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Old Dec 21st, 2017, 11:39 AM   11
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My family and MIL came to visit me in the hospital after giving birth and I didn't mind at all as it had been planned and they all said if I didn't want visitors then just to let them know.
I have heard of people who don't want people in though and they just get a swarm of visitors descending on them and being quite intrusive. I think visitors are OK on the patient's say so and to be curtious and not outstay their welcome!



 
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Old Dec 21st, 2017, 14:33 PM   12
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My family and MIL came to visit me in the hospital after giving birth and I didn't mind at all as it had been planned and they all said if I didn't want visitors then just to let them know.
I have heard of people who don't want people in though and they just get a swarm of visitors descending on them and being quite intrusive. I think visitors are OK on the patient's say so and to be curtious and not outstay their welcome!
Completely agree



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2017, 08:55 AM   13
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People should respect what the mother wants and not get butt-hurt about it. People with a sensible brain and heart will understand. Also, make your husband tell people no if you’re uncomfortable. And if he whines about it, remind him what all you’ve been through.

I also think this is true for the first weeks of life at home. People mean well, but if you’re not ready, it’s miserable. I had some postpartum depression going on after my kids, so seeing people wasn’t really my thing. My mom knew I was hanging on by a thread. She would bring me food and leave. I love her for that.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2018, 06:47 AM   14
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my brother and sis in law came to the hospital to see me as did my friend which was nice as I was in there for 4 days after so was a bit bored! But when I got home I didn't want anyone around as I just needed some time to get used to things. I think I had maybe 4/5 people in the first 2-3 weeks which was fine. It was mid winter and snow everywhere so suited me to stay in! This time around I will be out and about much quicker though as I already have 1 that needs school run/entertaining so once hubby is back at work I guess I will be out and about!

It's made me much more conscious of other peoples babies though, if a friend has a baby I would pop round with a ready made meal and stay half an hour and disappear, the last thing you want is people hanging around for hours!



 
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Old Jan 22nd, 2018, 21:33 PM   15
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Agreed. I love having visitors, but every time they come I couldn’t wait to get them or the door. I’m an anxious person and always worried about baby getting hungry and having to try to feed discretely or needing to get up to pee and leaking everywhere or peoplencoming over during the “torpedo boob” (engorgement phase).

My MIL begged to let one of her friends come see us in the hospital because she v”cares so much about us”. I fought tooth and nail and said nope, she won’t be visiting.



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Old Jan 23rd, 2018, 10:25 AM   16
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Visitors are fine as long as they’re planned visitors, there are nothing worse than unplanned guests - newborn or no newborn.

However, all visitors must bring a balloon!



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2018, 17:40 PM   17
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With our first we lived out of state, so everyone had to travel to come see us, which gave us about a day as a new family. We're back in our home state now and I definitely want to have a full day with my DH and newborn. Give me a chance to begin breastfeeding and rest. Between our families, they will be chomping at the bits to see our little one and with good reason. But at the same time, families need to be respectful if the new parents don't want any visitors for a few days.



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2018, 17:41 PM   18
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Visitors are fine as long as they’re planned visitors, there are nothing worse than unplanned guests - newborn or no newborn.

However, all visitors must bring a balloon!
There's nothing more I dislike then an unplanned visitor! the worst!



 
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Old Apr 1st, 2018, 18:01 PM   19
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I hate visitors at the best of times, never mind after just giving birth. I'm more of a visiting other people's houses kind of person haha.

In all honesty our family are generally understanding. I don't like those family members though who want to come and cuddle baby even though you would never see them any other time! People like that are put on a waiting list, especially since when I did it with my daughter, my auntie came with a cold and passed it to DD who was 6 weeks old at the time.

We've said this time were not seeing anyone really, DH has his 2wk paternity and my DD will be settling into having a new person in the house. We will be going seeing people when we are ready so that we can just leave whenever (both families have a habit of staying for hours at a time!)



 
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Old Apr 1st, 2018, 18:13 PM   20
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I am just newly pregnant, but I already know that I want all kinds of visitors! ALL OF THEM
BUT........NOBODY is getting to hold my baby... NOBODY.



 
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