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Old Oct 5th, 2017, 13:04 PM   1
littlepeanut1
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Terrified of birth after episiotomy with no pain relief


As the title says I'm pregnant with no2 and my anxiety about the birth is slowly building.

With my son I went into labour early and made it to 10cm without my waters bursting. Up until this point labour was very much bareable. However once the midwife burst my waters all hell broke loose.

My waters were burst at 8.30pm and my son was born at 9.10pm however for that 40 minutes I honestly thought I was dying. I was given gas an air but my son was stuck so they hit the emergency button and gave me an episiotomy without pain relief and tried to place the kiwi cup on his head. Then realised they hadn't cut enough and cut again luckily the cup went on this time and they quite literally dragged him out.

Everything after this is a bit of a blur however the stitching up process took a very long time with pain relief injections being delivered locally 😭.

This has left me terrified for this second baby, I need to also add my son only weighed 5lb 10.

Has anyone had any positive experiences the second time round?

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Old Oct 5th, 2017, 17:06 PM   2
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Oh my you poor thing! I had an episiotomy with my first too but thankfully had a local first. He was delivered via foreceps in a huge rush as I had an infection and was very poorly. I was pretty terrified with my second, expected it all to go wrong but she was pushed out with no assistance in 8 minutes.



 
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Old Oct 6th, 2017, 01:45 AM   3
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You poor thing. My two birth experiences were very different. First lasted 24 hours, pushing for 2 hours, had episiotomy and almost ventouse suction but got him out just in time. Second - labour lasted about 3.5 hours and I was pushing for 5-10 minutes. No pain relief and no tearing.

So there is every chance your second one will go smoothly.



 
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Old Oct 6th, 2017, 14:58 PM   4
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I can't believe they'd give an episiotomy without pain relief that's just utterly barbaric! ☹️



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2017, 13:40 PM   5
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Just wantes to say hugs.. i have also been given a cut and forceps delivery whilst I could feel it and I'm currently fighting delivery options for number 3. Birth one was also assisted which is what makes me think this one will be too.. but generally most people go on to have a normal second delivery. My second was over 10lb so might not of helped matters.



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2017, 16:23 PM   6
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Most of the time subsequent babies are much easier! My first was 56 hours, occiput posterior brow, followed by a significant postpartum hemorrhage. My second was 2.5 hours from start to finish, easy, no complications! This is usually the pattern I see for subsequent babies.

And episiotomies are only ever cut without anaesthetic first in the event of an emergency where there is no time. I'm so sorry that happened to you, it must have been awful.



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2017, 16:39 PM   7
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Most of the time subsequent babies are much easier! My first was 56 hours, occiput posterior brow, followed by a significant postpartum hemorrhage. My second was 2.5 hours from start to finish, easy, no complications! This is usually the pattern I see for subsequent babies.

And episiotomies are only ever cut without anaesthetic first in the event of an emergency where there is no time. I'm so sorry that happened to you, it must have been awful.
Yep there was just no time his heart rate had dropped considerably and I was having a mare. They were kind enough to give me a local for the stitches though fingers crossed there is no need for a cut this time. But I think my lesson has been learned - if my waters don't break on their own I won't be waiting until 10cm this time before having them broke for me and I plan on trying out all the pain relief they have to offer lol

Thank you for all the replies!



 
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Old Oct 9th, 2017, 16:45 PM   8
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There's no harm in waiting for your membranes to rupture spontaneously. You didn't do anything wrong, sometimes baby goes into distress. It isn't likely to repeat. And there is USUALLY enough time to give a local anaesthetic! I've seen a good number of episiotomies in my day (and have performed ONE myself) and there has, so far, always been enough time to give a local anaesthetic.



 
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Old Oct 11th, 2017, 06:34 AM   9
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I had an episiotomy with number 1. I have had 2 more babies since then and never needed another. I had a second degree tear with number 2 and just a graze with number 3. That one horrible experience wont dictate how your next labour and birth will be so try not to fret over it x



 
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