Would you take your 3 year old with you to hospital?
So since our child care fell through for watching my 3 year old son I have decided to take him with us to the hospital when I give birth. I am actually looking forwards to it and I think it will be special for the 2 siblings. My hospital is totally ok with it and I think if I pack toys and snacks my little one will be ok too.
Has anybody ever had to do this? How did it work out?
personally, I considered having my 3 year old daughter in the room, but as it is, she is soooo very interested in my body as is. I could see her talking about the birth for ever. Like how her sister came out of my crotch. Just the other day we were in line at the store and she started talking to the people behind us about how my boobs were huge and such.
But i don't think she'd get scared or anything. But I just don't want to have to have her talking about the details publicly like I know she would
I wouldn't. What if there is an emergency? What if you have to have a CS? What if she doesn't cope well with it and wants to go home? In either of those scenarios, your birth partner would have to look after her and you would be left on your own. Even if everything goes normally, it could take a while and a 3 year old up all night in the hospital, even with toys and snacks, might not be so easy to deal with while you are trying to give birth.
I'm not sure how it'd work with a hospital birth, but I'm hoping for a homebirth and am more than happy for my 3 year old to be there, so long as I am coping OK.
So long as the hospital are OK with it, and you have toys and distractions, then I don't see a huge problem. But I'd be a little bit concerned that you'd have to 'share' your birth partner as they'd no doubt have to keep an eye on LO and his needs?
A few months ago, I would have said no way. However, my second birth ended up being an unplanned homebirth with no doctor or midwife, so my daughter was present at the birth.
I was surprised that she took it all in stride and was not scared. How did you handle your son's labour? I only ask as I became extremely internalized and went silent in both labours and I'd think that if I was a more vocal labourer it would have stressed my daughter more. We got a few weird looks in the following weeks though as she would grab her legs behind her kness, crouch forward, and waddle (that's how mummy walked to the bathroom as DS was crowning!) down the supermarket aisle.
I'd suggest labouring at home as long as you can though to keep him in home settings longer and limits time in hospital. Just my 2c. I'm sure you (and partner and son) will do great!
When my dd was born, her brother was 4, and I took him to the hospital with us. We sat and watched cartoons, read books, etc while in labor, then when I moved to the delivery room, the nurses kept on eye on my son in the labor room. Then I took both my 10yr and 6yr to the hospital when my younger son was born.
It would be a big no no for me too. I would hate for my ds to see me in pain and I know he would be too little to understand what is happening. I think it would upset him and from a totally selfish point of view, I'd have to share dh's attention too (least of my concerns but still a concern).
I'm impressed that your hospital allows it, in this country they generally don't. My son was asleep upstairs when my daughter was born, but for any future home births I hope the children will be awake to see their sibling being born. Hope it goes smoothly for you.
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