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Old Dec 21st, 2017, 12:39 PM   11
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My family and MIL came to visit me in the hospital after giving birth and I didn't mind at all as it had been planned and they all said if I didn't want visitors then just to let them know.
I have heard of people who don't want people in though and they just get a swarm of visitors descending on them and being quite intrusive. I think visitors are OK on the patient's say so and to be curtious and not outstay their welcome!



 
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Old Dec 21st, 2017, 15:33 PM   12
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My family and MIL came to visit me in the hospital after giving birth and I didn't mind at all as it had been planned and they all said if I didn't want visitors then just to let them know.
I have heard of people who don't want people in though and they just get a swarm of visitors descending on them and being quite intrusive. I think visitors are OK on the patient's say so and to be curtious and not outstay their welcome!
Completely agree



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2017, 09:55 AM   13
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People should respect what the mother wants and not get butt-hurt about it. People with a sensible brain and heart will understand. Also, make your husband tell people no if you’re uncomfortable. And if he whines about it, remind him what all you’ve been through.

I also think this is true for the first weeks of life at home. People mean well, but if you’re not ready, it’s miserable. I had some postpartum depression going on after my kids, so seeing people wasn’t really my thing. My mom knew I was hanging on by a thread. She would bring me food and leave. I love her for that.



 
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Old Jan 3rd, 2018, 07:47 AM   14
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my brother and sis in law came to the hospital to see me as did my friend which was nice as I was in there for 4 days after so was a bit bored! But when I got home I didn't want anyone around as I just needed some time to get used to things. I think I had maybe 4/5 people in the first 2-3 weeks which was fine. It was mid winter and snow everywhere so suited me to stay in! This time around I will be out and about much quicker though as I already have 1 that needs school run/entertaining so once hubby is back at work I guess I will be out and about!

It's made me much more conscious of other peoples babies though, if a friend has a baby I would pop round with a ready made meal and stay half an hour and disappear, the last thing you want is people hanging around for hours!



 
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Agreed. I love having visitors, but every time they come I couldn’t wait to get them or the door. I’m an anxious person and always worried about baby getting hungry and having to try to feed discretely or needing to get up to pee and leaking everywhere or peoplencoming over during the “torpedo boob” (engorgement phase).

My MIL begged to let one of her friends come see us in the hospital because she v”cares so much about us”. I fought tooth and nail and said nope, she won’t be visiting.



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Visitors are fine as long as they’re planned visitors, there are nothing worse than unplanned guests - newborn or no newborn.

However, all visitors must bring a balloon!



 
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