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Old Apr 28th, 2017, 08:47 AM   1
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How different is the 2nd one *really*?


I had an epidural with my first. They made a mistake by not examining me beforehand, because right after the epidural was in, I was 8cm! And of course my contractions ground to a halt immediately. Had i known I was so far along, I would have kept going without the epidural!

So I (unknowingly) went through most of labour without any pain relief, but have no clue what transition and the ring of fire are like. I'd love to hear from mamas who have had more than one kid vaginally. How was labour different the second time? How was delivery different? I don't know what to expect and am super anxious! My contractions were SO painful with baby #1!



 
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Old Apr 28th, 2017, 16:13 PM   2
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My first was around 18 hours with around an hour of pushing. No pain relief but really struggled at the end. My second was 2 and a half hours pushing for about 2 minutes. No pain relief again but was at home in a pool. My second was much easier and I felt much more in control! Good luck!



 
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Old Apr 29th, 2017, 07:53 AM   3
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I'm pregnant with number two but my first experience was with an epidural and pretty much the opposite of yours. I had mine right away, at 4cm before I even felt a contraction but had it turned off before pushing (the part I was scared of!) I remember it being quite painful at times and at one point I said I didn't want to do this anymore. The ring of fire.. I don't know, this was a long time ago and I wouldn't have called it that but it did feel like a burning sensation to me. Not necessairily more painful, just a different feeling. What I remember the most about it isn't even really a feeling, more of a perception. My entire world became very small, like tunnel vision, and nothing else existed. Anyway, this time I want to try to go pain med free, just to see what it feels like.



 
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Old Apr 29th, 2017, 08:52 AM   4
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My first was induced at 40 plus 5 days. They used the drip to speed contractions and broke my waters. From breaking waters it was 8.5 hours to his birth. I laboured with gas and air till it was apparent I needed assistance. I was taken to theatre as it was thought I may need a c- section but he was born vaginally with forceps...... I had a spinal. He was 10lb 7 though and I would never have birthed him without help.

My second was born at 39 weeks. Contractions started at home and I thought it was a tummy bug at first. I went to hospital at 6am was 7cm dilated then and he was born at 7.30am, 8 minutes after waters broke spontaneously. Gas and air used. I didn't feel the ring of fire at all, maybe first baby paved the way lol...... In fact he was born so quickly I was in shock and wouldn't hold him. I gave birth on all fours and that definitely helped me with the pain. He was 8lb 3.5 ounces.

Both labours painful of course, but second was much easier.



 
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Old Apr 30th, 2017, 12:52 PM   5
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Thanks, ladies. I'm hoping this one is easier for me as well. I've heard that some subsequent deliveries can be more painful because things happen faster.



 
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Old Apr 30th, 2017, 13:34 PM   6
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Way calmer and I was far more confident with #2. I went into labour myself let my body take over completely. I gave birth kneeling over the back of the bed. Barely needed gas and air. Picked him up myself and fed immediately. Wonderful experience. I felt normal right away, no tearing just a little period and spotting like bleeding for 10 days. Wanted to do it all over again! hope I have another good experience this time!

I've never felt the ring of fire but I did yelp out with #3, he came out in one movement (midwife had left the room) which felt rather intense. He was my smallest as well (probably just as well) I didn't tear though thankfully!



 
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Old May 1st, 2017, 08:39 AM   7
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My first was complicated, distressed baby, I had an infection, my labour was 38 hours and just over an hour of that was pushing, I was ill, in lots of pain and high off pain relief. He was delivered via forceps and I had an episiotomy.

My second was 9 hours total, 8 minutes pushing. I managed with a TENS machine, warm bath and a small amount of gas and air when pushing. The pain was about the same but I was much more in control and much more confident.

So for me the second was waaaaay better!



 
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For those of you who have gone into labour spontaneously, did your second baby come earlier than their EDD? With my first, I went into labour the day after my EDD.



 
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For those of you who have gone into labour spontaneously, did your second baby come earlier than their EDD? With my first, I went into labour the day after my EDD.
He came one week early. First was 6 days late



 
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Old May 2nd, 2017, 11:42 AM   10
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For those of you who have gone into labour spontaneously, did your second baby come earlier than their EDD? With my first, I went into labour the day after my EDD.
My first I went into labour on my due date and he arrived at 40+1 and with my second I went into labour at 39+3 and she arrived at 39+4.



 
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