Question for Moms-If you could go back in time and give yourself 1 piece of advice? - Page 3

Kage76 · Mar 26th, 2012, 08:08 AM

Not to get hung up on an ideal birth experience or breast feeding experience. Next one im going to give BFing a go but i am not going to put myself through hell and push the envelope of PND to give my baby breast milk. If it works great- if it doesn't well thats more than ok too.

CatandKitten · Mar 26th, 2012, 18:43 PM

Do perineal massage!

bumphenders · Mar 27th, 2012, 08:41 AM

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Jayneypops · Mar 27th, 2012, 08:45 AM

Thank you all for your replies, its really interesting - and useful!!

I feel confident that i will be able to stick to my guns when the times comes and wont let myself be 'led' by medical staff. I want as natural a birth as possible at home, and fingers crossed thats what Ill get! :-)

Scuba · Mar 28th, 2012, 05:13 AM

I'd hire a doula if funds had allowed!! My midwife was fantastic but everytime she left my side I started to panic and couldn't cope! With a doula I'd have had that constant knowledge and reassurance - my hubby was there and tried his best but comparatively I needed my midwife more than him for reassurance!xx

cupcakemomma · Apr 2nd, 2012, 15:34 PM

Don't care about what other people think. I applaud you for wanting to go all natural, but if you end up needing pain meds, please don't beat yourself up over it.

I am a very easy-going people-pleaser in life, generally. But I have some family members who made it obvious that they would think less of me for not being an 'All Natural' type mom. But you know what? I choose not to look down on myself for getting an induction, or an epidural, or using disposable diapers instead of cloth. I have a healthy happy baby, and had a fairly pleasant birthing experience.

That's what I would tell myself

cupcakepie · Apr 4th, 2012, 09:51 AM

Not to worry as much!!!

Not all labours are bad... Go into with an open mind and relax as much as you can!

It is a truly amazing experience and nothing compares to the feeling... one minute your pushing and the next you have your baby in your arms!!!

lozzy21 · Apr 5th, 2012, 02:48 AM

I'd tell my self to not get on that bed, don't let them monitor you constantly, don't let them put the drip up and don't listen to them when they told me to hold my breath when i was pushing!

Baby France · Apr 6th, 2012, 01:59 AM

As some one said, try to remain as calm as possible and be relaxed and 'open' to the contractions.

My second labour was so much easier and faster than my first. I was in control and accepted it.

Don't listen to negative horror stories.

Although....I LOVED labour with both of mine. I felt very empowered and a bit like a superwoman after I'd given birth. It was a very very positive experience for me, it did hurt (no surprise eh!) but I just really enjoyed that final stage of pregnancy (I hope that makes sense).

XJessicaX · Apr 7th, 2012, 04:42 AM

To not presume just because I had the easiest pregnancy that I would also just 'pop' a baby out easily too. It was a huge shock.

To sleep well in the last few weeks of pregnancy and to NOT get up early (typical) the day before I went into labour to tidy up the house.

To SCREAM at the midwives that I was in agony and to force them to admit me. Out of pride I remained calm and this was deceiving.

To not want a baby earlier than the 40 weeks! I was sulking as one of my friends had hers 2 weeks early.......I had my LO a week early and that week was horrid (LO needed UV light therapy due to jaundice) and I just wish that she had stayed inside!

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Jayneypops Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Worcestershire, UK Posts: 538	Thank you all for your replies, its really interesting - and useful!! I feel confident that i will be able to stick to my guns when the times comes and wont let myself be 'led' by medical staff. I want as natural a birth as possible at home, and fingers crossed thats what Ill get! :-)

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Mar 28th, 2012, 05:13 AM	#25
Scuba Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 1,908	I'd hire a doula if funds had allowed!! My midwife was fantastic but everytime she left my side I started to panic and couldn't cope! With a doula I'd have had that constant knowledge and reassurance - my hubby was there and tried his best but comparatively I needed my midwife more than him for reassurance!xx

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 15:34 PM	#26
cupcakemomma Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Michigan Posts: 789	Don't care about what other people think. I applaud you for wanting to go all natural, but if you end up needing pain meds, please don't beat yourself up over it. I am a very easy-going people-pleaser in life, generally. But I have some family members who made it obvious that they would think less of me for not being an 'All Natural' type mom. But you know what? I choose not to look down on myself for getting an induction, or an epidural, or using disposable diapers instead of cloth. I have a healthy happy baby, and had a fairly pleasant birthing experience. That's what I would tell myself

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cupcakepie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 431	Not to worry as much!!! Not all labours are bad... Go into with an open mind and relax as much as you can! It is a truly amazing experience and nothing compares to the feeling... one minute your pushing and the next you have your baby in your arms!!!

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Apr 5th, 2012, 02:48 AM	#28
lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 23,618	I'd tell my self to not get on that bed, don't let them monitor you constantly, don't let them put the drip up and don't listen to them when they told me to hold my breath when i was pushing!

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Apr 6th, 2012, 01:59 AM	#29
Baby France Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Cuckoo Land! Posts: 9,660	As some one said, try to remain as calm as possible and be relaxed and 'open' to the contractions. My second labour was so much easier and faster than my first. I was in control and accepted it. Don't listen to negative horror stories. Although....I LOVED labour with both of mine. I felt very empowered and a bit like a superwoman after I'd given birth. It was a very very positive experience for me, it did hurt (no surprise eh!) but I just really enjoyed that final stage of pregnancy (I hope that makes sense).

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Apr 7th, 2012, 04:42 AM	#30
XJessicaX Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Cambridgshire UK Posts: 8,979	To not presume just because I had the easiest pregnancy that I would also just 'pop' a baby out easily too. It was a huge shock. To sleep well in the last few weeks of pregnancy and to NOT get up early (typical) the day before I went into labour to tidy up the house. To SCREAM at the midwives that I was in agony and to force them to admit me. Out of pride I remained calm and this was deceiving. To not want a baby earlier than the 40 weeks! I was sulking as one of my friends had hers 2 weeks early.......I had my LO a week early and that week was horrid (LO needed UV light therapy due to jaundice) and I just wish that she had stayed inside!

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