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Old Feb 3rd, 2017, 17:25 PM   1
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Labour, what is it really like?


Hello,

This is my first child, and I think I know how I would like to give birth, I have a beautiful vision of me on all fours in a birthing pool leaning over the edge holding onto my hubby. I'm very good with pain usually, and for both my miscarriages I had contractions that I could sleep through. I am fully aware though that it will be much more painful to go through labour.

Im just wondering what real labour is like? I'm going to try and have a completely natural labour, without medicated pain relief just a birthing pool. has anyone done this?



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2017, 13:34 PM   2
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Everyone's experiences are different and some will say its not that bad whilst others will say its horrific.

If you'd asked me after my first baby i would say horrific. After my second it was slightly better but still awful. After baby #3 honestly not too bad, yes it hurt but i was much more able to cope with it this time round. I had gas and air for all three babies, no epidurals.

Have you looked into hypnobirthing?



 
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Old Feb 6th, 2017, 13:44 PM   3
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I had 2 sections then a induced VBA2C. I think they were all fine. My gallbladder hurt worse!



 
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Old Feb 7th, 2017, 13:12 PM   4
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I don't think anyone can give you a definitive answer to this as every labour is different! Mine was horrific however my friend who had her baby a month after me said although it was painful it wasn't anything she couldn't deal with. I only had one thing on my birth plan - no epidural, the thought of it made me feel sick, I was adamant that was the only thing I didn't want. However, 2 hours and 2cm in to it and I begged for one! This time round I'm hoping to go as natural as possible but I'll go with the flow so to speak!

My best advice to you would be go into it with an open mind and take anything you feel you need in that moment to get you through.

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Old Feb 7th, 2017, 15:47 PM   5
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As the PPS have said, it really varies. I always kind of laugh when I hear some people say it feels like "bad period cramps" because my labours felt like being torn apart from the inside out.

You won't be able to sleep through labour pains unless you get an epidural. It is a lovely vision that you have and I think all of us have some idealised view of how labour will go when we are pregnant. My advice would be to keep an open mind and don't be too hung up on any particular scenario. It may go exactly how you want, but then again it may not, and you don't want to feel like you've failed if it doesn't go like your idealised view. Make a loose plan but realise that you may have to or want to deviate from it and that it's okay however your child is born. Labour is only a few hours/days of your life and the real work starts when the baby is born!



 
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Old Feb 7th, 2017, 15:55 PM   6
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Thank you for all your replies, I really appreciate the honesty from you all, and I'll do my best to go in with an open mind!



 
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Old Feb 8th, 2017, 15:16 PM   7
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They really are all so different!

I always say to go in with an open mind, it's good to have an idea but unfortunately complications can arise and it's better when you have prepared for that happening.

My first was absolutely horrible but my second was a breeze in comparison! With my second I had the previous experience of complications so went in prepared for almost anything happening but it was a very easy labour and birth, I only used a TENS machine and warm bath for pain relief whilst I was labouring and some gas and air when pushing, I was asking for drugs but thankfully my midwife saw I was actually coping without so she didn't give me any then as she was maybe going to give in my waters went and my daughter arrived 20 minutes later lol. Take the medication if you really feel you need it, though! Labour is painful, don't deny yourself relief if you need some.

My early contractions felt like more intense period pains but when labour is in full swing it was like having my abdomen put in a vice...



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2017, 06:18 AM   8
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Hello,

This is my first child, and I think I know how I would like to give birth, I have a beautiful vision of me on all fours in a birthing pool leaning over the edge holding onto my hubby. I'm very good with pain usually, and for both my miscarriages I had contractions that I could sleep through. I am fully aware though that it will be much more painful to go through labour.

Im just wondering what real labour is like? I'm going to try and have a completely natural labour, without medicated pain relief just a birthing pool. has anyone done this?
Keep that vision in mind! I think it really helps - even if your experience doesn't quite turn out that way.

I was very relaxed about labour with my first child, and thought I could cope well with pain- but for me it was much more intense than I had expected. It's very difficult to describe but I think 'pain' isn't quite the right description. It's something much more powerful than pain...and the trick is to try not to think of it as pain but as something else...(hypnobirthing is one way to approach this!).

I got to 3cms with just what I would describe as strong period cramps. Then it sped up and I went from 3-fully dilated in 2 hours - so that's partly why I found it so intense I think. I didn't have an epidural, just gas and air and the pool, but I did ask sort of ask for an epidural and declare that I couldn't do it during transition (so was already fully dilated). It does get intense enough that if you know there is something that will take away the pain it becomes too tempting! But I soon forgot about it with the next contraction.

Once I was pushing I found it somewhat easier, having something to do with the contractions rather than just having them happen to do you!


You have to do whatever feels right for you - assuming there are no problems with the baby, a natural birth should be achievable without pain relief, but that doesn't mean you HAVE to do it without. They don't give out medals! I've had people describe calm and wonderful experiences using an epidural, compared to their first where they were distressed and upset by the experience.

These are experiences that will stick with you forever, so it is best to keep as open a mind as possible, and know that you can't always predict what will happen on the day.

This time, I'm going to be having the baby in a midwife led unit, and I'm hoping for a calmer experience, knowing what to expect and that I CAN do it and the pain really doesn't last forever.

Good luck!



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2017, 22:47 PM   9
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My labor was very fast. I went from 0 to full on. From not a single Braxton Hicks to contractions 4 minutes apart after my water broke. We rushed to the hospital and I was admitted an hour later.

My contractions got stronger and stronger and they were all over the place. I had three contractions in a row, then five, then three and so on. My contractions were 2-2.5 minutes long. I went from 1cm to 3cm in an hour then in two more hours I was at 7cm and with 45 minutes ready to push. Anesthesiologist wasn't available until it was too late for me as I couldn't stay still...

I had a beautiful plan that included an epidural and all fours and pool and massage and hubby and I picked out a comfortable position. We had a tens units and snacks and board games, scented candles and a play list... it all went out of the window. I was seriously in pure hell.

My hospital doesnt do gas and air and they give no intravenous pain relief once you're pushing. I had no intention of giving birth with no pain relief. I'm not planning on having a second but if I ever did I would be getting hooked up to an epidural before I change out of my clothes...

Have a plan but be comfortable changing it. I consider my labor traumatic.... I would've loved to have a more serene experience...

Having said that... labor is labor. As long as it's medically safe women have gotten through it with no pain relief for centuries. I agree with PP, once you start pushing it's better but holy cow it's agony once they crown... you can get through anything but there's not a medal at the end of it for doing it with no meds...



 
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Old Feb 9th, 2017, 23:12 PM   10
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Mine personally was traumatic, very long (48hrs) and ended up with an epidural even though I didn't want that at the start. I usually have a good pain threshold too - I sat through 10hrs of getting my whole rib cage, stomach, kidney area tattoo'ed and barely bat an eyelid but intense contractions hour after hour, close together is something different. I tapped out after 6cms and 30-something hours.

Certainly have a plan sweetheart, but be prepared that things may not go to plan as well. This time I will not even think about a plan, I'm just going to cross the bridge when I get to it.



 
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