced?
They start you with a prostaglandin pessary so no I never had pitocin
you are so lucky lol Pitocin was awful in my experience lol



 
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kittykat - This is my first as well and I am with you on this one regarding how I want to give birth. Is your DH supportive on this method?

That said, to the experienced mommies: is there anything we can do to prepare ourselves other than reading/watching the positive birth stories, taking a class? Or will our bodies just know what to do when the time comes?

Second, My DH doesn't want me to do natural, would you recommend doing the Hypno Class on my own or do I need him on board?

Sorry for hijacking your post Kitty!
Answering the bolded part: On one hand yes your body will just know what to do. There have been women in comas who have given birth.
However, your mind is your greatest adversary you have to overcome.
A lifetime of social conditioning that birth is dangerous, scary, painful etc will be acting against you.
This is why I really recommend re-conditioning your thought process around birth while you are pregnant (or even before if possible). Learning to forget all the negative stuff about birth is hard to do but "rewriting" with positive stories makes it easier to let your body do it's thing in labour without the fear holding you back.
If you look into the fear/pain cycle and read on Michel Odent's research into the hormones at play in the birth process you will have a better idea of what I'm talking about.



 
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I would like to preface this by saying I 100% recommend and advocate for registered midwifery care and birth. I will give my perspective as I have had 2 very different labour and birth experiences from first and second babies. I will also say that I didn't want to die never having had a natural birth. Some may say that's odd or funny, or what have you; but to me and my perspective, child bearing, labour and delivery are truly things that are only all and fully a female experience, and not something we should have to numb or drug to not feel or experience (excluding emergencies like sections, obviously).

First child: Waters went at 39+6; given induction medications and received an epidural as well as an episiotomy. Had a hospital birth with doctors and nurses. Birthed my child on my back in a stupid hospital bed, very unnatural all around, and caused me to have to push for just under 2 hours. My daughter's heart rate was undetectable at some point and she had that device placed on her head to better monitor it. Turns out she had finally descended properly. I was hooked up to a machine for an IV drip for antibiotics (group B step+), as well as a fetal monitor due to pitocin and epidural. I had cordage everywhere. I went to 7-8cm before receiving epidural. Yes it hurt but I did not feel like I was dying. It was a very strong, purposeful pain. I felt the very start of contractions coming on, they would peak, and then subside. I was having them every 2-3 minutes before I received the epidural, and I never used the top up button once, so I actually felt the height of contractions during the pushing stage and alerted the nurses. I felt rectal pressure but no pain. In the end, I had second degree amount of stitches. I healed very nicely thankfully. Our daughter was 6.5lbs and 19.5inches.

Second child: Prenatal care, labour and delivery with midwives. I planned to go 100% natural. No gas and air, no nothing. I called the midwife pager at 2:30pm, and delivered our son naturally via water birth at a local hospital at 5:35pm. I was 5cm by the time we got to hospital. I birthed our son on all fours in the water as laying back was ineffective. The contractions were much stronger, but again, very purposeful, and they had a beginning and an end. I felt the ring of fire (and visualized my area on fire interestingly enough, but it was very brief, 30 seconds or less), and the pressure signalling the need to push. I only pushed for 15 minutes or less, and the midwife pressed very firmly on my behind as our son was born. I had a 1st degree tear that would have max required 1 stitch, but was so minor we did not bother as it could (and has) healed on its own. Our son was 8lbs, 1oz, and 20 1/4 inches (so bigger than average). Much better, quicker, and intense labour and delivery experience.



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Adrie I just wanted to comment that it's not odd or funny that you didn't want to die having never experienced natural childbirth. I think society has gone so far away from natural childbirth that most women have no clue what they could be missing out on. Hearing that you were able to experience it after your first experience is very encouraging to me



 
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