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Old Oct 20th, 2017, 05:59 AM   1
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Seriously, Don't Visit Me In The Hospital After I Give Birth

Instead of dealing with visitors after I give birth, I should be able to sleep and be alone with the person that I spent nine months growing.

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From a Mum third time round.

So what do you think?

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Old Oct 23rd, 2017, 14:41 PM   2
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I totally agree . Those first few days you are sore either down below or from a section . Your milk comes in , you're having after pains , you're trying to get baby into some sort of feeding routine. Your tearful and leaking from more places than you'd care to admit . On top of thst A row of outstretched arms from relatives wanting to hug your precious baby is just too much to cope with .

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Old Oct 23rd, 2017, 16:01 PM   3
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Other than hubby and the kids, I refuse to have visitors for 24 hours. Grandparents and our siblings in the first week only then everyone else by appointment. I don't deal with drop in visitors with a baby even if it's family. I've just had a baby so they can ring and see if it's a good time first!

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Old Oct 23rd, 2017, 16:57 PM   4
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I would appreciate the sentiment of wanting to visit, with the disclaimer they want to give me space. If no one wanted to visit me I'd be sad haha.

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Old Oct 25th, 2017, 14:03 PM   5
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Totally agree! Last thing I wanted on my last 2 were visitors-didn't stop them coming tho!hoping this time around to be left alone x

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Old Oct 25th, 2017, 16:41 PM   6
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I dont mind visitors. Day after Nellie was born we were out for a pub lunch ha, with 6 kids, life doesnt pause for us so visitors makes no odds! Nobody should ever feel they should have to have visitors though, Mums decision every time

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Old Dec 7th, 2017, 18:39 PM   7
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I think if it's visitors who care about you and support you, it's fine. People who just come nosing, no. But no one should have visitors if they don't want to. I was gutted my mum couldn't come as she was ill when I gave birth (I was equally grateful she had the common sense and wait till she was better before she came).

Old Dec 12th, 2017, 10:08 AM   8
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I agree unless you ask for visitors it's nice to able to take them in and rest. With my first my sister and her partner came. Absolutely can't complain as I was totally up for a hours visit and I was excited to show her off. But I started to feel rubbish whilst they were sat around the bed. I remember feeling sickly and drained and my body was screaming for sleep. I had been awake for the best part of 48 hours as I had a snorer in the ward the first night followed by labour the next night. They used to keep you in hospital a few days in the UK but now it's usually one night if that and off you go home. Once your home everybody wants to come over and you spend the first week having to get up dressed and make drinks for visitors. Then I remember day 3 having horrible night sweats eurghhh

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Old Dec 15th, 2017, 12:22 PM   9
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Whilst I’m in the hospital the only people I want to visit are my mum and dad everyone else can wait til I get home. I think it’s totally up to the mum who she wants there and when, you never get those early days back and so it’s important you do it on your terms and you are comfortable with it whatever you decide.

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Old Dec 21st, 2017, 09:56 AM   10
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Yeah....I remember with my first, I almost cried when my husband said his family was there. I was exhausted and didn't want to have to make small talk and navigate through the "how was labor? how do you feel? How long was it?" questions. Also. Handing over my brand new precious baby that I just spent 9 nine months waiting for made me want to freak out. Like...don't worry, I'll just sit here and watch you breath on my newborn. I'll sit righhhhht here and wait for you to give my baby back. Take your time. LOL. ARRRRGHHH! However, I was SO EXCITED when my mom and dad arrived and couldn't wait for them to hold her. I felt bad because I know my hubby was not pleased I was so excited for them but not his parents. Am I horrible?!

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